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Friday, 27 November 2015

Darling, I'm Going To Have To Cancel - Sound Familiar?

Is there anything more annoying than trying to arrange an event and having people drop out at the last minute?

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I don't think you'll be needing all that party food
Anyone who has organised a children's birthday party will know EXACTLY what I'm talking about.


Yes, they say they will be there and then whilst you're frantically stuffing party bags you'll receive the text.

Little Jimmy's much missed aunt from Atlantis has just turned up with an unfathomable chill and the entire family is in quarantine for the next fortnight - but DO have a lovely time.

But, according to mint makers Mentos, the average Brit makes 104 social arrangements every year – but will only actually turn up to half of them.

Mentos polled 2000 Brits in their quest to encourage people to make the first step to make more friends, especially as Christmas approaches. Presumably having minty fresh breath will help with this.

One in three Brits admit that they say “yes” to every invite - whether they intend to go or not.

The majority of Brits (49 percent) claimed they are usually “too tired” to go out – with a further 36 percent admitting they would simply “rather stay in”. A staggering one in ten (7 percent) claimed they would avoid a night out if their “favourite TV programme was on”. And it would appear honesty is not the best policy for the majority of us – with almost 60 percent claiming it is “easier to make an excuse” to get out of something.

Topping the list of excuses was “sickness” – with 60 percent of Brits saying they regularly use illness as a way out of an arrangement.

Other excuses included “I double booked” (20 percent), “I thought it was a different day” (18 percent) and “the children are poorly” (15 percent).

One in ten Brits have even wheeled out the old ‘I’m waiting for a delivery” line.

The ease at which we are now able to cancel was revealed as the main reason for the “cancellation nation” – with 80 percent claiming it is easier to cancel in this day and age because of email, text and messaging apps.

The study also found we are most likely to blow out work colleagues (54 percent), with friends (28 percent) next in line.

Psychologist Dr Linda Papadopolous says, “What we all have to remember is that stepping out of our comfort zone and making fresh connections is good for our physical and mental well-being. We all need to make the time to say yes because the simple act of getting out and connecting with new, and old friends is so important.”

It also emerged around one in three of us (30 percent) will happily say yes to anything to avoid hurting friends’ feelings.

Fortunately though the report did reveal around six out of ten (62 percent) do feel guilty when they cancel.

Overall the stats show that of the 104 social engagements we agree to each year, we only make 52.

Three percent said they have even cancelled on their other half.

Text is the preferred method of cancellation (49 percent).

I'd love to see you all up the Ferret & Wood Fettler for a swift Christmas drink but I'm afraid I'm waiting in for a delivery.

Further information: Mentos candy is the number two candy brand in the world with four million UK customers enjoying close to 100 million rolls a year. www.Mentos.co.uk / facebook.com/mentos.

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Shakespeare's "Kitchen" Discovered During Archaeological Dig

As an English graduate, I am passionate about preserving the works of our great writers and the teaching of these and the corresponding history of the time in our schools.

2016 will be the 400th anniversary of the death of William Shakespeare, so I was interested to read that an historic find has been unveiled during a dig at Shakespeare’s family home, New Place, in Stratford-Upon-Avon.

The Shakespeare Birthplace Trust has today announced that significant new findings have been unearthed during an archaeological dig, led by Staffordshire University’s Centre of Archaeology, at its ambitious New Place project.

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What New Place might have looked like

New Place was Shakespeare’s family home at the height of his career for almost two decades and the latest discoveries include the site of Shakespeare’s ‘kitchen’ including the great dramatist’s ‘oven’ and ‘fridge’.

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Hearth & Cold Store
In addition to identifying Shakespeare’s ‘kitchen’, the dig has also helped establish the size of New Place. This has enabled the Shakespeare Birthplace Trust to commission new evidence-based drawings of New Place, which depict an accurate version of how the house would have looked during Shakespeare’s ownership.

Shakespeare’s New Place was the largest single residence in the borough of Stratford-Upon-Avon, and was purchased for the considerable sum of £120 in 1597 (a Stratford school teacher at this time would have earned about £20 per annum). It had an impressive frontage, a Great Chamber and Gallery, over 20 rooms and 10 fireplaces.

The ‘kitchen’ not only had the ‘oven’ (or fire hearth) and ‘fridge’ (or cold storage pit), but the team also found evidence of the brew house where small beer was made (drunk instead of unsafe water) and where pickling and salting took place.

Fragments of plates, cups and other cookware were also found. Facsimiles of the cookware will be available for visitors to handle, and will be on display at New Place in the neighbouring Grade 1 listed Nash’s House (Tudor in origin), which is currently undergoing a major refurbishment as part of the project.

The latest dig was undertaken earlier this year in preparation for the re-presentation of Shakespeare’s New Place as an exciting, and modern, retelling of Shakespeare’s family home and the living, breathing man behind the great works – husband, father and son of Stratford. Shakespeare’s New Place is scheduled to open in July 2016.

The £5.25 million project – the most ambitious and permanent initiative to mark the 400th anniversary of Shakespeare’s death being celebrated throughout 2016 – is being funded with support from the Heritage Lottery Fund and Historic England and through public donations raised through a host of initiatives spearheaded by the Shakespeare Birthplace Trust.

New Place was William Shakespeare’s family home from 1597 until his death in 1616. It was the largest single residence in the borough of Stratford-upon-Avon. Built in the 1480s by Hugh Clopton in Chapel Street opposite the Guild Chapel, New Place was described by John Leland – librarian to Henry VIII – as being ‘a pretty house of brick and timber’.

Following Shakespeare’s death, New Place passed to the ownership of his eldest daughter Susanna and her husband Dr John Hall. Their daughter, Elizabeth, inherited New Place from her parents but the house left the ownership of Shakespeare’s surviving family in the 1670s, and was substantially remodelled.

New Place was demolished in 1759 by its then owner, the Reverend Francis Gastrell, mainly to avoid paying taxes (it was his second home). But tradition tells us that he had also become exasperated by the constant stream of enthusiasts and pilgrims wanting to visit Shakespeare’s house and see the mulberry tree he had planted (which Gastrell felled a couple of years earlier). Public disapproval following the demolition – Gastrell was virtually hounded out of town – served to preserve the site, which passed into the care of the Shakespeare Birthplace Trust in 1876.

The £5.25 million project is being funded with support from the Heritage Lottery Fund and Historic England and through public donations raised through a host of initiatives spearheaded by the Shakespeare Birthplace Trust.

More information on donations can be found at http://www.shakespeare.org.uk/about-us/new-place-the-next-chapter/ways-of-giving-new-place.html).

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Thursday, 26 November 2015

How To Care For Your Poinsettia - THE Christmas Plant

Some of us are not very good with houseplants.  In fact, some of us find keeping a Spider Plant alive a bit of a challenge.  I am proud to say, though, that I have a Poinsettia which I have managed to keep alive for nearly 3 years.

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Poinsettias come in a variety of colours

So I was a little miffed to hear claims in a recent report from Thompson & Morgan claiming Poinsettias have fallen out of fashion in the UK.

This 12th December has been declared International Poinsettia Day and, Stars For Europe (SfE), a marketing initiative founded by a coalition of European Poinsettia breeders are striking back.

They say that sales of this classic Christmas plant, which comes in white, coral and 'spattered' colours as well as the traditional red, saw a 15% increase in UK sales last year.

If you follow a few of Stars For Europe's care guidelines (#1 remember they HATE cold and draughts so keep away from doors and windows) then they should last until Christmas, and after that, just chuck it away or, if it's like mine see how many Christmases you can make it last for.

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The Traditional Red Poinsettia Is THE Christmas plant
How to Care for your Poinsettia (from Stars For Europe)

* Inspect before buying. Dense foliage and yellow-green flower buds are a sign of freshness. Don’t take any standing in breezy entrance areas.

* Keep them in a bright, warm spot (around 20° C). They can even be close to a radiator, but not in direct sunlight or near draughts – so keep away from open doors and windows.

 * Don’t over-water them by leaving a pool of water in bottom of the pot or saucer they’re sitting in. Only water when the soil is almost dry (preferably with lukewarm water).

* To keep your poinsettia going long after the festive season, do not fertilize during its flowering period. Afterwards, fertilize monthly using conventional nutrients.

* To produce colourful leaves for years to come, keep the plant in complete darkness for at least twelve hours per day for several weeks.

Did you know that Poinsettias got their name from Joel Roberts Poinsett, the man who introduced them to the US in 1828.

Poinsettia Day is 12 December, commemorating the death of Poinsett on 12 December 1851.

Poinsettias originate from Mexico and have been associated with Christmas since the 16th century.

Poinsettias are not just red! You can get them in cream, pink and vintage apricot.

Poinsettias make great cut flowers. Immerse the stems in hot water for 20 seconds and they’re good to go!

Poinsettias are grown in black-out conditions for days so that they develop their colourful leaves.

I'm off to put my Poinsettia in a dark place to see if I can get the leaves to change colour......

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Wednesday, 25 November 2015

10 Tips To Beat The Christmas Bloat

Christmas often results in us piling on the pounds, with some stats claiming that we gain up to five!

Here are the top ten tips to staying healthy over Christmas.

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You need a strategy to avoid piling on the pounds at Christmas
Sam Benjamin of No.G: Too Good to Be Gluten Free, makers of gluten free food products, has compiled the best ways to avoid overindulging over the festive period.

1. Sugar

Get rid of sweet cravings by swapping sugary treats for a low calorie hot chocolate. Guilt free and still delicious.

2. Exercise

Skip a ‘Home Alone’ movie marathon and make the most of family time with a festive walk instead. A half an hour brisk walk will burn off 200 calories.

3. Gluten

Beat the bloat and embrace gluten free options. Many celebrities have endorsed the diet, reporting a positive impact on digestion, mood and general wellbeing.

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No G Gluten Free Treacle Tart
4. Sleep

Adopt hibernating habits and say no to late night partying. Catching up on some zzz’s will improve your overall health and wellbeing.

5. Alcohol

Fend off the hangover, and the calories, by switching to non-boozy cocktails. Or stick to lower calorie drinks, such as gin and slim line tonic (drink responsibly)!

6. Sanitise

Christmas often brings an unwanted gift to many- the flu virus. Keep your hands clean by frequently washing or sanitising them and ensure nasty germs are kept at bay.

7. Turkey

Embrace tradition and have turkey for your Christmas dinner. It’s leaner than other meats, high in protein, naturally gluten free and has low saturated fat content, making it the perfect choice.

8. Desserts

Christmas pudding is full of fibre, B vitamins, potassium, iron and calcium making it a relatively guilt free dessert (just make sure you stick to one portion). Or knock the lid off your mince pie to lose a third of its calories!

9. Breakfast

Trade bucks fizz and croissants for a more nutritionally filling alternative. Smoked salmon and poached eggs or a bowl of hearty porridge will keep you satisfied until dinner is served. 

10. Cleanse

Reduce your consumption of pasteurised fruit juices and swap to cold pressed alternatives. Cold pressed juices give you a higher content of vitamins and antioxidants, without having to consume as much.

Sam says “We’re all guilty of over indulging over the festive period but with these tips you can still embrace the Christmas treats without increasing your waistline.”
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Win a Bumper Minions Book Prize - 3 To Give Away

Who doesn't love the Minions?  Hot on the heels of their recent movie success, leading creative children's publish Centum Books have produced a selection of books to delight any Minions fan.

I have 3 fabulous bumper prizes to give away, just right for Christmas and Centum have also included a Jurassic World sticker book too!

Included are:-

Minions The Junior Novel RRP £5.99


Join the Minions journey with this Junior Novel, which retells the whole thrilling movie story, whilst helping young readers improve their reading skills.

Minions Long Live King Bob RRP £6.99 



With full-colour movie stills and bursting with Minion humour readers will feel part of the action in this beautifully presented story book.

Minions Seek and Find RRP £6.99



Keep little Minions busy for hours as they try to spot one single Minion in a sea of yellow!

Minions Mega Sticker Book RRP £7.99



Full of puzzles, games, colouring and doodling as well as 1000 amazing stickers of everyone’s favourite Minions. This is a sticker book in a Minion!

The minions range of titles will be painting the UK yellow and available in supermarkets, toy shops, out of town retailers, gift shops and garden centres as well as leading online sites

Centum are also adding one of these beauties.





To enter to win one of these 3 prize packages, just complete the rafflecopter below.  Terms and conditions apply and the giveaway is open to UK entries only.  The giveaway ends at 11:59 pm on Tuesday 15th December.

Good luck!

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Friday, 20 November 2015

Christmas Shopping? 8 Ways To Keep Your Cool.

There are times when those of us prone to getting a little 'tired and emotional' need to treat ourselves with a little more care than usual.  And Christmas shopping is definitely one of those times.

If, like me, you find yourself getting too hot, too tired and decidedly cranky with kids in tow, here are eight ways you can mitigate the damage before you either blow your top or end up spending far too much money because you just want to go home!

Decide how much you are going to spend on presents

This is THE most difficult aspect of all but you really need to be clear about your budget and how much you can afford to spend on each present.  It's so easy to feel pressured into spending too much but we all know that after the kids have the thrill of ripping the wrapping paper off, so many toys languish ignored after a day or so.


Make a list of what you're going to buy.

An oldie but a goodie.  Make a list of what you're planning to buy for everyone and stick to it.  The list should include stocking fillers as well as main presents. It is amazing how bits and pieces such as novelty chocolates and tiny games can add up.

Research prices online before you go.

For bigger ticket items, it makes sense to at least have an idea of what the big retailers are offering and most of them will price-match (John Lewis, for example).

If you're shopping for gadgets, make sure you are comparing the like for like technical specification and check what extras are included.

You might also want to check any consumer reviews you can find in magazines like Which? or on Amazon. Whilst you need to be able to read between the lines when looking at reviews, generally you will get a sense of whether a product is OK or a complete dud not worth your precious cash.

Check sites like Topcashback, Quidco, and Vouchercloud to see whether there are better online deals for your gifts.  Sites like these also have mobile apps you can use to check prices and earn cashback on the go.

There are numerous other price-checking apps for your smartphone that you can use in store such as Red Laser or Price Grabber.

Plan Your Route

Once you know what you want to buy and where the best deals are likely to be, it's easier to plan your route.  Make allowances for the day and time you go shopping.  If you hate crowds, first thing on a Sunday morning will be a nicer experience than mid afternoon on a Saturday!

Dress Appropriately

I like to wear warm, casual clothes in layers with a stylish but comfy pair of boots that I can walk for miles in. You can find a great selection at Esprit.

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Wear stylish boots you can walk miles in


If you've got kids, make sure they don't get overheated in all in one bodysuits and that their clothing is easily removable for dashes to the toilet!

Plan A Break

Particularly if you have kids, you'll need to schedule a toilet / drink break.  We like John Lewis as there is a good choice of food and snacks for kids, plenty of room, clean toilets and a welcoming environment for families.  Trying to cram into a tiny coffee bar with a pushchair and umbrellas is never a nice experience!

Make sure you have some bottled water and some healthy snacks (mini boxes of raisins or bananas) to stave off hunger pains.  If you're on a diet, a little snack pot with some fruit and nuts and perhaps a few cubes of cheese may help you avoid an enormous slice of fudge cake and a calorie laden festive coffee.

Keep Receipts

Why not start a folder specially for Christmas present receipts?  Just pop them straight in when you get home and you'll know when to find them should anything need to be taken back after Christmas.

Do It All Online Instead!

If you can't face the crowds, online shopping is the answer.  Just make sure that you take into account any delivery charges, last order dates and returns policies.  Not all online retailers offer to cover the postage costs of returning item.  If you're ordering a perishable gift, such as a cream tea hamper,make sure the recipient will be in to receive it.

It also helps to sort out a safe place for delivery as there is nothing more annoying than coming home to a missed delivery card.

With a bit of planning before your shopping trip you can minimise the stress and hopefully save yourself some cash into the bargain.

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Thursday, 19 November 2015

3 Ways To Get Your Children Excited About Nature

In the society we live in, we as adults are obsessed with mobile phones, tablets and laptops. While there are perks to life online, it’s not a great example to set for our children.

It can be a challenge for parents to get their children outside and interested in something other than the computer or games console. It’s a difficult balance to get right.

When you were a child it’s likely that you spent more time outside than your children do. It’s sad to think we live on such a beautiful planet and our children could be missing out on some of it’s wonders and magic. So here are three ways you can get your whole family more interested and at one with nature.

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Start a nature reserve 

This doesn’t require you spending a fortune on acres of land. Your children’s nature reserve is your garden. Encourage them to look for and count all of the birds, insects and flowers that have made a home in your garden. Create a project book or folder where they can store their findings. Get them to check again every few days to see if any new creatures have arrived. Nature charities would love to know what they have found, so they can track species numbers.

In the autumn and winter months you can get them building makeshift shelters for hedgehogs to hibernate in. Or give them the responsibility of their own bird feeder that they have to fill every day. Your children will feel they are making a difference and it will fill them with knowledge about all kinds of animals and insects.

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Rock pool in Caswell Bay, Swansea
      
Explore a rock pool 

When you’re at the seaside with your kids, go and find some rock pools you can explore. This is a great way of getting your children to interact and be curious about the ocean. You want them to be safe, so use nets when picking up anything you aren’t sure about. Get them to touch slimy seaweed and gentle hold a small crab. Encourage them to look at every part of this fascinating sea life.This is guaranteed to become a highlight of your day at the seaside.

Take them to see natural phenomena 

Natural phenomenons are unforgettable and almost inexplicable. Showing your children an example of this is a great way of sparking their interest in the natural world. Treat them to a trip to see the Northern Lights in Lapland for an evening watching those unearthly colours. Or take them to see the starlings murmurations in Somerset. These little birds can create wonderful liquid like shapes in the sky which you could watch for hours.

Filling your children with wonder and intrigue is what it is all about. You want them to question and ask why these things happen. You can find out the answers together by asking experts and tour guides for more information. These days out will stay with them forever and it’s even more special because you shared the moment all together.

The trick to getting your children interested in nature is being curious about it yourself. Children are natural mimics, so if you look interested, it’s likely they will follow suit. Leave any other distractions like mobile phones at home and get discovering wildlife together.

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Beck Valley Book Tour - Booker Dead Heat & Giveaway




NEW RELEASE....

A new breed of killer has hit Dallas. The victims? They bleed blue. And the brotherhood is calling in the cavalry: one Booker T. Adams, PI.

Excommunicated from the Dallas Police Department for refusing to overlook conduct unbefitting an officer, Booker has every reason to slam the door shut when the chief pleads for his assistance. But Booker can’t turn his back on the community he’s always felt drawn to protect, even if it means getting in bed with someone who tried to ruin his life.

As pandemonium floods the city from the inside out, Booker chases an invisible plague. He can’t stop what he can’t see. And then the unthinkable happens. Another killing…and this one guts him.

Driven by an eternal camaraderie he’d once shared with his long-time partner, Booker shifts into overdrive to end this sinister game, some sort of sick vigilante justice.

A vengeful fury of his own takes hold. And the damned can hear him coming.

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About the Author




A veteran of the corporate wars, former journalist, and true studier of human and social behavior, best-selling author John W. Mefford has been writing novels since he first entered the work force twenty-five years ago, although he never put words on paper until late 2009.

John writes novels full of intrigue, suspense, and thrills, but they also evoke an emotional connection with the characters.

When he’s not writing, he chases three kids around, slaves away in the yard, reads, takes in as many sports as time allows, watches all sorts of movies, and continues to make mental notes of people and societies across the land.

John lives in Frisco, Texas with his beautiful wife, three opinionated kids, and a feisty fat cat who rules the world.
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My Review


Although this is the 6th Booker novel, I have only previously read the 5th, Booker:  No Mas (Spanish for "no more").  You can read that review here.  I enjoyed the last one enormously and was only too happy to re-enter Booker's hectic, crime-filled world.

Once again Mefford combines a terrific story line with a speed of action that makes you feel as if you are actually watching the plot on the big screen.  The action is incredibly fast-paced but this time we learn a lot more about private investigator Booker T. Adams, his family and his will-they-won't-they partner Alisa and Uncle Charlie, who seems to be suspiciously well-informed about what is happening in Dallas, where Booker: Dead Heat is set.

The lovable teenager, Bolt has come from Santa Domingo to live with Booker and is still keen to help out, whether his help is wanted or not.

In Booker Dead Heat we also meet Henry who works in the District Attorneys' office and who becomes, along with Alisa, Booker's crime-fighting partner on an undercover mission that will see the body count rise and the plot thicken dramatically.

A serial killer is on the lose and they are killing cops and judges but why?  Nothing appears to link the murder victims and the manner of each death is different.

It becomes a race against time to save those whom Booker holds most dear, spurred on by a loss which strikes much too close to home.

Throw in a police chief whose motives are a whiter shade of grey, a dangerous mobster and an old school friend who suddenly turns into an enemy and you have all the elements of a gripping read.

Like the 5th Booker novel, No Mas, Dead Heat reads well as a stand alone novel but I am definitely going to  return to the earlier Booker novels to spend a little more time in Booker's world.

Highly recommended.



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Tuesday, 17 November 2015

Win A Christmas Lily & Rose Bouquet From Debenhams Flowers

You may remember I recently reviewed an absolutely beautiful bouquet from Debenhams Flowers which was sent to my mum to celebrate Grandparents Day.

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Christmas Lily & Rose Bouquet - £24.99


Well, Debenhams Flowers are kindly offering a stunning Christmas Lily & Rose Bouquet worth £24.99 for one of my lucky readers.

Take a look at their selection of Christmas flowers because nothing sets off a Christmas table or a Christmas display like fresh flowers.  As you know, I'm a big fan. The Christmas Lily & Rose bouquet is my favourite but I also love these.

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Winter Wonderland including oriental lilies and  avalanche roses £29.99

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Christmas Cheer - including red Asiatic Lilies, Grand Prix Roses and white Reagan Chrysanthemums - £24.99
A bouquet is also an ideal gift for someone who is difficult to buy for, or who is a long way away during the festive season.

You can also choose a Christmas hamper, or wine and champagne which are always popular gifts.

Debenhams offer next day flowers 7 days a week across the UK with a beautiful range of seasonal bouquets. For guaranteed next day flowers you need to order before 9pm on weekdays, 4pm on Saturdays and 2pm on Sundays.  Next day flowers are available by courier or you can choose flowers by post which are delivered in secure packaging by Royal Mail to any UK address.

You can send your best wishes with a personalised gift message delivered alongside the bouquet you choose and add a gift, for example chocolates, fine wines or balloons.

I also have a special discount code which gives 25% off on all bouquets, with the exception of flowers by post - DFBLOG25.  Just go to www.debenhamsflowers.com.

Entry is via Rafflecopter in the usual way and the competition is for UK entries only.  The giveaway ends at 11:59 pm on Sunday 13th December. The name and address of the winner must be received before 20th December in order for the bouquet to be sent in time for Christmas.

Good luck!

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Monday, 16 November 2015

Beck Valley Book Tour & Giveaway - Goodbye Tootsie By Delynn Royer


New Release....

Mystery and Romance in 1920s Manhattan...
A homicide detective and a tabloid reporter are on the road to romance but at cross-purposes at work when they investigate the New Year’s Eve murder of a young heiress after she comes into control of a family fortune.


New York City, 1925

It’s after midnight on New Year’s Day, and the richest girl in America has just fallen to her death from the top floor of the posh Cleveland Hotel in Manhattan.

When Detective Sean Costigan arrives at the scene, he learns it’s the day after Abigail Welles’s twenty-first birthday—the day she inherited a family fortune. It’s not the kind of coincidence that warms a detective’s heart. Neither is the fact that she wasn’t alone when she fell. Her new husband, Long Island party boy Nick Welles, lies incoherent in the master bedroom.

Sean’s girl, tabloid reporter Trixie Frank, is the first newshound on the scene. It’s a bigger scoop than she dreamed. The young heiress’s death will make national headlines. More importantly, this story hits close to home. And heart. The victim’s husband is Trixie’s ex-fiancé.

When Sean focuses on Nick as his prime suspect, Trixie is certain he’s dead wrong. But will saving her first love from the hot seat prove fatal to her new romance?

GOODBYE TOOTSIE is a stand-alone romantic mystery sequel to IT HAD TO BE YOU. It’s a complete mystery that can be read alone, after the first book, or before the first book. It contains romantic elements, which means it may include love scenes (sensual but not graphic).

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It Had To Be You


New York City, 1924

Determined to pursue her dream of becoming a crime reporter, heiress Trixie Frank believes she's off to a running start when she lands a job at the most successful tabloid in Manhattan. Unfortunately, her high hopes fade fast when she's assigned to the rewrite desk.

Sean Costigan is a demoted homicide detective on the commissioner's blacklist. The last thing he needs complicating his life is a perky debutante with delusions of becoming the next great American journalist. Too bad she happens to hold one of the keys to solving his latest case, the Central Park murder of a notorious gangster. The other key?

Sean's childhood sweetheart, the victim's widow, who has gone missing. Sean soon has more trouble with dames than any good man deserves. But that's the least of his worries. When he suspects deadly corruption within his own department, it's not just his and Trixie's careers that depend on finding the killer. It's their lives.

It Had to Be You, a finalist for the 2014 NJRW Golden Leaf Award

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About the Author




Delynn Royer is the older, smarter, funnier, more ornery alter ego of author Donna Grove, who, as a young mother, published several lighthearted historical romances. The first, A TOUCH OF CAMELOT, won a Romance Writers of America Golden Heart Award. Soon after that, Delynn set aside her pen to concentrate on her day job and raising her two sons.

Motherhood never ends, but kids eventually fly the nest. Delynn has returned to her first love, writing. She has updated editions of her backlist to be available as ebooks and is working on new titles that she hopes will entertain and lighten readers' hearts.

Delynn's latest ebook release is GOODBYE, TOOTSIE, the sequel to IT HAD TO BE YOU, a romantic mystery set in 1920s Manhattan.

Aside from delving into the historical research that inspires her novels, Delynn enjoys classic movies, reading, travel and yoga. She lives with her husband in Pennsylvania.

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Set in the 1920's, Goodbye Tootsie is a real page turner of a murder mystery.  Poor little rich girl Abigail Welles falls to her death from the top floor of a swanky hotel on the night before her 21st birthday, a day on which she is due to inherit millions.

Handsome cop Sean and newspaper reporter Trixie join forces, both crime-solving and romantic to track down Abigail's killer. It's a will-they, won't-they romance, complicated due to Trixie's prior involvement with prime suspect Nick Welles, who just happens to be Abigail's husband of 6 months.

There are some fabulous characters in this book, including a medium who knows more than she's saying and a supporting cast of louche, rather unpleasant friends who were there on the night Abigail died.  

Throw into the mix the suspicious death of Abigail's mother from falling down the stairs (or was she pushed?) and a family who can't wait to get their hands on Abigail's money and you have a recipe for a story which keeps you gripped till the end.

The 1920's detail is very well researched and you really feel as if you are in the period, from the description of the characters' clothes, to the music they listen too and the jargon the cops use.

And no, I didn't guess who the murderer was either!

I'd highly recommend Goodbye Tootsie to while away a blustery winter evening.



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Sunday, 15 November 2015

My Sunday Photo - 15/11/2015

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Caitlin is 8 today!

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Friday, 13 November 2015

4 Things Great Mums Do In Difficult Times

Sometimes you just have one of those days, don't you?  Days when you are permanently chasing your tail and nothing goes right.

You oversleep, you forget to pack a sandwich lunch for your child's school trip, there's no clean school uniform and you haven't got any change for the latest PTA demand.

It would be very easy to just go back to bed and pull the duvet over your head.

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Everyone faces tough times in their lives
We are all guilty of being disorganized sometimes and find ourselves envying those organised mums who never seem to have a hair out of place and who radiate loving kindness to their kids and those around them.

But what about when family problems such as a relationship breakdown or illness threaten to overwhelm us? Or when we find debts mounting, or redundancy looming on the horizon?

What is it that great mothers do differently at times like these?  Can we learn anything from them?

1. They have a strong network of friends and family to help them.

Some of us find it really difficult to ask for help.  As parents we may also find ourselves prioritizing the kids' social lives over our own but this is a mistake.

Stay at home mums in particular need adult conversation and the chance to share their problems.

This can't really be done effectively via Facebook, although I have made some great friends this way. Nothing really replaces a good chat over a cup of coffee.

Takeaway tip:  make sure you keep in touch with your friends and family and don't be shy to ask for help.  Reach out to other mums, strike up a conversation and ask them on a 'mum date' for a coffee or drink.  You'll probably find they would welcome some company too.  When things go wrong you will find your mum friends are an invaluable source of support.

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2. They focus on solutions not problems.

Bad things happen to good people as the saying goes, but dwelling on things you cannot change will get you nowhere and make you feel worse.

Great mothers know how to prioritize and to focus their energies on the things that matter. The health, happiness and security of children will always be one of their primary concerns.

They also know where to turn for the best impartial advice - whether to a solicitor or Citizens' Advice Bureau for legal help, or to an organisation such as Relate for matrimonial and relationship advice.

There are times when an objective view is needed - and friends and family may often be too involved in a situation to give the best and clearest advice.

Takeaway tip:  recognize when you need professional advice and don't be reluctant to seek it out. There are many sources of free, or low cost advice and it is better to address a problem head-on than to let matters get worse, for example when debts are growing at an unmanageable rate. 

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3.  They recognise that "this too shall pass"

No matter how bad things are now, great mothers hold on to the thought that everything changes and try to stay positive for their children.  Focusing on the good things in life is not always easy but if we try we can usually find the good in every day.  Teaching our children gratitude for the good things they have in their lives (even if that is just a mother who loves them to bits), is something that will help them to deal with their own problems later on in life.

Takeaway tip: no matter how 'twee' it sounds, focusing on the positive and writing a list of things you are truly grateful for will raise your spirits and may even show you a way to deal with the problems you face.  

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4.  They practise self care.

Great mothers know that they have take care of themselves to be an effective carer for the children (and, these days, probably their parents too).  It is not selfish to take some regular time out for yourself, even if it is just for a long bubble bath or a coffee with a friend.  They make sure that they eat well and get enough sleep.

Takeaway tip:  looking after yourself need not cost a lot of money.  Ten minutes of mindful meditation, a brisk walk or even a brief nap will help calm you and clear your head to say can return to your problems with a fresh viewpoint.  

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We all have times in our lives when things do not go as we hoped or planned but we need to develop our own strategies for dealing with them so that we can look after ourselves, our children and our families.

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Thursday, 12 November 2015

8 Things Great Parents Do Everyday

If you're anything like me, you never know whether you're doing the right thing raising your child, do you?  Parenting skills don't come naturally to many of us.

It's easy to spend time worrying about what you have, or haven't done and whether your children are truly happy.

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But I think if you do some or all of the things that great parents do every day, you won't be going too far wrong.

They tell their children they love them

It doesn't matter what age you are, everyone needs to hear that they are loved, and loved unconditionally.  It is unfair to tell anyone that you would love them more if only they did this, or were like that (or cousin Elsie).

They read to their children

We know how important it is to read to our kids in order to improve their literacy and understanding of the world around them.  But the night-time bedtime story is a chance to snuggle up and forge strong emotional bonds that will last a life time.

They listen to their children

Really listening involves removing yourself from any distractions and focusing on the child in front of you who may be telling you about something that has shaken his or her world.  How upsetting to find that your mum or dad is more interested in checking their email on their phone whilst going "um, ah, oh," and not really paying attention.

They say NO.

We are not being great parents if we allow our kids to constantly indulge in habits that are harmful for their bodies and minds.  The occasionally sugary treat is only to be expected but constantly agreeing to sweets and chocolates because we don't want to be seen as "the bad guy" is not helping our children.

They set clear boundaries

Great parents tell their kids exactly what is expected of them and what is acceptable.  This may mean explaining that there are certain words or phrases we don't use, or that lashing out in anger is never acceptable.  Unless we have these conversations with our kids, we cannot expect them to make the best decision for others, and themselves.

They are excellent communicators

Great parents know that they have to find a way to communicate effectively with their children, and that the best way may vary from child to child.  NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) teaches us that everyone has a preferred communication style.  Some of us are 'visual' - we like pictures and diagrams.  Some of us prefer to listen - the sound of the words used is the most important thing.  And for some of us, a kind and loving touch is the most effective way to get the message across.  Who can deny the power of a cuddle?

They are not afraid to indulge their own 'inner child'

I always think great parents are the ones who know how to play and, no matter what age they are, can let their hair down and goof around with their kids.  On a recent visit to Raglan Castle in Monmouthshire with the kids, we spent at least an hour playing hide and seek - and it was hilarious.

They practise self care

Parenting is hard work and a never-ending task.  Great parents make sure they take time out to recharge their batteries and reconnect with their partners.  For single parents, time out with friends is incredibly valuable. As the saying goes, you have to apply the oxygen mask to yourself before you can help others.

Parenting is one of the toughest jobs there is, but if we take the time to step back and honestly appraise our efforts, most of us will see that we are doing a great job and quickly identify ways in which we can be an even better parent and improve our parenting skills.

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Beat Back Pain With These Tips

As we get older, sadly, we are no longer as flexible as we used to be, which can lead to many problems. One area of the body that can cause a lot of issues is the back, especially the lower area. From constant aching to spasms, back pain comes in many shapes and sizes.

If you suffer from back problems, you will know just how upsetting it can be. There’s not just the pain to deal with, but also how it affects your daily life. Simple tasks like picking up your son for a hug or carrying the groceries to the house can be all it takes to put your back out.

For serious back pain caused by an accident or illness, it’s always best to consult a doctor. For mild back pain, however, the best thing that you can do is treat it at home.

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To help you do that, we have put together a guide to beating back pain yourself. For everything that you need to know, keep reading, below:

Stay active 

It might be painful, but the worst thing you can do is lay still. Our spines are meant to be constantly moved, even when they’re feeling a little sore. Don’t spend the day sat still, get up and move about.

Take the dog for a walk, go to work, do everything that you normally would on a daily basis. While your back is healing, avoid strenuous exercise. Once it’s healed, however, aerobic exercise, like swimming and cycling, can help to keep your back healthy. Weights are a big no-no, but any form of aerobic exercise is perfect for strengthening your spine.

Relieve the pain 

When it comes to fighting back pain, often taking a couple of ibuprofen tablets can work wonders. If you are unsure about what will work best for the type of back pain that you have, ask your pharmacist to recommend something.

You might not like the idea of taking drugs to remedy the pain, but often, they can work wonders. There’s no point struggling with the pain if a couple of tablets can make you feel better, is there? As well as taking medicine to relieve your back pain, you may find that applying hot and cold compresses also helps.

Switch your mattress 

Did you know that 10 percent of back pain is caused by sleeping on a mattress that is uncomfortable? You may not have thought about it, but something as simple as your mattress could be causing your back ache.

If you think that your mattress could be the problem, consider replacing it was a double latex mattress. While buying a new mattress might be a little pricey if it helps to keep your back pain at bay, it’s worth the cost.

Stretch regularly 

Did you know that backache can be caused by not stretching out your muscles enough? To help reduce your back pain and aid healing, take the time to stretch at least twice a day. There are various stretches that you can do to help your back, but the best ones will depend on exactly where the pain is.

Dealing with back pain is never easy; living with it can be incredibly upsetting. However, by following the tips above, you can make beating back pain a little easier.

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Wednesday, 11 November 2015

Plan A Fun, Memorable Trip To Italy With The Kids In Tow

I have always loved to travel. When I was younger, there was nothing I looked forward to more than my next trip away. I could go where I wanted when I wanted. I didn’t need to plan, I could hop on a plane and head off to any corner of the globe I fancied, without a second thought.

Nowadays, however, that’s no longer the case. With a family to think about, including two young children, traveling takes a lot of planning. There is still excitement, of course, but there’s also that massive fear that my partner and I won’t survive the trip, due to the stress.

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That being said, we still love to travel as a family. It might be a lot more stressful than traveling child-free, but we want to make fantastic memories with our kids. So we always make sure to plan at least one family trip a year. This coming year, Italy is on the cards. So I thought that I would put together a guide to making a family trip to Italy fun and memorable, for yourself, as well as the kids.

Don’t worry about boredom 

The good news is that in Italy, kids are welcome in every region. Being a bright and vibrant place, children will love the look and feel of this fabulous country. They’ll also enjoy the attention they’ll get from locals; Italians are very child-friendly.

The surprising thing about Italy is that in every place, there is something that will excite your little ones. From Gondola rides in Venice and beautiful sandy beaches on the Amalfi Coast to yummy pizzas in Tuscany, Italy is a child’s dream. Not forgetting the fact that Gelato - aka, Italian ice cream, is everywhere.

Be choosy about where you go 

While Italy is a family-friendly place, you’ll still need to be choosy about your destination. Think about the type of trip that you want, and your kids will enjoy. Look at the different destinations, and choose one that suits your hopes for your trip.

Are you a beach family - a trip to the Amalfi Coast could be perfect for you. Do you love exploring cities - Venice is the ideal location for your trip. Are you history mad - Rome could be the best place for you. Each of Italy's regions is different, so choosing your destination carefully, is a must.

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Pick your accommodation carefully

Once you have chosen a destination, the next step is to select your accommodation. While there are plenty of family hotels, with kids in tow, self-catered accommodation is often, best.

Firstly, because staying in a villa or rental house will give your kids more room to play and run around. Secondly, you won’t need to worry about the noise your children are making. And thirdly, because kids can be fussy eaters, especially when away from home. So having access to a kitchen to cook them something you know they’ll eat is a good idea.

To find the perfect place to stay, have a look at the selection of houses online. Often, you can find some fantastic deals on holiday villas if you shop around. So don’t go with the first option you come across, take some time to look around.

Plan before you go

Once you know where you’re going and have your accommodation booked, start planning the details of your trip. Ideally, by the time you arrive, you should have every detail of your trip planned out. From how you will get around while you are there, to what you will be doing each day.

When there are kids involved, doing lots of planning in advance is crucial. You'll find that your trip is much less stressful, if you plan out as much as possible in advance.

To ensure that your family holiday to Italy is as enjoyable as possible, take note of the tips, above.

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A 7 Step Guide To Choosing The Ultimate Pushchair

When you have a baby, you want to know that they’re going to be safe and comfortable at all times. The majority of people use a pushchair to get their babies from A-B, so you need to make sure you spend a considerable amount of time finding the right one for you. Use this 7 step guide to help you!

Set a Realistic Budget 

Set a realistic budget for your pushchair. You’ll need to consider how long you expect to use it for, whether you’ll have any more kids anytime soon, whether you can sell it on afterwards, and more. Pushchairs are really expensive. You could buy a small second hand car for the price of some of them! But that’s because they specialize in keeping your baby comfortable and safe, and you can’t put a price on that. Set a maximum budget so you can begin looking at pushchairs in your price range as soon as possible.

Compare Models and Features You Like 

Compare the models and features you like before buying. Some pushchairs will come with extras for free, while you will have to pay for others. Make sure you work out what’s best for your budget. Pushchair footmuffs are a good addition for winter, but some models won’t come with them for free.

Do Your Research on Safe Brands

Do your research on the safest brands to put your mind at ease. Many of them are very safe, but there have been product recalls and stories that might make you think twice about buying from a particular brand. Knowing as much as possible before splashing out will really help you.

Read Reviews

If you have one or two models in mind, make sure you read reviews to see how other parents like them. Take these with a pinch of salt; everybody is different. However, if the majority of the reviews say the same thing, you know that you will likely think the same.

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Consider Your Lifestyle

Will you want to take your baby off roading through the woods in their pushchair? Or would you rather take them shopping? Consider your lifestyle and what you expect to be doing when you have your baby. Different pushchairs are good for different things, so be smart!

Pay Attention to the Size and Weight

You might be surprised at how large or heavy a pushchair can be. Make sure you pay attention to the model’s size and weight. Will it fit in your car? Will you be able to handle it? It might even help you to go and look at models in store so you can test them out.

How Often You Use the Car

If you use your car very often, make sure you can fit the chair in the back when you need to. It might also benefit you to go for an all in one travel system!

Use these tips and you’ll have the ultimate pushchair for your baby in no time. You can’t put a price on your baby’s safety!

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