Relationship Dilemmas - What Was I Asked In Week 25?

Here are some of the questions about dating, relationships and health I have been asked this week from my readers on Quora.com.

I share my answers just in case you are going through anything similar - after all, a problem shared is a problem halved as they say.

Whilst I am not a professionally qualified psychologist or mediator, I am a 50-something married mum of two with quite a few years' experience under my belt.

I take the view that, sometimes, you need to hear it like you would from your own mother - however tough the truth may be.

Here are just some of the questions.

Q: Am I crazy for staying with my cheating husband of only 3 months?

A: I’m really sorry to hear this. Is this new cheating or has it been going on before the wedding? 

Did you suspect? Has he admitted it or is this just worry on your part? You do need some proof before you take action. 

If you have no doubt, I’m afraid I would kick his sorry backside out and cut my losses. If he’s cheating he’s making a mockery of your marriage vows. 

You don’t say if you have kids but if you don’t and you are considering them, this is not the right situation to bring them into. I hope things sort themselves out for you.

Q. My boyfriend does amazing things for me but he works so hard to do them. How do I convince him he doesn't need to do this? 

A: Some people express their love through giving. That’s just the way they are and actually, not appreciating these gestures can sometimes feel like a rejection to them. 

Can’t you just enjoy being spoiled? 

Lots of women would give their eye teeth to have your problem. It may be that your boyfriend worries about losing you and is overcompensating so as long as he knows that you love him and you are occasionally spoiling him in return, I’d say that’s fine. 

Rather than worrying about him overexhausting himself, it would be more useful to sometimes turn the tables and run him a hot bath or cook his favourite meal - be creative. 

Don’t turn this into a psychological issue that needs solving - it all sounds fine to me! 

Q: Me and my boyfriend are both introverts and we have nothing to talk about.  How do I fix this?

I have known this guy since 2 years. But we started dating only recently. I’m silent and shy too. We don’t have much to share and speak about. What should I do? I have heard people telling that ‘if you don’t have much to talk about then your relationship will never work’ Is it true?

A: I think you need to find a shared hobby or interest that you can do together - art, museum visits, theatre? 

There’s nothing wrong with being introverted but there is a problem if you have nothing to say to one another. 

Having nothing in common is not the same as you both being shy. It sounds like you don’t really know each other very well and if you want the relationship to last, one, or both of you, needs to start talking.

Q: This guy I like takes forever to text back but yet he's on social media the entire day & doesn't text me back for hours…Why is that?

It really irks me because people make time for other people & I don't think I'm overreacting because he's on the phone so I'm guessing I'm not that important to text back… Right? He took an interest in me & I started showing interest back now he's not texting as much it feels like.

A: How do you know he is always on the phone or social media? Have you got him on 24 hour watch?

Seriously, it sounds like you’re a little obsessed with tracking his every move which he is probably finding a little intense or annoying.

If he’s interested in you he will contact you but monitoring him is a quick way to make him lose interest. 

I suspect he’s well aware that you are desperate for him to contact you but I think you need to concentrate on other people, go out and have fun and step away from social media. 

Have a little pride. Be a little more mysterious and hard to pin down. You may well find there is a message for you when you come back.

Q: How do you heal emotional wounds after breakups?

I really was convinced that he was the one, he kept confirming that to me. But when something went wrong for him, it would always be my fault. He kept guilt-tripping me and was highly suspicious and jealous. He liked to control the friends I went out with and if I didn't obey his 'rules', he would yell at me and belittle me.

I later found out that he was lying about drug abuse and had cheated on me but he still made me think it was all my fault. I broke all contact with him, but I know he is running me down to all of our friends - calling me a psycho and a crazy bitch. He is much more sociable than me and seems to have won them over too.

I am completely devastated and my self esteem is now so low that I feel it was all my fault and he has won. Can anybody help me move past this?

A: This man seems deeply unpleasant, emotionally controlling and abusive. I honestly think, despite your pain, you are much better off without him.

If you are struggling with your feelings I strongly suggest you seek counselling to move past this and to understand why you feel you deserve such treatment and put up with it. 

Hopefully you will then be able to leave him in the past - where he belongs - and move forward to meet someone with whom you can have a healthy loving relationship which makes you happy.

Q: What does a girl mean when she says "I feel I've misled you"?

I was on a date with a girl, she got drunk, and became a little seductive, so on the way back in the car i touched her hair.. later on she told me that she has a feeling she misled me. what does she mean? does she mean she wasn't into me? or only that she didn't mean to seduce me?

A: I think it means she regrets your encounter and is not interested in pursuing a romantic relationship.

I know that’s probably not what you want to hear but without asking her directly it’s hard for anyone to advise.

Next time though, you might want to think twice about seducing a girl who is drunk. Had circumstances been different, you may well have found yourself in quite a bit of trouble.

Have a chat with her to see how things stand between you.

Q: What does a guy mean when he says "I'm just really busy"?

I had a great first date with this guy.  I texted him afterwards and we texted back and forth. I asked him out for a second date and he told me "I'm really busy at the moment but it sounds really fun".  I asked him jokingly if this is a rejection or a postponement? He didn't answer directly, he just said he was really busy.

A: I think you need to stop chasing him and try to be a little more cool and mysterious. From the sound of it he likes you but isn’t interested in a second date  - for the moment at least

If he’s reluctant to commit because he really is too busy, you’ll find out soon enough. 

In the meantime, get busy yourself - go out and have some fun and flirt with a few guys who DO have some spare time.

Q: How does a guy feel if another woman shows an interest in him when he already has a loving girlfriend? 

A: I imagine most men would feel flattered. Their next reaction will depend on how they feel about their current girlfriend.

If they are happy in their relationship, the interest shown will swiftly become a bit irritating if it continues when they have made it clear they are happy and have no interest in pursuing someone else.

Or, if they aren’t happy, then perhaps they will reciprocate.

If you are really asking if it’s OK to flirt with a guy who is happily coupled up, then I’d say it is alright for some light flirtation, but you’d be better off concentrating your attention on a guy who is single and looking for a relationships, than trying to break up a happy couple.

Q: My girlfriend broke up with me because she said she needed space and couldn't be in a relationship right now.  What does it mean? 

I met this girl in university and we dated for a couple of years, one of which was a long distance relationship between the UK and Central Europe. She broke up with me at the beginning of June saying she wanted to focus on herself, wanted to travel and to be there for her family.  She said she doesn't want a relationship at the moment.  

A: Well she can’t really make it any clearer, can she? She doesn’t want a relationship with you and her priorities are travel and enjoying her independence.

I can tell that you don’t want to let her go but it would be better to concentrate on finding someone closer to home to develop a close, meaningful relationship with than pin your hopes on someone who, by the sound of it, has no intention of settling down for a long while.

Q: Why does my boyfriend keep fighting with me for a long time about the same topic and always wants me to do something his way? Does he really love me?

A: Without knowing what the topic you are arguing about is, it’s impossible to say. He may well love you but feel that you are being unreasonable - and that, long term, is likely to kill the relationship.

What is the issue you are fighting about - if it’s an important one you need to find common ground and negotiate a solution.

If neither of you will concede, then perhaps it is time to part.

If he is being controlling and abusive and trying to bully you into something you do not want to do, you would be better off without him in any case.

Q: Is it possible to get my baby's dad back together after 5 years apart and his new child has been born with someone else?

A: I would say it’s highly unlikely unless he is separated from his recent partner and has made some romantic overtures to you again.

Without knowing the exact details of your situation it’s impossible to be more specific.

It sounds like you are hurting terribly because of the new baby and want to hurt the mother of his latest child but this will not bring you any happiness and will just make you look vengeful and desperate.

You need to concentrate on maintaining a good relationship with your baby’s father for the sake of your child but I would say 5 years is too long a time to have passed to return to how things were.

Keeping on good terms with your baby’s dad is your best bet to seeing if there may be some slight hope in the future but trying to break up his existing relationship is likely to ensure he will never want to return to you.

Q. How common is it for the woman to do all the driving in a relationship?

How often do you see a couple where the girl always drives the car? Has the number increased over the years? Do people still find it weird if the girl’s on the driver’s seat while the guy is the passenger?

A: I have never noticed and even if I did, I wouldn’t think anything of it. In the UK it is a common practice for the wives and girlfriends to drive so that their partner can have a drink.

Unless you are suggesting that letting a woman drive is somehow emasculating, I can’t see the problem.

If on the other hand, you aren’t driving because your girlfriend won’t let you then that’s another issue. If you can’t drive, obviously lessons are the answer otherwise I’d be happy you have a chaffeur.

How would you have responded to these questions? You can also send me your own at Quora or drop me a line in the comments below.

More dating advice on my problem page.

All materials included in this post are intended for informational purposes only. This post/information is not intended to and should not be used to replace medical or psychiatric advice offered by physicians or other health care providers. The author will not be liable for any direct, indirect, consequential, special, exemplary or other damages arising therefrom.

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A Fast & Frantic Card Game The Kids Will Love - Gobbit

Gobbit is a fast and frantic card game for 2-8 players that demands strong powers of observation, steadfast concentration and the reflexes of a ninja.

It's like a rather violent game of Snap where the winner is the last player to still have some cards left.

The cards feature four animals in three colours, all of whom eat one another based on their colour and a rigid food chain: the chameleons eat the flies, the snakes eat the chameleons, and the gorilla eats anything.

You take it in turns to reveal the top card in your pile but you need to have your wits about you – slap your animal to defend it from a predator’s attack, or slap your opponent’s animal to ‘eat’ it and claim their pile!

This gets trickier the more players there are because you have to work out where to slap.

Once a player’s lost all their cards, they stay in the game in their new guise as a ghost. This means they can slap any matching pairs they spot between the remaining players.  This obviously doesn't work when there are only two of you playing!

The winner is the one with the most cards at the end of the game.

We played the basic game but as you master the rules of the game, there are several other versions which are more complicated and more challenging - for example "Poltergeist" where if you run out of cards, you can become a poltergeist and attach any cards that form a pair.

Our game also came with a beginners' wristband in white which allows us to join the Gobbit Federation.

Caitlin and I were the test team as Gobbit is really suitable for kids aged 7 and over.  Ieuan still doesn't have the patience at the moment, although each game of Gobbit can be completed in about 10 minutes.

We did find that it took us quite a while to understand how to play which, for younger kids, might mean they get a little impatient and Gobbit is clearly a game which is more fun with a larger number of players.

It's also a game that you have to play quite a bit to master

Gobbit, for ages 7+, is priced at £14 and available to buy from www.RulesofPlay.co.uk. Each game also comes with a wristband which permits entry into all Gobbit tournaments taking place in stores throughout the UK.

I think Gobbit is an ideal game to throw in a suitcase to take on holiday with you to keep the kids entertained on rainy afternoons. It would also be a great party game for adults.

I think I'll be wearing the white wristband for quite a while though!

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Sicily’s Best Seaside Holidays

For a perfect family summer vacation there is nothing better than relaxing in the warm sands of the best beaches in the Mediterranean, surrounded by nature and spectacular habitats where rare species of flora and fauna complement the diversity of the environment.

Beautiful Sicily

Sicily is the best choice for families because it has all of this and more, thanks to the rich geological transformation it has undergone over thousands of years as a result of the ongoing volcanic activity of the island - and also due to its strategic location, where diverse underwater currents and winds cross- making the region a transitory point for the migration of many species of birds and marine life.

In Sicily you can enjoy a picnic and a swim in the best pristine beaches of the island and its Aeolian and Egadi Archipelagos, or retreat inland to the fresh air of the mountains of Madonie, Nebrodi, Vendicari, and Etna to recharge your batteries and visit local agroturismo farms.

Best of all, you can rent the most beautiful Sicilian villas for your beach holidays in Sicily to make your stay more authentic at affordable prices- accessorized with swimming pools, terraces and luscious gardens- some with direct access.

At San Vito lo Capo (on the Trapani coast) you will marvel at its turquoise waters and soft sand, with the towering rocky cliffs of Monte Monaco looming overhead, making it a primary location for rock-climbing enthusiasts.

The pretty fishing village of Cefalù in the North is a piece of millennial history where the Lungomare beach (with the best pristine sands in Sicily) is located only a few steps from the streets of the old town and a short climb away from the scenic La Rocca promontory.

Mondello is a local spot for Palermitans and where you can experience the best of any beach - lush surrounding vegetation, and 1 ½ miles of white sand. After all, locals know best!

Lido de Fiori is designated as a blue-flag kid-friendly zone; a primary choice for families due to its shallow waters. Parents can enjoy a glass of wine from the regional specialties of nearby Selinunte.

Calà Mosche is rated as one of the most beautiful beaches in Italy; little known by most travellers, it is a small quiet haven with no bars, located in the Vendicari nature reserve and embraced by lush flora. It is only accessible by foot.

Which would you like to visit first?

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Tips To Make Your Family Holiday As Stress Free As Possible

Taking your children abroad on holiday is a great way to help with their development. There are many diverse benefits to travelling, especially when young, and it helps to instill these in your kids as early as possible.

Travel broadens the mind, as they say, and the earlier you begin that broadening process, the better it is for your kids in the long run. However, this is not to say that it is all a walk in the park.

As any parent knows, taking your family on holiday can unfortunately be filled with stress. The good news is that most of that stress is avoidable if you approach it in the right way.

Here are a few tips you may find useful.

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Book Ahead

This first tip is one which no family can really ignore. When you are planning for a family holiday, it is a great idea to book ahead and the truth is, the further ahead you book, the better.

Obviously you will book flights and accommodation and you should ensure that you book as early as possible. This has a couple of major benefits. Firstly, it saves you money - money which you can spend when you are actually on holiday and secondly, it gives you plenty of time to prepare for the trip. And that really does make all the difference. If you are looking for a stress-free holiday, then book your holidays early for 2017 now.

Prepare Thoroughly

Part of the preparation is booking everything of course. Once the booking has been taken care of, you need to ensure that you make everything as easy on the family as possible and, rightly or wrongly, this often falls to Mum to sort out! Part of this is ensuring that bags are packed correctly, for example checking luggage weight restrictions on your airline and making sure you are not packing banned items. It can be stressful organising this properly for an entire family, but it is worth it just for the peace of mind. I keep a packing checklist on my PC and print it off as a reminder every time we go away. At the end of the day, the more prepared you are, the better.

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Choose A Holiday Which Suits You

Many families end up randomly choosing a point on the globe and going there, or going to the same place year after year without trying anywhere new. However, this approach is unlikely to suit everyone and without considering everyone's needs, you might find yourself in a situation where nobody enjoys the holiday. This is bound to be a recipe for disaster. The truth is you actually need to pick a holiday which suits your family. Avoid miserable travel companions by thinking carefully about where you actually want to go and perhaps holding a family meeting to discuss everyone's needs and manage their expectations.

Research

Ultimately, the key to avoiding stress in any kind of family situation is to prepare as well as possible. In order to do that, you need to know everything there is to know about where you are going. That’s why you must get into the habit of carrying out diligent research. That way, you know what you are getting into. And when you know what you are getting into, you can make the experience a much more enjoyable one for everyone - and make sure you are going to be happy too!

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Win Skippy Peanut Butter & Pretzels - 5 Sets To Give Away

I've written before that, when he was much younger, Ieuan went through a serious 'peanut butter' phase when literally the only thing he'd eat was peanut butter and banana sandwiches.

Luckily now he's 7 at the end of June, he will eat foods of a colour other than brown, but his passion for peanut butter hasn't abated - and neither has mine.  I'd happily eat it off the spoon.

Actually, in one of my panic sessions about Ieuan's nutrient free diet, a vegetarian friend of mine pointed out that peanuts are packed with protein - just 1/4 of a cup contains 19% of the recommended daily intake. Plus peanuts are rich in monounsaturated fats which have been shown to decrease the risk of cardiovascular disease. So Ieuan wasn't doing so badly after all!

If you are considering giving peanut butter to your kids, here's the NHS' advice.

"Whole nuts, including peanuts, shouldn't be given to children under five, as they can choke on them. As long as there's no history of food allergies or other allergies in your family, you can give your baby peanuts once they're six months old, as long as they're crushed or ground into peanut butter."

You can, of course, also cook with peanut butter - peanut chicken satay, peanut butter cookies, even peanut butter fudge!

Our favourite brand of peanut butter is Skippy® which we load up with at our local Costco but you can find it in most supermarkets and I have 5 sets of peanut butter and pretzels to give away so that you can watch the Euros whilst snacking on something nutritious, or if you're avoiding the footie, whilst wading through the box set of your choice.

Each prize contains two 340g jars (one each of the following) and bag of pretzels to dip.

Skippy® Super Chunk® Peanut Butter - every jar is blended with loads of real peanut pieces so you get the fun flavour of SKIPPY® Peanut Butter, plus crazy amounts of crunchiness.

Skippy® Creamy Peanut Butter Spread  - the smooth, creamy cousin of  Skippy® Super Chunk® - and our favourite.

Find out more at www.peanutbutter.com where you can find a great range of snacking suggestions.

To enter the giveaway, simply click on the Rafflecopter below.  UK entrants only. Terms and conditions apply.  The giveaway ends at 11:59 pm on Sunday 10th July 2016.

Good luck.

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Relationship Dilemmas - What Was I Asked In Week 24?

I spend a lot of time responding to the questions I am asked about dating & relationships on Quora.com and I thought I'd share some of my answers with you in case you are going through anything similar.

Obviously I am not an expert but I am a 50-something married mum of two with quite a few years' experience under my belt. I take the view that, sometimes, you need to hear it like you would from your own mother - however tough the truth may be.

Here's just some of the questions I've been asked this week.

Q: My son brings a lot of girls to his room in our house.  He's 17 but I know what they're up to.  How can I make sure he's playing safe?

A: I get the feeling you are putting up with your son’s ‘dalliances’ because you are too hesitant to broach the subject with him.

I would not be happy for my kids to be having sex under my roof but I appreciate that this may be an old fashioned view for some.

But if you are not happy you have every right to raise this with your son. You are, after all, the adult and it’s your home.

I’m assuming you have discussed contraception and STDs with him, as well as the impact on his life were he to become a father. Then there’s the matter of treating women with respect and not putting himself in situations where sexual consent could be misconstrued.

Is there a trusted male you could get to have a ‘man to man’ talk with him?

If it were me I would frankly ban him from using my house as a ‘shag pad’ and set firm boundaries about what is and is not acceptable - suitable hours for these girls to appear for a start. Is he bringing them back at all hours of the day?

A reminder that his time might be better spent studying or working in order to build the kind of future which allows you to support kids might be in order.

I think if you don’t address this soon you are likely to be explaining your decision to adopt such a liberal approach to some of these girls’ parents.

You have my sympathy though - I have all this to come in a few years (I have a son and a daughter).

Good luck!

Q. When you are dating someone do you talk to them every day?

Some guys I have encountered lately claim they are interested in dating me but they rarely talk to me and only talk to me if I approach them first. We don't seem to have much to talk about and I don't want to seem too needy so I don't hit them up every day.

A: It sounds like you have absolutely nothing in common with these guys beyond physical attraction. Relationships based on this often fizzle out. You want a romance AND a friendship and when you have those it’s natural to talk daily or at least every other day or so.

Also, if it’s you doing all the ‘hitting up’ then it sounds like you are doing all the chasing which may turn them off.

Why not let them chase after you - that way you’ll know they are definitely interested and will be better able to assess whether you have anything in common with them.

I think you need to relax - it sounds like you are trying too hard.

Q: I don't have any feelings for my boyfriend, even though we're a perfect match on paper (academic achievements, temperament etc).  Should I let him go?

A: Yes you should. You want a boyfriend not a pet.

It’s not about ticking things off a list, it’s whether you feel a connection, whether there’s a spark. If there are no feelings, what’s the point?

You don’t need a relationship to validate you. I think you need to build your self confidence and focus on your achievements - then one day when you’re not looking you’ll find the guy who does make your heart beat faster.

Q: I want to date but I'm not allowed to.  What would be the best way to discuss this with my parents?

A: You don’t say how old you are. Whilst you are still a minor, your parents are responsible for your care and, annoying though it is, I’m sure they have your best interests at heart.

If you are 14 / 15 it might be worth asking for a bit more freedom but if you are younger than that, I think you just need to be patient and concentrate on more important things, like your school work.

Q: Is it OK not to be friends with your boyfriend on social media?

My boyfriend blocked me on all his social medias one time we fought. We made up but he is still blocking me on all his social media accounts. I asked him why, he said he would reinvite me when he feels like it. We are in a long distance relationship with about 9000 miles between us too. Is this normal? Should I be worried?

A: No it’s not normal and it’s extremely childish of him. It sounds like there is something on his social media accounts he doesn’t want you to see.

You say you have ‘made up’ but if that’s the case he has no excuse for blocking you on his accounts.

Why are you accepting this?

I would ask him for the last time to reinstate you and if he still will not, I think it’s time to end the relationship and find someone else.

His behaviour is deeply suspicious and I’m sure you can find someone who deserves you much more closer to home.

Q: I've been in a 3 year relationships with a 24 year old.  I'm 52.  We can't seem to make it work.  He says it's because I need to be submissive.  I disagree.  What do I do?

A: I am your age and to be honest I would not consider a relationship with someone as young as 24. You are both at completely different places in your life. 

Why would a 52 year old woman accept being told to be ‘submissive’ by a guy as young as that? In other words he’s saying “do what I want or it’s over” which is extremely immature.

You have been together for 3 years so there is obviously something there but in your position I would want a relationship with an equal to go forward in life with as a true partner.

Not to spend the next few years worrying about keeping my partner happy by kow-towing to his every whim.

If it was me, I find myself a sexy silver fox to worship the ground I walked on.

Q: Why does my ex say he loves me but he doesn't want to be with me?

A: I’m afraid it’s the oldest line in the book, usually trotted out by those who haven’t the guts to admit they want to break up.

There may be a chance of friendship later on down the line but for now I would take what he has said at face value and concentrate your efforts on finding someone new who does want to be with you.

Q: Is it normal for your partner to keep sleazy pictures of his exes on his phone?

A: How do you know - I’m assuming either you’ve been snooping or he has shown you?

It may be that, to him, they’re just photos but personally I would be a little suspicious.

Reading between the lines it sounds like you don’t trust him much and in your shoes I’d be looking for someone who is less concerned with keeping photos as trophies and more considerate of your feelings.

Q: Can I date my ex's sister who is unhappily married?

A: So you’re asking should you have an affair with the married sister of your ex-girlfriend.

The fact that the woman is unhappily married has nothing to do with it.

It sounds to me like you want to get one over on your ex by dating her sister.

Have you considered the feelings of everyone else involved? Your ex, her sister’s husband, the girls’ parents, any children?

Time to move on and find a new love a little less close to home. This has disaster written right across it.

The best revenge is a happy new relationship - not making yourself look an idiot by wrecking another family’s relationships on purpose.

Q: When will I know it's time to leave her?

A: This is a very odd question. It sounds like you already want to leave but are searching for a ‘sign’ that it’s the right time.

If you want to go, the right time is now because it is unfair to string her along.

You need to have the bottle to have ‘the talk’ - whether you DO want to leave now or whether there are aspects of your relationship which could be improved to allow it to continue.

Q: He's been ignoring my calls and texts for the last two months but I can't stop calling him. I need closure.  What do I do?

A: If he is ignoring you, you have all the closure you need. I understand that you are desperate to get him back but making a nuisance of yourself by constantly calling and texting him is really not working, is it?

Why did the relationship end? Were you unfaithful? Was he?

I think you need to talk to someone (a close friend or family member) about how you are feeling and possible a doctor too to help come up with some coping strategies before this behaviour turns into a full blown obsession.

How would you have responded to these questions?

You can find more dating advice on my problem page.

All materials included in this post are intended for informational purposes only. This post/information is not intended to and should not be used to replace medical or psychiatric advice offered by physicians or other health care providers. The author will not be liable for any direct, indirect, consequential, special, exemplary or other damages arising therefrom.

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New Releases, Free & Bargain Books Link-up 17 June 2016

It's turning into a typical British summer, isn't it?  We've been deluged this morning by torrential rain.  Actually I think it might have been caused by me putting a sun lounger out in the garden.  I have been planning to while away a few hours topping up my tan (well, going slightly less pasty, anyway) with a glass of something chilled and a good book - if only the sun would come out - and stay out!

I suspect my reading spot is more likely to be my favourite armchair as usual.  We are not going on holiday until August and then it will be to Devon - so kagools at the ready.

Perhaps you're off to more exotic climes and are looking for something to while away the hours on the beach or when you travel.

Here are the fab books on offer this week.  You're sure to find something that takes your fancy.

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Enjoy our selection of New Releases / Free & Bargain Books this week

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Authors please feel free to add your own books
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(any genre except erotica welcome)

This weekly link up is hosted by Beck Valley Books & these awesome book loving blogs...
Monday
 Life as Leels | IrishdaisylovesRomance | Book Babble | All Romance Reader
Tuesday
It's My Side of Life | Celticlady's Reviews | First Time Mommy Adventures | Bound 2 Escape
Wednesday
Beck Valley Books | A Library of Reviews | Cinnamon Hollow Reviews
Thursday
Miki's Hope | Taking Time for Mommy | Nicki's Nook
Friday
Ebook Addicts | I Love Romance | A Bit Bookish | Mother Distracted | Colorimetry
Saturday
Totally Addicted to Reading | 3 Partners in Shopping | Angie's Angle | I Creat Purty Thangs | Wishful Endings
Sunday
Lynchburg Mama | LibriAmoriMiei | Ali - The Dragon Slayer | Wondermom Wannabe | My Bizzy World |  Deal Sharing Aunt 

For Pre-orders post - PRE-ORDER / genre / title /author

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And don't forget you can always add some of your own!

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