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Saturday, 9 July 2016

It’s The End Of The Academic Year – Parents, How Are You Managing YOUR Money?

It’s the end of the academic year and amongst the celebrations of degrees and diplomas comes the realisation that, despite the financial burden of student loans, the spending hasn’t stopped quite yet.

I’m sure that loads of students fail to realise that trying to get a job can be a costly process. There’s the cost of an interview outfit , new shoes and haircuts. There’s train and bus fares or fuel for cars.

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And if our graduates do get a job there’s the cost of actually being employed – again transport, clothing, lunches, office socialising. Or even the costs of further education and vocational training which they may be expected to fund themselves in order to secure a promotion.

I have been quite shocked to find that it is seemingly the norm for companies in certain industries to offer positions to new graduates on the basis which are unpaid on the basis that they are offering ‘valuable experience’. The word ‘exploitation’ springs to mind.

However, we must remain positive, encouraging and upbeat, despite most of us being hard-nosed veterans of the work arena. All we can do is offer our advice quietly and consistently in the background. I specialise in ‘nagging aunt’ – can you tell?

My niece, Emily has recently graduated with First Class Honours in Film Production and has a small runaround car which, typically now she really needs it, has developed a fault with the breaks when most of her interviews are easily reached by car. This is an expense she neither wants nor can afford.

I remember my dad shelling out for two return tickets to London to take me to visit IPC Magazines. In those days I was convinced journalism was my calling and after 20 years in marketing, I’m now a blogger so perhaps dad was right after all.

For parents, at such a critical time for their young adult children, the ability to help them is very important. Very few of our youngsters leave college and walk straight into a well paying job that allows them to pay their way – however much we may feel it is time for them to stand on their own two feet!

But the ‘Bank of Mum & Dad’ can only take so much and there may be times when a small cash injection in the form of a short term loan would be very welcome.

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You can bet that extra bills will appear exactly when you don’t need them. I have mentioned in one of my previous posts that I really need to be more organised and diarise my insurance renewal dates!

How many of us breathe a sigh of relief once we have paid for the family holiday (and let’s not even start talking about the price hikes we parents have to put up with from day 1 of every single school holiday!), only to find we’ve forgotten about the MOT, the insurance or the fact that we really need a safer set of tyres.

It’s a bit like that film with Tom Hanks “The Money Pit” – everywhere you turn, there’s a new expense.

My nieces and nephew are in their late teens and early twenties whereas my two are just 8 and 7. For us this means a double set of new school uniform for September and then Caitlin’s birthday in November, her cousins’ birthdays in November, December and January and then Christmas!

As you know we have been trying to save for Christmas but inevitably there will be something that ‘appears’ out of the ether when we least expect it.

For example, our boiler has decided to develop a fault with one of its sensors. It has ‘moods’ in the morning. I know how it feels. And what about if you are also caring for your elderly parents? You may find yourself chipping in for cleaning, garden services, extra food or medical supplies.

It’s so important to make a budget and review it regularly. July is a great time to do a little financial housekeeping and check that you are on course to cope with the expenditure you know about and to put in place contingency plans for those costs you don’t!

If we want to really help our youngsters, teaching them to budget and cope with unexpected bills is worth its weight in gold.
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Family Holidays In The Italian Riviera

The Italian Riviera on the coast of Liguria is one of the most spectacular places to take a family vacation.

From the breathtaking scenery, the warm blue water, and pristine beaches, this area has everything to make the kids and parents equally happy.



A perfect way to explore the Italian region is to rent a luxury car with kid and family-friendly features through popular European luxury car hire companies like Primerent for example and discover the ocean villas and glamorous towns with space and comfort.

There are many options for your family on a trip around the Ligurian coast.

A great place to start is in Genoa. This city has stunning architecture and museums dotting the port city. The palaces along Via Garibaldi will be sure to even astonish the kids because of their beauty. The covered market place is a great place for everyone to try different foods and enjoy a bit of the lifestyle.

Portofino, a fishing village turned escape for the rich and famous, is an incredible place to visit. The pink buildings perched on the cliffs are a site to see and it is a perfect walking city where kids can explore old castles and parents can enjoy cocktails with one of the best views in the world.

For a more beach atmosphere and sun soaked vacation, be sure to stay in Alassio. This is a beach town with incredible beaches and a water park that will keep kids entertained for hours.

Finale Ligure is another beach resort and medieval town all in one. There is an amazing 12th century abbey and charming seaside neighborhoods. This is a recurring theme for Liguria, mixing the historical beauty with natural views.

There are so many places which make it perfect for a family holiday and a memorable time. Your children will love exploring a beautiful beach lined landscape and the parents will enjoy some of the best food and views in the whole world.

There are no words that do justice to the beauty of this Italian region, you will have to see it for yourself!
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Friday, 8 July 2016

How To Master Holidays With Kids In 4 Simple Ways

Just because you have a family, it shouldn't limit your travel options. In fact, there are loads of families that constantly travel the world, and it seems to work just fine for them. Here is what I've learnt from them and my own travelling experiences with kids.

Habit

The first step is to get them in the habit of travel. The more that the little ones get used to travelling, the easier it will be for them. If you can't afford to travel abroad all the time, go on day trips. Stay with friends or family so they get used to not sleeping in their own bed.

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Cook dishes from the country you will be visiting so they get into the habit of eating the local style food. If you expose them to all these new experiences when they are young, they will grow up with wanderlust and find travelling a breeze.

Get them involved

The next step to getting your kids ready for their holidays is to get them involved from the beginning. Children learn about all sorts of places at school, so they may even have an idea of where they would like to go. Even if you pick the location, show them the types of activities on offer there and ask them what they would like to do. You could even make it into an arts and crafts activity. Get some travel brochures of the place that you are going to and getting the kids to cut and paste the things they like the look of.

Prepare for the expected and the unexpected

An essential step when taking the kids on holiday is to prepare for both the expected and unexpected. For example, if you know that your little ones get car sick, make sure that you have their bands and medication. Schedule in frequent stops too, so they are as comfortable as possible.

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Preparing for the unexpected is not so easy, but there are a few things you can do. Firstly make sure that you have your euro health card with you. Whilst the UK is still a member of the EU this will entitle you, as UK citizens, to free or discounted emergency medical care in the EU.

Of course, when the UK leaves the EU following Brexit, the validity of these may be in doubt but travel expert Simon Calder advises that before joining the EEC, the UK had reciprocal health agreements with many European nations and it is likely that a similar range of deals will be put in place.  You need to check before you go.

Its also useful to take an emergency first aid kit for less serious incidents. This should contain plasters, antiseptic and ibuprofen, as well as after sun and diarrhoea powders. It's always better to have this stuff and not need it, rather than need it and not have it. You don't want to spend your time away trying to find a chemist in an unfamiliar place.

Stay in their routine


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The next step to successful travel with kids is to help them to stay in their routine as much as possible. Children can become cranky easier if they don't eat and sleep at their normal times. Try and keep to their regular schedule as much as you can. Or if you know you will want to stay out later in the evenings, get them into the routine of having a longer, later nap for a few weeks before you go.

What tips would you add for a stress free holiday with the kids?
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Have A Fresh New Diary Any Time Of Year With Toad® Diaries & Giveaway

I have always loved diaries.  They offer the chance to start all over again, to renew and change whatever you're not happy with.  Just the act of writing things down helps to make them happen, so they say.


Up till now, there's been the rather stark choice of either waiting for Christmas to buy a diary for the next calendar year, or waiting until July when the academic diaries start to appear.

Now I don't know about you, but it's been a long time since I needed to make a note of my lecture times and I have often wished for a diary which would start when I wanted to.  There are undated diaries of course but, for some reason, I've never found these quite as exciting.

I have recently discovered TOAD® Diaries who will not only personalise your diary or notebook (on the front and back covers) but will allow you to choose what month and even what day of the week you would like it to start.  Sadly you will still need to include Mondays ....



You can spend happy hours on their website indulging your inner diary-geek (or should that be fiend - anyway ..) playing around with lay-outs, covers, sizes, formats. You can have week view, appointments, mid year, academic, family - there are far too many formats to describe here.


There is a range of cool themes such as Molten (which I chose), Retro, Cities and some rather cute Monsters.

Not only is the site's designer tool really easy to use but the diaries and notebooks are reasonably priced and come spiral bound with an extra plastic cover on the front and back to protect them.  Happily, they will lie flat when opened making them really easy to write in.  You can also choose between yellow and white paper.


Once you have checked your personalised text is OK and that you have chosen the right format, your diary will take approximately 3-4 days to reach you.

TOAD® also do a range of notebooks to complement your diary and again you can choose the format that most appeals. I was gifted a diary and a notebook by TOAD®.

I chose Molten- Rose from the Molten Theme for my diary which starts in August with weeks starting on Monday. It is wiro-bound, covers 12 months and is Quarto size (midway between A4 and A5).  I also chose yellow paper.

For my notebook I chose a wiro-bound 120 page A5 journal in Molten-Halycon with lined pages (medium spacing).



Your notebooks can be lined, gridded, blank - again lots of choices.

I really likes TOAD products because they have the odd quirky touch - like how to make an Origami toad and infuse humour into the world of stationery.  Apparently not everyone gets as excited about diaries as I do.  Weird, eh?


TOAD® Diaries have given me a £25 gift code to give away to one lucky winner so that if you really can't wait till December for a fresh new diary (and let's face it, some of us will want to write 2016 off as a bad job so far), then you can.

Entry is via the Rafflecopter and terms and conditions apply.  UK entrants only.  The giveaway ends at 11:59 pm on Friday 29th July.

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New Releases, Free & Bargain Books Link-up 8 July 2016



How are you all this week?  Well, the whole house is quite gloomy after the Wales v Portugal match and I have had to explain to Caitlin and Ieuan that yes, we are still friends with Portugal.  They're not convinced!

The summer weather still hasn't turned up and we're having a lot of "that fine rain that soaks you through" to quote Peter Kay.

Still, you can still read wearing a kagool, can't you?

Here are the fab books on offer this week.  You're sure to find something that takes your fancy.

Sharing the Love of Books
Enjoy our selection of New Releases / Free & Bargain Books this week

Click HERE for this week's awesome selection.

Authors please feel free to add your own books
Readers please free to add your own finds
(any genre except erotica welcome)

This weekly link up is hosted by Beck Valley Books & these awesome book loving blogs...
Monday
 Life as Leels | IrishdaisylovesRomance | Book Babble | All Romance Reader
Tuesday
It's My Side of Life | Celticlady's Reviews | First Time Mommy Adventures | Bound 2 Escape
Wednesday
Beck Valley BooksA Library of Reviews | Cinnamon Hollow Reviews
Thursday
Miki's Hope | Taking Time for Mommy | Nicki's Nook
Friday
Ebook Addicts | I Love Romance | A Bit Bookish | Mother Distracted | Colorimetry
Saturday
Totally Addicted to Reading | 3 Partners in Shopping | Angie's Angle I Creat Purty Thangs | Wishful Endings
Sunday
Lynchburg Mama | LibriAmoriMieiAli - The Dragon Slayer | Wondermom WannabeMy Bizzy World |  Deal Sharing Aunt 


For Pre-orders post - PRE-ORDER / genre / title /author
For New Releases post - NEW / genre / title / author
For Free Books post - FREE / genre / title / author / end date 
For Bargain Books post - SALE / price / genre / title / author / end date
(Strictly no Erotica please.  Steamy romance is fine but watch those covers people, incase any underage child is viewing it!)

Click HERE for this week's awesome selection.

And don't forget you can always add some of your own!
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Thursday, 7 July 2016

Review & Giveaway: Paleo: 12 Weeks To Change Your Life By Rebecca Field


I've made no secret of the fact that my diet is less than wholesome and I am constantly on the search for 'the' plan that is going to revolutionise my eating, my weight and my health.

Since the beginning of the year I have felt really under par which may have something to do with the fact that I have been diagnosed with an underactive thyroid.

For many years I stuck faithfully to the Rosemary Conley Low Fat Eating Plan, the merits of which have recently been questioned, not least due to the amount of sugar and bad fats which seem to abound in low fat foods.

I had heard of the Paleo diet and knew it was based on what we used to eat when we still lived in caves but, it transpires, it is so much more than that.

I was recently given a copy of Rebecca Field's "Paleo: 12 Weeks To Change Your Life - Achieve The Ultimate Transformation" which is a great introduction to the Paleo lifestyle.




The book contains a 12 Week Paleo Plan which shows you how you to take control of your life and change your eating habits and your health forever.

It's not just about losing weight but also about adopting a healthier lifestyle and the book gives you all the information you need on how to introduce these changes into your life.

Rebecca helps you to understand how your body works and interacts with the food you eat and her book includes 200 recipes as well as weekly meal plans and shopping lists. Basically all you have to do is follow and cook!

If, on the other hand, you are a bit like me and start and stop with your diet choices, you can use the book as a cookery book and enjoy the recipes.

The book is very comprehensive and contains sections on how to build your Paleo store cupboard, incorporating exercise and avoiding toxins, and also general health advice such as how to prioritise quality sleep and manage your stress.

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There are lots of really helpful and honest case studies from people who have successfully adopted the plan, including the difficulties they faced - because this is about adopting a lifestyle.  It's not a quick diet fix.

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There are also clear charts which tell you what you can and cannot eat.  Be warned.  Lots of your favourite foods will be banned but Rebecca shows you have to replace bad choices with foods that work with your body, rather than against.

The recipes are all in UK measurements which I prefer and the shopping lists are for 2 people so are easily doubled.

You'll find you'll be eating lots of meat, fish, vegetables, fruit, nuts and seeds, and will be cooking most foods from scratch. The recipes in this book do not contain gluten or any grains, dairy, soya, legumes and peanuts. There are a few recipes with egg in but mainly in the breakfast section.

Devotees have reported that the Paleo diet helps to alleviate depression & anxiety,  gives a lot more energy and helps tackle fatigue and brain fog.  In fact, losing weight is a side benefit to adopting this way of eating.

I am at the start of my Paleo journey and at the very least will be trying some of these recipes - for example "Sharp Asian Slaw", Pear & Walnut Waldorf Salad, Salmon with Tomato & Caper Dressing and Coconut Mango Sorbet.

You don't have to be a gourmet chef to cook these recipes (which is handy for me!).  This is simple, easy to prepare, delicious food.

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I would love to hear from you if you have adopted the Paleo diet.  How has it changed your health?  How easy was it to incorporate into your lifestyle?

I am determined to give this a go and if you would like to try it too you can find it at Amazon (hard back) or at Paleodietandfitness.co.uk (ebook).

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I also have one copy of Rebecca's book to give away.

Entry is via the Rafflecopter.  UK entrants only and the usual terms and conditions apply.  The giveaway ends at 11:59 pm on Friday 22nd July 2016.


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Relationship Dilemmas - What Was I Asked In Week 27?

As you may know, I spend a lot of time responding to the questions I am asked about dating & relationships on Quora.com and I thought I'd share some of my answers with you in case you are going through anything similar.



Obviously I am not an expert but I am a 50-something married mum of two with quite a few years' experience under my belt. I take the view that, sometimes, you need to hear it like you would from your own mother - however tough the truth may be.

Here's just some of the questions I've been asked this week.

Q:  The girl I love is madly in love with me but she has been dating other people for 4 years now. What do you suggest? How can she dump her guy without causing pain? 

I proposed to her 6 years ago.She claimed she regretted lying to me about the fact that she was dating because she had exams ahead of her. It’s been 6 months since we last met when there was no sex or even kissing. Our bond gets stronger but she doesn’t want to hurt her guy.  Being apart from her is hurting me emotionally.

A: If I understand your question correctly, this girl has kept you hanging on for 6 years whilst still dating someone else? 

I can feel that you are very hurt by this situation but it does not sound as if she has any intention of getting rid of her current boyfriend because this has been going on for so long. 


If she is willing to dump her current boyfriend then she just has to be honest but she may well cause him pain - particularly when he finds out that there has been another guy in the picture all this time. 


I think she really needs to decide who it is she wants and make a decision because at the moment she is keeping you both dangling which isn’t fair on either of you. If another 6 months pass I would say that you should assume it’s not going to happen and, however, hard, find someone who is free to pursue a relationship with you. 


Q: Is it wrong to ask my boyfriend to stop talking to a female friend of his?


A: It depends what type of ‘talking’ and how often. 


It is perfectly reasonable for your boyfriend to have friendly conversation with other girls. What isn’t reasonable is flirting with them in front of you - although some women don’t worry about that either if they are secure in their relationship. 


You don’t sound very secure in yours but being too possessive can drive men away. 


How does your boyfriend react when you talk to male friends? If he’s a good guy and has given you no reason to think he’d be unfaithful then you need to cut him some slack. If he is flirting with your friends then you need to take a call on whether he’s the right guy for you.


Q:  Is a 5 hour first date a good sign?

A:  It can be but the real sign of good first date is a request for a second. You could talk for hours but unless you made plans to get together it may mean that although you got on, there was no ‘spark’. I think, in all honesty, it’s too soon to tell. 


Q: My boyfriend hasn't texted me in 4 days. Should I text him? He usually initiates the majority of our conversations. 


We spoke on a Skype call on Friday and everything seemed fine.  There were no fights or anything. I can see one of his old Skype accounts online has been set to 'away'. It’s been like that for a few days and he hasn’t been online on steam. He usually waits 2 days to text me after we talk for some reason too.

A: Is this a long distance relationship? Are you too far away to visit him to see if he’s OK? Can’t you just pick up the phone and call him? 

Sometimes it’s so easy to get caught up in ‘the rules’ that you forget to have a normal relationship. 


It doesn’t sound as if you know this guy very well if you are so unsure about what is going on in his life. It may be that he is just unwell. 


Some men also hate phoning and save up their contact for when they’ve got something to say or some news. He may just feel once every few days is enough. 


Q: My girlfriend took her friends to MY weekend cabin without my permission.  Was it wrong of her to do this?

A: It was a bit cheeky, certainly but hadn’t you had a conversation with her about using your cabin before? How did she get the keys? Did she and her friends trash the cabin? 


Does she assume that she doesn’t need your permission? 

Either she’s taking advantage of you or you’re in different places romantically - she feels you’re a couple and should share. You clearly don’t. 

The fact that you use the phrase “without my permission” makes me think you’re not exactly head over heels in love. 

I think it’s time to set some ground rules for the relationship or, if she has annoyed you that much, consider whether you want it to continue.


Q: He's 45, I'm 25.  We've been "friends with benefits" for the past 6 years but why won't he commit and how can I change his mind? 

I’ve told him several times how I feel and that I want to be in a relationship, but he insists that I need to focus on school/career before we start dating. He adores me and tells me he loves me, but I don’t know why he won’t commit to a relationship? He gets super jealous when I get a boyfriend

A: Because he’s getting everything on a plate and doesn’t need to. 

What extra ‘benefit’ would he get from ‘committing’? What does that mean to him? Marriage? Exclusivity? 

He’s 45 and you’re almost half his age so you are probably a massive ego boost to him and whilst you are desperate to keep him he doesn’t need to do anything. 

If you are serious about changing the status of your relationship (and frankly after 6 years I can’t see it happening), I would date as many guys as you feel like, have a great time and make it crystal clear that you can live without him. 

He may make a commitment but by then hopefully you will have found someone who deserves you a lot more.

Q:  My girlfriend has made us go on a break to decide if I am the one she wants to marry. What can I do?


A: If she has instigated a break it doesn’t sound as if she wants to marry. If she wanted to marry you she would do everything to be with you, not ask for a break. 

Are there big issues which need to be thought about? Do you agree about religion, children, where you’re going to live? Have you discussed finances? What do your respective families think? 

It sounds like there is a lot more going on in the background than is explained by your question. 

Have you discussed these things? To decide whether you are ready to marry you should be together talking about this stuff, not in separate locations. 

Have there been previous problems in the relationship? Have either of you ever cheated? If you have cheated I would not be surprised if she wanted a break. 

I think you need to ask yourself these questions and decide if, actually, YOU want to marry her. If the answer is yes, all you can do is ask her to meet up and have a really honest conversation about how things stand between you.

Q: After 1 date, a guy I met through friends has invited me to his summer cabin for the weekend. Is this going to be a mystery killer and hurt our dating chances?

A: Well it is all a bit soon, isn’t it? 

He sounds incredibly keen but you hardly know him. Is he assuming you are going to share a bed though? I think you need to clarify on what basis you’ve been invited. Is anyone else going? If you met him through friends, could this just be a friends get together? 

I think you need to find out more before jumping to conclusions. And, rather than killing your dating chances, I think you’ll save an awful lot of time by finding if you can stand being together in close quarters for an entire weekend. 


Q:  How do I get back with someone who loves me but broke up with me because of my career?

A: I think she has not been entirely honest with you. Unless her job involved a move to another city or perhaps a posting overseas, was there no way that the two of you could have compromised to make things work? 

Were you being too demanding? Complaining if she worked late? In some professions, such as law, in my experience working late is expected if you want to get on. 

No matter how fond she was of you, she has chosen to focus on her career. 

It may be worth a call to ask how things are going but I think if she loved you that much, she would have found a way to keep you in her life. 

What about your career? Isn’t that worth focusing on? You may find someone better suited closer to home in an environment you both know and understand. That is a better basis for a mutually supporting relationship.


How would you have responded to these questions? You can find more dating advice on my problem page.

All materials included in this post are intended for informational purposes only. This post/information is not intended to and should not be used to replace medical or psychiatric advice offered by physicians or other health care providers. The author will not be liable for any direct, indirect, consequential, special, exemplary or other damages arising therefrom.
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