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Friday, 1 July 2016

New Releases, Free & Bargain Books Link-up 1 July 2016



How are you all this week?  It's a big day here in Wales as we're all biting our nails in preparation for tonight's Euro 2016 match against Belgium.  Even my love of Hercule Poirot won't stop me from supporting our boys tonight!

And at least it's a bit of relief from the political upheaval caused by Brexit.  I can't believe the referendum was only a week ago. It feels like 6 months have passed.

If you want to avoid the politics, as usual there are plenty of great books to escape with in this week's linky. I hope you have a peaceful week!

Here are the fab books on offer this week.  You're sure to find something that takes your fancy.

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Enjoy our selection of New Releases / Free & Bargain Books this week

Click HERE for this week's awesome selection.

Authors please feel free to add your own books
Readers please free to add your own finds
(any genre except erotica welcome)

This weekly link up is hosted by Beck Valley Books & these awesome book loving blogs...
Monday
 Life as Leels | IrishdaisylovesRomance | Book Babble | All Romance Reader
Tuesday
It's My Side of Life | Celticlady's Reviews | First Time Mommy Adventures | Bound 2 Escape
Wednesday
Beck Valley BooksA Library of Reviews | Cinnamon Hollow Reviews
Thursday
Miki's Hope | Taking Time for Mommy | Nicki's Nook
Friday
Ebook Addicts | I Love Romance | A Bit Bookish | Mother Distracted | Colorimetry
Saturday
Totally Addicted to Reading | 3 Partners in Shopping | Angie's Angle I Creat Purty Thangs | Wishful Endings
Sunday
Lynchburg Mama | LibriAmoriMieiAli - The Dragon Slayer | Wondermom WannabeMy Bizzy World |  Deal Sharing Aunt 


For Pre-orders post - PRE-ORDER / genre / title /author
For New Releases post - NEW / genre / title / author
For Free Books post - FREE / genre / title / author / end date 
For Bargain Books post - SALE / price / genre / title / author / end date
(Strictly no Erotica please.  Steamy romance is fine but watch those covers people, incase any underage child is viewing it!)

Click HERE for this week's awesome selection.

And don't forget you can always add some of your own!
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Beck Valley Book Tour: Executed In Paradise by Deborah Brown



When a body turns up at the Cottages, Madison and Fab are on the case. But when the killer makes a habit of discarding bodies on Madison’s property… it’s personal.

While on the hunt for the killer, the duo track down a double-crossing bail jumper, repossess a Lamborghini, and Madison lands her first case.

As more bodies pop up, the cops are eager to name a suspect. When a close friend is arrested as the prime suspect, Madison and Fab will stop at nothing to prove her innocence, but will they be too late?

Executed in Paradise, the ninth book in the scorching Paradise series about best friends who maintain the peace in the paradise of Tarpon Cove through unconventional ­– and highly entertaining – measures.

The Paradise series, are Florida Keys mysteries, “great as stand-alone reads, but they're like chips...you won't be able to devour just one!”


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"The Paradise series has it all! There is action, mystery, murder, romance, humor, & the greatest friendship of all time." 


"Multiple story lines made it impossible for me to put it down. The suspense, humor, love, romance, and of course touches of sarcasm, make this book the best one yet."

"I absolutely love the stories of Fab and Madison. You never know what is going to happen next. Adventures, drama, love, and all the humorous situations they find themselves in make wonderful reads."
Above reviews from Goodreads/Amazon

My Review

I love the Paradise series by Deborah Brown and this latest, Executed in Paradise doesn't disappoint.  The terrible twosome Madison and Fab are at large once again cleaning up crime whilst managing to bicker and joke the whole time.  

It is the strength of their relationship which I think is at the heart of the success of the Paradise novels. Madison and Fab are like the best mates you wish you had whilst suspecting that you could never keep up with them, or their handsome boyfriends, Creole and Didier.

The pace of the story is as hectic as usual as the girls rush from case to case, solving some by the skin of their teeth and enjoying winding up Brick, Fab's boss in the process.  It's great to see Brick develop some grudging admiration of Madison at long last.

All the usual characters are there, Spoon, Madison's mother, and even Brick's pneumatic and vitriolic receptionist who hates Madison and Fab with a passion.  Then there are the strange collection of tenants at The Cottages, including a dead stuffed cat and a Professor with some very odd habits.

Executed in Paradise works well as a stand alone story but the rest of the series is so enjoyable, I highly recommend that you check them out.

About the Author



I've been writing, in one way or another for as long as I can remember; writing poetry, short stories, a romance novel secretly stashed under the bed and sappy love letters. Fiction should be fun. I wanted to create the perfect beach book, to make the reader laugh, cry and cheer... and then run out and tell their friends about it.

My love of reading began when I was seven, the day I opened the cover of my first Mrs. Piggle Wiggle book. Mrs. P gave lessons to other children in how to behave and to me I learned to love the written word. I live with my family and demon children aka rescue cats in South Florida.

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Thursday, 30 June 2016

13 Budgeting Tips For July To December

We are half way through 2016 already - and I suspect many of us are very glad about that, given the year it's been so far.

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Back in January, here at Hobbis Towers we resolved that this would be the year we made sure we budgeted properly for Christmas and Caitlin's birthday.  I also have nieces and a nephew with birthdays in November, December and January.  It's quite an expensive time for us.

Lots of you started the 365 Day 1p Savings Challenge. This is a great way to save over £650 by the end of the year by saving the number of pennies which matches the number of the day out of 365 / 366 days in the year.

But have you kept it up?  I must admit I tend to fall a bit behind then make one large payment to cover what we owe!

On day one, 1st January you save 1p.  by 1st June, the 153rd day in the year, you're saving £1.53 and so on right up to the 31st December where, this year, you'll be putting away £3.66 as it's a Leap Year.

We found our template at Skint Dad.

The 365 Day 1p Saving Challenge

It's easy when you start off but as you get later into the year, you're paying over £2 - £3 per day into you savings jar - but this is still about the price of a coffee each day.

By the 31st December we will have saved £667.95 if we can stick to the plan.

You could still start the plan from 1st July and have around £500 by 31st December.

Otherwise, now is a very good time to sit down with your budget sheets and check that your outgoings are not exceeding your income.

I like to list any big ticket items coming up in addition to birthdays and Christmas and check we can cover them.  Both my car insurance and our house insurance fall in this second half of the year and we need to allocate enough time to get a number of quotes.

Unless it's a very good deal we never accept the automatic renewal premium quoted by our insurers as we know that the best deals often go to new customers with loyalty rarely being rewarded.

You can find an excellent guide to budgeting, including a template from Martin Lewis on the Money Saving Expert site here.

Here are some useful tips you may find handy to save some cash or get your finances in shape for 2016 Part II - all road-tested by the Hobbis family.

Lots of them you will already have heard of but it never hurts to have a reminder, does it?

Use Direct Debits (1)

Arrange to pay your bills by direct debit - including your credit card bills. It is too easy to forget to pay your monthly credit card bill which means you accrue interest and your credit rating may be affected - even by missing one payment.

Check out Guarantor Loans (2)

If you need a loan but your credit history is poor, or you haven't yet built up a credit history, take a look at guarantor loans where you can borrow up to £10,000 if you can get someone else to guarantee your loan for you. This means that if you have trouble paying, they will step in and make the repayments for you. Make sure you understand all the terms and conditions you are signing up to though.

Do your comparison shopping (3)

Don't buy anything online without checking whether there is a voucher discount code or cash back available from sites like topcashback.co.uk, myvouchercodes.co.uk or dealsdaddy.co.uk.

Invest in a restaurant discount card (4)

You can save significant amounts off eating out and taking kids to the cinema with a subscription card like Tastecard which can quickly pay for itself as it has loads of 2 for 1 deals or 50% at restaurants around the UK.  We use ours at Pizza Express for example.

Take a thermos (5)

Invest in a thermos.  When you out and about you can save a fortune on coffee shop lattes or just fill it with water to keep it cool and carry a Robinsons Squashd mini squash pod to give the kids a drink.

Get off and walk (6)

Walk some of the way - get off the bus a stop or two earlier.  It's a great way to build in some extra exercise.  In general we try to leave the car at home as much as possible to save on fuel costs.

Create a kids' party stash (7)

Buy kids' birthday cards, wrapping paper and party presents when you see them and in the sale. Create a mini stash so that you won't be caught out when that party invite card appears and you have 2 days to find a present.

Use your loyalty cards (8)

If for no other reason than that you might accrue enough points to give yourself a mini treat to perk you up when money is tight. I find that the Boots Advantage Card is quite generous, although Boots is not the cheapest chemist by far.  It does mean that I can have yet another red lippie to cheer myself up completely free.

Check out Ebay and learn how to snipe (9)

I saved a fortune buying kids' clothing bundles for my two when they were younger and I learned how to use a bid sniper which automatically bids for you up to an amount you specify to hopefully win the item during the final stages of bidding.  You know when a bid appears from nowhere topping yours and snatching your coveted item from under your nose, or when the price starts to rocket?  That's bid sniping in action.  You never know when they're there but you can do the same.  Try Goofbid.com where you can set up your own sniper using your current Ebay log in details.

You could also sell lots of the toys, books and kids' clothes you no longer want on Ebay too. Be aware though that there may be sellers fees and listing fees, plus an extra charge for using Paypal.  You need to do the maths to ensure that you are actually making a profit.

Create a savings jar (10)

At the end of each day, just chuck your loose change into it - perhaps 20ps and 50ps.  You'll be amazed how the total will rise or try the 365 day 1p savings challenge I mentioned earlier.

Check out Aldi and Lidl (11)

Since we swopped to Aldi about 9 months ago we have saved a small fortune.  I would say our weekly shopping basket (including the odd treat like a bunch of flowers or sweets) is about 30% less than the big four supermarkets without sacrificing the quality.  In fact, the quality of some of the produce is better.

I have also found that items such as Easter eggs and particularly their Christmas produce is excellent and much cheaper.  If you prefer to have everything branded, Aldi and Lidl may not be for you but I think once you see how much you save, like me, you'll probably wish you had started shopping there earlier.

Buy Own Brand rather than Premium Brand (12)

If you don't have an Aldi or Lidl near buy, you can also save quite a bit by choosing the supermarkets' own brands.  Very often food stuffs are produced in the same factory and then packaged into the different brand packaging with the accompanying variation in price.

We have tried this with various success, the only notable failure being coffee.  Pricier though it is, we still love our Gold Blend.

Write your Christmas present list now (13)

Lastly, I know it is ridiculously early but write your Christmas list now - particularly what you plan to put in the kids' stockings if you have them.  I always find it's relatively easy to budget for their main presents but I end up spend way too much on bits and pieces to go in their stocking.

Why not assign a financial limit for things like Christmas stockings and start to buy small items as you see them to avoid that mad panic in the last week of December. It's also a good time to buy teachers' presents or the general gifts you might give to people like your milkman or the window cleaner.

Hide them all in a drawer somewhere out of the way of prying eyes and little fingers.

The trick with all these tips is to work out ways to save money without compromising on your quality of life.  It can be done.

If you adopt some of these tips then you may be able to create a Christmas fund to relieve some of the pressure on your finances at the most expensive time of year.

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Relationship Dilemmas - What Was I Asked In Week 26?

As you may know, I spend a lot of time responding to the questions I am asked about dating & relationships on Quora.com and I thought I'd share some of my answers with you in case you are going through anything similar.


Obviously I am not an expert but I am a 50-something married mum of two with quite a few years' experience under my belt. I take the view that, sometimes, you need to hear it like you would from your own mother - however tough the truth may be.

Here's just some of the questions I've been asked this week.

Q: My wife is accidentally pregnant and is saying I have ruined her life. She's now so depressed that she's threatening my life. Gone crazy. What should I do? 

A: Your wife will be very hormonal and her moods may well be all over the place - that’s natural with pregnancy. But this sounds like a huge over-reaction. 

Do you have any idea why she feels this way? What have you ‘ruined’ - her career? her figure? When you say she is ‘threatening your life’ do you mean literally or is she just so angry she’s saying things like “I could kill you for this”? 

I would suggest she needs to see a doctor for some counselling to help her decide what to do next but you also need some support for you too. 

Do you have any relatives close by who could help? Could anyone come and stay with you for a bit? Does she have a mum or sister who could come and help her? 

You don’t mention contraception but if you were using something which didn’t work then that is hardly your fault. If you weren’t using contraception then both of you are responsible - she had the choice to protect herself by using contraception too. 

This doesn’t make it any easier of course but blaming you is hardly going to help her deal with the pregnancy. 

It also sounds like there is a huge gulf between the two of you in terms of how you feel about each other and where the relationship is headed - I assume you knew she didn’t want children? 

When things are calmer, I think you need to do some serious talking. If you feel your life is seriously under threat then you must leave immediately. I hope things work out for you. 

Q. What does it mean when your boyfriend is always texting other girls but doesn't tell you?

A: It may be that he has lots of female friends but it’s the fact that he doesn’t tell you that is suspicious, unless you are very jealous and possessive and he is too afraid to tell you.
How do you know he is always texting other girls - are you checking his phone without him knowing?
If it were me, I’d be asking what he’s up to because, on the face of it, it sounds like there are other girls in the picture.
Q: How do I show my boyfriend that I want to be a bigger part of his life?

We've been dating for around 8 months.  We're both divorced and we both have some issues opening up but it's clear we have a connection. Lately we’ve been seeing less of each other, and when we do we don't go out. In the beginning we met family, did a lot together, now he always seems to have an excuse - too buy with work etc.

A: I can tell that you are very keen on your boyfriend, but is it possible that you are coming on too strong and pushing for a commitment or at any rate more involvement than he is willing to give right now?


It sounds to me as if he is back tracking a little unless he really is busy with work.
You don’t say what the ‘issues’ are but I suspect these are at the heart of the problem. Was his divorce amicable? Is his ex-wife still around? Are there children?
Demanding to be a bigger part of his life won’t work if he is just getting over the trauma of a tricky divorce. He’ll want less stress, not more.
I think a heart-to-heart is in order - after all it has been 8 months - to see how he is feeling and whether, rather than pushing for more attention, you might be better off seeing how you could offer support.
You also need to work out what the ‘connection’ is - because it may be that, on his side, it’s friendship whereas on your side it’s clearly more.
Good luck!

Q: My best friend and I can't live without each other. She's dating another who doesn't treasure her.  I am in love with her.  What do I do?


A: Hard though it is, I think you need a little reality check. Your friend is dating someone else and, although you clearly think the ‘other’ isn’t good enough for her, unless she has said she is unhappy you really shouldn’t interfere.
Does she know how you feel about her or have you not told her because you don’t want to lose her?
If she does know, then you need to decide whether being second best is good enough for you, unless you think there’s a chance the situation may change.
If she doesn’t know then all you can do is tell her how you feel - but if you do that, the nature of your friendship may well change.
I hope things resolve in your favour.
Q: Should I text this to the guy I have a crush on? "What would you say if I told you I liked you and wished we could hang out together more"?

A: If you are at the stage where you are prepared to risk being rejected then yes, but has this guy given any indication he likes you?

How well do you know him? Does he know YOU like him? If he doesn’t he may well find your text a bit odd.

It’s very easy to hide behind phone calls / texts / social media but real relationships are based on talking and face to face contact.

Why don’t you just ask him out for a coffee? If he says no thanks you have your answer without having told him about your crush.


Q: How do I tell my girlfriend that I have enlisted in the army?

A couple of times when I have asked her opinion about “how cool do you think the army is?”, she has conveyed that she wouldn’t date someone from the army because of how hard it is. The thing is, I signed the dotted line before I met her and we love each other and have been together for more than 6 months and I leave in 2 months.

A: I think you have to be honest and tell her right away - otherwise she’s in for a big shock.

Tell her you fibbed because you didn’t want to lose her and give her the chance to talk about her fears.

It is possible she does not want an ‘army life’ but I’m afraid you are going to have to address this now because otherwise your relationship going forward will continue to be based on a lie.


Q: Let's say I get a woman over 40 pregnant. What would be the odds of the baby having some debilitating birth defect?

A: The risks of abnormalities increase after the age of 35. I am not a doctor but I had my babies at 43 and 45.

With my first I had a nuchal translucency scan to assess for the likelihood of Downs syndrome and other chromosomal abnormalities. With my second I had amniocentisis.

My point is that the risks increase but that the defects can be tested for.

A bigger issue is the decision whether to continue a pregnancy where defects are indicated - and even then sometimes you don’t know until the baby is born.

Will you be able to stand by your woman and support her in the making of that decision if need be?

That’s the real issue here.


Q: If, on a second date, there is no kissing and no escalation physically or much flirting, but the date went well aside from that, is that a sign that a third date is unlikely? Or are some people just slower?

This is a general question, but it's based on a real scenario. Our first date went exceedingly well, but on the second date it felt like it had de-escalated physically. The girl was less flirtatious by far than on the first date, and gave no 'chances' or hints at all, compared to the first, for any physical contact. I'm trying to tell if some people are just like that, or if it's a sign of disinterest / fizzling out.

A: Easy tiger! What happened to taking things slow and getting to know one another? It sounds to me that you are just after sex and not really interested in a relationship. Your description of “the girl” is less than flattering.

I’m not surprised she is pulling back if she senses you’re only after one thing.

Women aren’t machines you know. What about wooing, showing interest, complimenting her? What on earth do you mean by “chances”?!

I’d dial back your enthusiasm before you get yourself in trouble, otherwise you’ll never get that third date.


Q: Is it unrealistic or presumptuous of me to think that people should take more consideration and time before they prepare to have children?

I often find that people (including myself) love our own children very much, but often refuse to admit any mistakes in regards to their upbringing because they’ve done “everything” they can for them. I find ourselves talking about how we ‘should’ do things instead of “walking the talk” so to speak.

A: A bit unrealistic. Until you have kids you really have no idea what it’s like to be a parent and you just have to feel your way day to day and learn as you go. We all make mistakes but we have to forgive ourselves and, in most cases, our kids do just fine.

I don’t know if you are familiar with the writer Louise Hay but she says that we should all forgive our parents because they were only doing the best they could at the time as they simply didn’t know anything different.

I’m obviously not excusing child cruelty here but I think there’s a lot of truth in Louise’s words.

I think one of the biggest challenges of parenthood is learning to live with guilt - but ultimately it’s the struggle to be better that makes us good parents and makes us grow as people.


Q: My brother's girlfriend is harassing my daughter via phone, text and social media. I have all the proof so what can I do now? 

A: How close are you to your brother? And how bad is the harassment? Are we talking constant badgering / insulting? Has there been physical violence?

If it were me and it was that bad, I would have told my brother in no uncertain terms that his girlfriend’s treatment of his niece is completely unacceptable and that you don’t want to play hardball with the evidence but if it doesn’t stop immediately there will be consequences (you don’t need to specify).

How has it been allowed to escalate to this stage?

BEFORE you speak to your brother though, you need to be absolutely sure that your daughter has no part to play in this situation. You don’t say how old she is.

I would make very certain you have ALL the facts just in case your daughter isn’t completely the innocent party in all this.

Whilst you have these conversations your daughter needs to block this girl on social media and her phone or change her phone number. I’m a little unsure as to why this hasn’t already been done, although I guess it’s to allow you to gather ‘evidence’.

I think with a bit of swift action and a few open conversations this could be swiftly nipped in the bud.


Q: Me and my ex-girlfriend are still dating but she is not ready to marry me. She has told me that she is going to dinner with a man introduced to her by her parents.What should I do?

A: Firstly, how can she be your ‘ex’ girlfriend when you are still dating. She is either your girlfriend or she isn’t and the fact that she is not ready to marry you suggests she is stringing you along.

I think she is gently trying to tell you that she is moving on and you should do the same. Her parents have obviously decided her future lies elsewhere and it doesn’t sound like she is putting up much resistance.

This doesn’t sound if it’s going anywhere and you deserve better.


Q: Is it possible to repair a relationship after you've been cheated on?

A: Perfectly possible but the question is at what cost? If you can forgive that is one thing but I think a lot of people would struggle with the forgetting.

If this was a one off, then possibly you can get over it, agree it was a mistake and move on on the basis that the person they cheated with was completely out of the picture and you could rebuild your trust in your partner.

If this wasn’t a one-off or the rival is still around then, personally, I would leave and find myself someone I could trust who would treat me with respect.

I think you do need to look at your role in the relationship too though - did you do anything that led to your partner being unfaithful? It’s very easy to blame others and ignore our own part in the drama.

No, it doesn’t excuse the cheating but a bit of self analysis may help you go forward to your next relationship in a stronger, more confident frame of mind.


Q. I have two ex-girlfriends who mean the world to me. I will not settle for letting go. How do I get one back?

A: Did they both leave you? In which case, I’m not sure you can and if you left them, why on earth did you if they meant that much to you?

It sounds like you are wallowing in nostalgia for happier times and possibly forgetting the reasons why these relationships did not work.

Why would things be different now?

You make it sound as if these girls were your possessions - were you perhaps a little too jealous or possessive?

You say you will “not settle for letting go” which is not a particularly healthy attitude towards your relationships. Do you have a fear of commitment or getting too close to people which leads you to push them away when you really don’t want to?

There is no reason why you cannot remain friends but I think you need to be honest with yourself about the reason why you want not just one, but two of them back.

Perhaps you need to work on your self confidence a little and look to the future where you will meet someone who is right for you.


How would you have responded to these questions?  You can find more dating advice on my problem page.

All materials included in this post are intended for informational purposes only. This post/information is not intended to and should not be used to replace medical or psychiatric advice offered by physicians or other health care providers. The author will not be liable for any direct, indirect, consequential, special, exemplary or other damages arising therefrom.
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Wednesday, 29 June 2016

Tips For Caring For Elderly Relatives At Home


I recently wrote about the challenges of caring for your elderly parents while they still live at home and just recently this has become a little more important to us due to the fact that Mum has had rather a patchy year of it so far, health wise.

Flickr:  Artis Rams
My parents are in their late 70s and still fully mobile and I have to say that I would far prefer to look after them at home for as long as possible before considering residential care.

But I am increasingly aware that, for them to live at home in comfort and safety, we will eventually have to make some changes to their house.

It's amazing what you have to think of when it comes to avoiding accidents - for example, my parents have had to swop to a cool wall toaster in case Mum touches it when she is unwell.  (She suffers from Temporal Lobe Epilepsy).

Then there's things like installing a handrail alongside the steps which lead down to their house and another to help them to walk down their sloping drive which is treacherous in icy weather.

Eventually we may have to consider adapting their bathroom to include a walk-in bath or shower when Dad is no longer able to lift Mum or creating a wet room.

I'm sure many of you will identify with the difficult line we have to tread between offering advice and help and being seen to 'take over' or dent our elderly relatives' pride.

It has taken Dad a while to be able to openly admit that having help sometimes is nice and he is much better at asking for help and sharing his worries with my sister Sarah and I.

But I find I often sound like I am nagging these days if I ask if they've had the heating on (the house is often like an igloo) or whether they are eating enough.

One of the things I am able to do is to invite them around to ours (we live literally a 10 minute walk away) for lunch to feed them up.

I think it is really important to maintain regular contact with your elderly relatives.  I find it heartbreaking when I read of old people who are in residential care yet receive no visitors. Their loneliness must be terrible.

My lovely mum
There are things we can do to help out - as long as we offer this help as tactfully as possible and gauge whether we are hurting feelings.  It's all about open and honest communication.

Here are some suggestions you could do if, like me, you're in that delicate position of recognising that a bit more help is needed, whilst not wanting to tread on toes.

I am, however, in the lucky position of living close by and with both parents currently able to look after one another.

For example:-

- invite them for meals

- batch cook at home (soups, stews, pasta dishes) and pop a few portions round in air tight containers to put in their freezer

- buy larger amounts of fruit and veg and let them have the surplus (very easy if you are a member of a cash and carry, such as Costco)

- offer to drive them to town once a week or to their supermarket to do the weekly shop

- carry out simple gardening tasks (hedge trimming, weeding, planting some perennials or herbs in pots).

- arrange for the laundering of big items such as blankets or duvets or take items to the dry cleaners

- wash the windows

- clean the house, even if it's just whizzing around with a vacuum.

- do their ironing

This is all basic stuff and I'm sure you will have many ideas of your own. The tricky part might be getting your elderly relatives to agree to let you help out with some of these!

If you live far away from your parents or elderly relatives, you may be relying on a paid carer or assistance from Social Services and your hands may well be tied in terms of what you can do to help - in which case an honest conversation with your elderly relatives might be the best way to see whether they are coping.

There is always something that can be done to help with the added bonus that knowing our elderly relatives are being looked after and their stress minimised makes both their, and our lives, just that little bit less stressful.

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Monday, 27 June 2016

Choosing The Best Child Car Seat For Your Little One

When you are planning your budget for the arrival of your new baby, one of the most important items to include, apart from the pram or pushchair, is the safest and most secure child car seat you can afford.

Flickr credit: Jon Pinder 
The car accident statistics make grim reading. Each year around 25 children between 0-11 years are killed while travelling in cars with approximately 250 sustaining a serious injury and around 6,000 being slightly injured.

Even if you don't have a car yourself, if you are planning to travel anywhere by car, the law says that children under 3 must be in a child car seat.

If you do have a car but you don't have room for a third child seat in the back of your car, children aged three or under can use the front seat but they must be in a child car seat.

The only exception to this rule is if it's in a licensed taxi or minicab and the rear seats are separated from the driver by a fixed partition and the child travels on the rear seats. If you ignore the law you are liable to a fine of £500.

I don't know about where you live, but here in Cardiff although we have some of the traditional black 'London' cabs, most taxis are saloon cars where there is certainly no partition.

In fact, UK law currently says that children must use a child car seat until they're 12 years old or 135 cm (4 ft 5 in) tall, whichever comes sooner.

In Ireland and in some European countries such as Germany and France, this height limit is higher at 150 cm (4 ft 11 in).

As children grow, the type of child car seat they can use changes until, eventually, they progress to what is known as a child booster seat.

For the first time parent, buying a child car seat can be quite daunting.  Not only are there loads of brands to choose from, but the car seats are classified in groups:-

Group 0+ - weight 13 kg, age birth to 12/15 months
Group 0/1 - weight 18 kg, age birth to 4 years
Group 1 - weight 9 - 18 kg, age 9 months to 4 years
Group 1,2,3 - weight 9-36 kg, age 9 months to 12 years
Group 2/3 - weight 15-36 kg, age 3 years to 12 years

So, to choose the right seat for your little one, you have to consider not only their age but their size too.

Then there is the choice between rear facing seats, where the baby obviously faces the back of the car seat and forward facing seats for older children.

Safety experts say that rear facing seats are safer than forward facing seats for children under 4 years old and advise that young children should be kept in rear facing seats for as long as possible. Despite this, generally, according to The British Medical Journal, many babies are switched from a rear facing to a forward facing seat at 9 kg or around 8 to 9 months.

Then there is a wealth of other safety factors and design features to consider for example, recline positions, the ease of adjusting the straps on the safety harness, compatibility with adult seat belts, washable cushions and a booster cushion for newborns who may be too tiny for even the starter car seat.



There are also loads of accessories to go with your car seat, from waterproof covers to toys you can attach to keep your little one occupied when on the road.

You can also buy pram systems where the child car seat can be attached to the pram frame so that you can lift baby straight of the car and onto the pram wheels without having to transfer them over from the car seat to the pram - no fun in pouring rain and a gale I can tell you!

There is so much to consider that your best bet is to find a child car seat retailer who offers the widest choice and helps you compare the different makes and models at a glance, such as Online4baby.com.

Online 4 Baby is the UK's cheapest online baby megastore and offers a wide range of discounted travel systems, prams, pushchairs, twins, car seats, baby cots, furniture and nursery equipment stockists of top brands including Graco, Cosatto, Baby Jogger, Mamas and Papas, Hauck at discounted prices.

In addition, the company has had over 255,000 positive reviews and is ranked the No. 1 top rated power seller in the UK for nursery products.

Whatever you choose, be sure that you are buying the best child car seat you can afford for your children and keep yourself appraised of the latest Government rules and regulations.

And don't be afraid to ask for advice. The best child car seat retailers won't hesitate to answer all your questions - and don't worry, you're sure to have quite a few.

I know we did!

A note on child backless booster seats - at present, children weighing as little as 15 kg (2 stone 5 lbs) can travel in backless booster seats but from the end of 2016 the rules about using these are changing. You can read about them here
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Manage your sensitive bladder with Always Discreet

I am participating in a sponsored campaign hosted by Always Discreet®. I received free samples from P&G. All opinions stated are my own. 

If there’s one issue which unites many women and yet is rarely discussed, it’s having a sensitive bladder and coping with the occasional leaks that come with it.

There's nothing like letting your hair down and having a good laugh

It’s a problem which is very common after childbirth and as we enter our later years when our bodies naturally change as we get older. In fact more than 40 million women of all ages in America alone experience bladder leaks, ranging from those who are middle aged or menopausal, to those who have been pregnant, or are overweight or diabetic.

And in the hot summer weather, it’s even more of a challenge for us to stay dry and fresh at the times when it’s most important to us whether at work or on holiday, attending a summer wedding or graduation ceremony or even a hot date.

Having a sensitive bladder also affects your choice of wardrobe - one pieces, playsuits, jumpsuits - anything it takes an age to get out of are no-no's and you can hardly wear your sexiest underwear or anything in a light, bright colour.

My bladder has always been sensitive. It’s a family joke that I am unable to travel more than 20 miles without needing a toilet. And the Husband is now very familiar with most of the motorway service stations between Cardiff and Plymouth whilst he would think nothing of travelling the length of the country without stopping for more than 5 minutes and a quick coffee.

Having a love of tea and coffee (both diuretics) really hasn’t helped either but I have managed to kick my Diet Coke habit (which is another bladder irritant).

I was doing fine until I had kids. I had two caesarians 18 months apart and whilst I was blithely confident that, despite this procedure being a pretty hefty piece of surgery I would recover entirely, I suspect that the pregnancies themselves have left a legacy of a bladder which is prone to leak slightly when I cough, sneeze or if I go for too long without a loo break.

I know that some women experience a slight leakage when they laugh as well and I have occasionally had this problem. Mind you, the Husband says I have suffered a catastrophic sense of humour failure since having kids and it certainly feels like that some days!

Exercising is another activity which can trigger a leak, again, if I haven’t had a loo stop before starting the class.

Two of the products in the Always Discreet range - there's also Always Discreet Pants
Now it’s very difficult to predict when you are going to cough or sneeze, and you can’t always get to the toilet in time. Ordinary panty liners are just not up to the job but Always Discreet have a great range of products designed with women’s needs in mind – providing incredible comfort, protection, discretion and odour control, with a full line of pads, liners and underwear, specifically made for bladder leak protection. You really don’t want to go out feeling as if you’re wearing a nappy.

The Always Discreet Liners are incredibly thin yet very absorbant
Always Discreet absorbs leaks and odours in seconds – and the best part is that they’re so comfortable and surprisingly thin, you will barely feel like you’re wearing any protection at all.

Research shows than only 1 in 7 women are using the right protection, with lots of us relying on period protection which just won’t handle the job. Always Discreet on the other hand has a super absorbent core that turns liquid to gel in seconds, to help keep you dry and fresh.

The Always Discreet Pads are wrapped just like sanitary protection
The OdorLock™ Technology neutralizes urine odor instantly and continuously whilst the pads and underwear also have Soft Dual LeakGuard barriers™ which offer incredible comfort and protection to help stop leaks at the leg, where they happen most.

The Always Discreet Pads offer the extra reassurance of Soft Dual Leakguard barriers 
Using proper bladder protection means that rather than worrying about the odd leak, you can focus on enjoying yourself. It’s pretty miserable, isn’t it, having to plan days out (particularly with the kids in tow) to ensure the right number of toilet stops ‘just in case’ or carrying extra pairs of knickers stuffed in your handbag.

Always Discreet helps you to cope with the natural body changes that are part of being a woman, so that you are not held back from the activities you love.

Always Discreet products are available in all major supermarkets and pharmacies and larger department stores in the incontinence aisle (if only there were a nicer word for it!).

You can also find them on Facebook.

Do you suffer from a sensitive bladder?  Share your story below. The more of us who open up about this problem, the more women like us will have the confidence to address the problem.

And with Always Discreet, no matter what's happening, you'll be able to #LaughAllYouWant.

I am participating in a sponsored campaign hosted by Always Discreet®. I received I received free samples from P&G. All opinions stated are my own.
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