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Friday, 17 March 2017

Will This Help Your Loved One To Reduce Their Smoking Habit?

It's a no brainer that giving up smoking is one of the best things you can do for your health. And we all know that smoking is an addiction which is hard to kick.

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For many smokers, including my Dad, quitting is something they just cannot do and for us non smokers (or those of us who managed to kick the habit a long time ago), it is very frustrating to watch them indulge in the habit.

It's even more frustrating where there are children in the picture and I think most parents and grandparents would do all they could to avoid exposing their kids to cigarette smoke.

Since 2007 smoking has been banned in all enclosed public places in the UK including pubs, bars and restaurants and all enclosed work places as a consequence of the Health Act 2006.

The law changed in 2015 to make smoking in a car in the presence of children (anyone under 18) an offence with a penalty fine of £50 if you're caught.  It appears that actual prosecutions for this have been negligible.

So what can you do if you want to encourage a smoker to stop?  They will be well aware of the risks to their health and, in my experience, there's nothing like nagging a smoker to make them more determined to persist with their habit.

One of the best things you can probably do is to encourage the smoker to cut down. My dad limits himself to smoking his pipe after 1 pm.  Pushing the time horizon for that first ciggie of the day may help.

Other options to try are nicotine gums and patches or trying vaping.

Vaping is inhaling vapour from e-liquid through a personal vapourizer - a tobacco free version of the traditional cigarette. E-liquids usually consist of propylene glycol or vegetable glycerin combined with natural or artificial flavours.

The jury is out on the long term effects of vaping but studies so far seem to indicate that vaping is better for you than the traditional cigarette.

Here's what the NHS has to say on the subject of vaping. There are clear indications though that the benefits are for those who swop entirely to vaping. You can't vape and smoke traditional cigarettes and expect to see any benefit.

Newer research also indicates that you still should NOT vape if you're pregnant.

As Cancer Research UK says, what we have here is the principle of harm reduction, where even though vaping is likely to be better than traditional cigarettes, the practice may not be entirely risk free.

It should be remembered too, that vaping still involves varying degrees of nicotine and the practice was never designed as a quitting aid.

Anecdotal evidence suggests too, that whereas the cost of smoking traditional cigarettes could easily be in excess of £300 in the UK, vaping could cost around £30 a month - a significant saving.

The long term aim of any smoker should obviously be to quit the habit entirely but as a way of mitigating immediate damage to their health (and their wallet), vaping seems to be a viable alternative.
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New Releases, Free & Bargain Books Link Up Week 12 2017

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How are you all this week?  I've been doing a bit of spring cleaning and have realised I now have so many books I need another bookcase.

My Kindle is equally stuffed with great reads but I am very fond of a hard copy book.

It's been the usual week, Tae Kwon-Do, swimming and ballet for the kids and, um, nowhere near enough exercise for me!

Once the weather gets a bit warmer I might have to take drastic action and dust off my trainers!

Did you catch my review of review of Scars (Time of Myths: Shapeshifter Sagas) by Natasha S. Brown?  If you like Tolkein and stories set in a fantasy world you'll love this one.

As usual, there are some great books on the linky - and don't forget you can always add your own to spread a bit of the book love.

Don't forget that I still have plenty to be won on my competitions page and don't forget my problem page here.

Happy bargain and freebie book hunting on this link.

Have a great week!

Sharing the Love of Books
Enjoy our selection of New Releases / Free & Bargain Books this week

Authors please feel free to add your own books
Readers please free to add your own finds
(any genre except erotica welcome)

This weekly link up is hosted by Beck Valley Books & these awesome book loving blogs...
Monday
 Life as Leels | IrishdaisylovesRomance | Book Babble | All Romance Reader
Tuesday
It's My Side of Life | Celticlady's Reviews | First Time Mommy Adventures 
Wednesday
Beck Valley BooksCinnamon Hollow Reviews
Thursday
Miki's Hope | Nicki's Nook
Friday
Ebook Addicts | I Love Romance | Colorimetry | The Ultimate Fan Blog Mother Distracted
Saturday
Totally Addicted to Reading | 3 Partners in Shopping | Angie's Angle I Create Purty Thangs | Wishful Endings
Sunday
Lynchburg Mama | LibriAmoriMieiAli - The Dragon Slayer | Wondermom WannabeDeal Sharing Aunt | Rambling Reviews 


For Pre-orders post - PRE-ORDER / genre / title /author
For New Releases post - NEW / genre / title / author
For Free Books post - FREE / genre / title / author / end date 
For Bargain Books post - SALE / price / genre / title / author / end date
(Strictly no Erotica please.  Steamy romance is fine but watch those covers people, incase any underage child is viewing it!)

Click here for this weeks awesome selection!
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Thursday, 16 March 2017

Problem Page Edition 11 2017

This week - who should text first, what "taking a relationship break" really means and a worrying case of stalking.

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If you would like any advice, feel free to treat me as your agony aunt. Just message me or pop a comment in the comment box at the end of this post. I promise to be gentle.

Here are this week's questions.

Q: My parents yell and hit me and throw objects too when I do not do my school work or get poor grades. Is that abusive? 

Every time I play on my phone instead of doing work they yell at me. Every time I bring back a D grade they hit me and throw objects at me. Is this abusive?

A: Yes it is and I am so sorry to hear that this is happening to you. 

It is clear that your parents want you to do well but reacting like this is not acceptable. Have you tried telling them how you feel? 

I appreciate this is unlikely to improve matters but it may pave the way for a conversation and some solutions - for example finding you a tutor if you are struggling with a particular topic. 

On your part though, I hope that you are doing your best and not bunking off school. That’s not going to help either. 

Is there another family member or close friend you could confide in? 

You do not say what country you live in but if it is the UK you can call Childline confidentially on 0870 336 2920. 

Rest assured that you won’t be the only one putting up with this. 

Q: Why does he rarely text me first, even though we are dating? 

I’m in a long distance relationship with a guy but he rarely texts me first.  I usually text him first. He sometimes take a long time to respond and then only with “sorry for not replying”. A day after (still rarely) he'll text me as if nothing’s happened.

A: It really doesn’t sound as if this man is very interested and, since it’s a long distance relationship, that’s not altogether surprising. 

Rather than concentrating on the frequency of the texting, ask yourself how often you actually SEE him. 

Have you made plans to get together? Do you SKYPE or Facetime? Forgive me but it doesn’t sound much of a relationship if all you do is text one another. 

I would stop texting him and let him do the running but it sounds as if things have petered out, at least on his side. 

I would look for a new boyfriend I can actually spend time with on a regular basis - and closer to home.

Q: When your significant other says they want to "take a break" from the relationship, should you take it as "break up" and forget them and move on with your life?

A: I would, in all honesty because I suspect lots of people use “taking a break” as shorthand for “I want to break up but I don’t have the guts to tell you” or “I fancy sleeping with someone else but I’ll keep you on the back burner just in case”. 

I’m sure you’re feeling really hurt and disappointed but I would be strong and tell them “OK but don’t expect me to be still here when you decide to come back” and then go out and enjoy yourself, date other people and don’t be permanently attached to your phone so that you respond immediately to any casual text, call or Facebook message. 

Let them wonder what’s going on with you and then decide if they’re worth the bother of keeping in touch with anyway.

Q: A boy has loved me for a long time, but I don’t feel the same for him. I think that I can get someone better in the future. So should I commit to him or not?

A: If you don’t feel the same then don’t mess with the poor boy’s feelings. 

Make sure, though, that you are clear what you mean when you say “I can get better in future”. 

Better how? Better looking, a nicer person, a better earner? 

Of course you shouldn’t commit to someone you don’t love but it means having the bravery to tell him and to stand firm in your belief that there is someone better out there. 

Just make sure you’re not about to ditch a really nice guy because you think a millionaire in a Ferrari is waiting around the corner to whisk you off. 

That seldom happens I’m afraid.

Q: My friend has been having a guy follow her and sitting outside her work. The police say he is not a threat. Can she make them take the report?

A: I’m sure lots of women reading this will be totally exasperated at the police’s apparent lack of concern. 

I would tell your friend to go back and report it AGAIN until she is taken seriously. It may also be worth speaking to Citizens’ Advice Bureau (or similar) for some legal advice. 

Do you have photographic evidence of this guy stalking? Does she know this man? Are you sure you have all the information about the story? 

Are you and her family / friends making sure she is accompanied and not left to travel on her own? 

Has she reported this man to her employer because if he’s making a nuisance of himself outside her place of work, they have a duty of care towards her as well. 

Please don’t take any chances. Call 999 /911 if you have to.

How would you have responded to these questions? I'd love to know. You can find more advice on my problem page.

Disclaimer: All materials included in this post are intended for informational purposes only. This post/information is not intended to and should not be used to replace medical or psychiatric advice offered by physicians or other health care providers. The author will not be liable for any direct, indirect, consequential, special, exemplary or other damages arising therefrom. 
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Win Guinness World Records 2017: Blockbusters Book & Goody Bag

I'm sure you're all familiar with the Guinness Book of World Records.  Growing up I remember watching Record Breakers with Roy Castle - that's a fair few years ago now!

Guinness World Records 2017 Blockbusters Book Front Cover


But 23rd March will see the publication of the Guinness World Records 2017: Blockbusters book and to celebrate its publication I have a great giveaway for you which the kids will love.

Read on for more ...

Lights, camera, action! Brought to you by Guinness World Records 2017: Blockbusters! is here, packed with the latest records from your favourite films, social media, toys and beyond… Which movies took the box office by storm? Who’s the world’s best-selling kids’ author? Which YouTube stars have the most fans? What’s the most used emoji?

The latest edition of Blockbusters! holds all the answers to your need-to-know pop-culture questions. Plus, don’t miss the exclusive challenges for a chance to set your very own blockbuster record!

Find out more at www.guinnessworldrecords.com/blockbusters.



The Giveaway

There's a great prize on offer.  It consists of the following all for one lucky winner:-

GWR Blockbusters book and a copy of the 2017 Annual

Plus a Goody bag, containing: · 1 X Backpack; • 1 X Stopwatch; • 1 X Headphones; And • 1 X Mini Chocolate Egg Basket.

Entry is via the Rafflecopter and the usual terms and conditions apply which can be viewed on my competitions page.

The giveaway is open to UK entrants only and ends at 11:59 pm on Friday 31st March.



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Good luck!

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Wednesday, 15 March 2017

Dream A Bit Bigger With Lottoland


What would you do if you won the lottery? If you're as obsessed with Pinterest as I am, you probably have your own vision board chock full of posh houses with pools, improbably large gemstones and a supercar to make Top Gear's Matt LeBlanc green with envy.  (I still miss Jeremy Clarkson, the Hamster and Captain Slow, but I digress)...

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We all know that winning is, shall we say, not guaranteed, but it doesn't stop us dreaming. If you fancy dreaming a bit bigger then I've found a way to enter international lotteries with huge jackpots - for example the US PowerBall or the US Megamillions with Lottoland.

Welcome screen of the Lottoland website

The US PowerBall created the biggest jackpot of all time - $1.6 billion (£1 billion) in January 2016 on Lottoland whilst the US Megamillions created the second biggest win of all time.

At Lottoland you have the chance to win the world's biggest lotto jackpots, as well as the lotteries we know and love such as the UK's Euromillions and the Irish Lottery.

Screenshot showing the various lotteries you can enter at Lottoland

So how can you do this?  You might assume that you are buying a lottery ticket but at Lottoland you are betting on the outcome of the official draw by doing something called lotto betting.

Lotto betting is conducted through a separate company, such as Lottoland and any money you win is paid out by them and not the official lottery operator.

So, if I win big on the US Powerball this week (I'm feeling lucky!), Lottoland will pay me the prize money, not the official PowerBall operator in the US.  It won't change me, honest.

You play in exactly the same way as you would other lotteries - select your numbers, sit back and wait for the draw.

The only real difference is that you have lots more chances to win big jackpots that you otherwise wouldn’t have access to, with Lottoland taking your bet and paying you if you win.

And this form of betting allows Lottoland to offer extra cash prizes not available by buying a ticket. For example, using the DoubleJackpot feature on Euromillions allows you to bet for twice the official lottery jackpot.  You do this by paying double the ticket entry price of £4 (entry is 50p cheaper on Lottoland at £2).  If the lottery jackpot is £50M, Lottoland will pay you £100M.

You can play on your PC or download the mobile app and Lottoland also offer new players a no deposit required free line Welcome Bonus to get you started.

To register you will need to supply a copy of photo ID (passport or driving licence) and a utility bill valid within the last 3 months to confirm your current address.  Simply snap with your phone and upload. Topping up your account with credit is easy and you can set a deposit limit to ensure you don't overspend.

Note that Lottoland does not permit underage players (you have to be 18+) and they recommend the installation of software such as Net Nanny, Cyber Sitter or the Parental Control Bar filter if you share your computer with your kids.

If you're looking for alternative lotteries to play, with more flexibility and even the chance to join syndicates with other players, take a look at Lottoland.

*collaborative post

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Is Your Work Life Damaging Your Health?

Work can be tough for just about everyone. There's nothing particularly surprising about that. If it were easy and fun all of the time it wouldn't be called work, would it? It's completely natural to find yourself unwilling to even get out of bed from time to time. Of course, when that starts to be more of the rule than the exception, then there's a chance that you may have more of a problem than the standard job frustrations.

A really bad job can have a serious negative impact on your life in a lot of ways. It can take away a passion for something you used to care about, it can damage your personal relationships, and sometimes, if it's really bad, your job can actually end up being hazardous to your health. It might seem unlikely, but there's actually a much better chance than you might think that your job is damaging your body in some pretty significant ways. In order to help you prevent this from happening, here are a few ways that your work can damage your health, and what you can do to stop it.

The hours are too long



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There's an incredibly dangerous assumption made by far too many employers that their workers are always happy to do overtime. Not only that but many employees are made to feel as though they don't actually have any choice in the matter. People often think that they will be punished, passed over for promotions or worse, if they don't volunteer for every single piece of overtime that comes up.

Now, there's nothing wrong overtime in and of itself, but when it starts to take up huge amounts of your life, then it can lead to some serious problems. Exhaustion is one of the most common sources of workplace illness after injuries. If you're working something like fifty hours a week then you're not going to be able to concentrate, you're going to feel exhausted all the time, and it's going to negatively impact just about every aspect of your life. Not only that but studies have shown that people who work for ten hours or more a day are at increased risk of heart disease as well. Make sure that you speak to a member of human resources to find out what your rights are. You'll find that your employer can't penalise you just for wanting to work your contracted hours. Then you can take more time to rest, and you'll not only feel better, but you'll be a more productive employee as well.

You hate what you do

Few things in life are more frustrating than getting stuck in a job you hate. Spending eight or more hours a day doing something that you're not even remotely interested in can be enough to practically suck the life right out of you. Not only is it inevitably going to be very boring, but working a job like this can make you lose all sense of direction in life. Feeling like their job is pointless is one of the most common complaints among people suffering from depression. If you feel as though you're suffering from depression, then you should always speak to a professional, but you might also find that the best thing to do is to remove yourself from that job altogether. Of course, being unemployed and doing nothing isn't really going to solve the problem either. The best thing that you can do is to find a job that you really love. If you're the artistic type, then try something creative. Becoming a freelance writer or blogger is a fantastic option and gives you the kind of creative freedom that might be otherwise lacking. Or if you feel like you'd get more out of a job where you spent your time helping people, there are lots of nurses vacancies in hospitals all over the country! Being able to do something that you genuinely care about it going to help you find a much greater sense of direction and purpose in life, potentially helping to pull you out of that malaise.

Too much pressure



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Not everyone is meant to be a manager or business owner, and that's just fine. After all, sometimes you don't want your work to be your entire life. This is especially true if you have kids. With kids, you'll find yourself tired enough as it is without also dealing with employees, business finances and all of the other pressure and responsibilities that come with a high-level position. Stress isn't just something that can cause problems with your mental state either, too much stress and pressure from work can have a nasty impact on your physical well-being as well. Stress has been linked to heart disease, hair loss, weight gain, as well as many other alarming symptoms. If you feel as though the amount of pressure that your job is constantly dumping on you is causing you real harm, then it might be time to step back. Perhaps you need to drop down to a position with slightly less responsibility, or it might even be worthwhile dropping down to part-time hours in order to spend more time focussing on your family life. Whatever is best for you, it's a good idea to talk to your employer. The chances are that they'll be more than happy to support you and help you find an appropriate balance. This also might be a sign that you’re not working the right job. A career where you’re in charge of other people such a management role might simply be too much pressure and you’d be better off doing something with a little easier. Retail and service industry jobs allow you to stay busy and active without constantly piling on the kind of pressure than an office manager might deal with.

You're constantly sitting at a desk

Far too many jobs these days leave people just sat behind a desk for eight hours a day or more. Not only does this mean that many people are spending their entire days completely sedentary but it can also lead to some pretty serious back problems. The vast majority of people who work desk jobs and spend their days at a computer aren't sitting in a position that is either safe or comfortable. There are a few ways to deal with this. A standing desk is a great option and can also allow you to stretch your legs and stay active even while you're working. You can also get padding and back support for office chairs that encourage you to maintain the correct posture all day. Even something as simple and easy and just standing up and doing a short walk around the office every half an hour or so can work wonders to combat the stiffness and soreness that can often result from spending all day sitting behind a desk. There are also plenty of jobs that you can do instead that allow you to stay active. Working in a retail store allows you to be on your feet moving around all day and landscaping and gardening are often ranked as some of the healthiest jobs available.



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It's often surprising to people that many of their health issues can often be chalked up to their work life. Luckily, as this list shows, many of these things can be dealt with pretty easily before that become too serious. However, if you find that any of the symptoms that work can cause become severe or overly persistent, then it's crucial that you go and see a medical professional immediately. They will not only be able to advise you the best possible ways to counteract the effects of your job, but the doctor may also want to sign you off sick for a little while until you're fully recovered. There's no sense trying to push yourself too hard when all that's going to happen is that you're going to burn out and make things far, far worse in the long run. There's nothing wrong with needing some time away from work to rest and recover. Not only is it going to do you a world of good but it's also going to help you come back to work feeling more fired up and ready than ever.
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Tuesday, 14 March 2017

Important things to consider when buying a house

A house is probably the largest thing you'll ever invest in and buying a home can be a very daunting experience - even when you are already on the property ladder.

Today, of course, it is becoming more and more difficult for first time buyers to find somewhere they can afford.  We have a shortage of housing in the UK and for many, especially the young, renting may be their only option.

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The Government has tried to help by the introduction of the Help To Buy ISA which can give up to a £6000 boost where the buyers save £12,000 and receive a bonus of £3,000 which is topped up by a further £3000 by the Government.

This relies on prospective buyers being good savers too and, in reality, that is what is needed to make such a large investment.  Not easy when you have student loans and debts accrued from your education to pay off as a first time buyer.

It's not as easy either, for those of us already on the property ladder looking to move to a bigger property. Salaries seem to have been pegged or at the very least fallen out of line with inflation and there seems to be a huge gulf between the price of a 3 bed home and a property with 4 or 5 bedrooms.

If you are lucky enough to be in a position to move, you need to make sure that you do your homework and my personal philosophy is to get the best advice you can afford and never cut corners.

Here are my top things to think about when buying a house.

What's your maximum budget?

The cost of the property and the move itself

Before you do anything else you need to know what you can afford.  It's natural to have done a bit of window shopping and spent afternoons pouring over online property portals but it's all a bit pointless if you have not had your property valued and found yourself a reputable estate agent.

If you go to view a property and the seller discovers that your home is not even on the market yet, you are unlikely to secure a purchase, nor be in a position to negotiate a good deal.

You also need to factor in all the other costs of moving, for example conveyancing and legal fees, stamp duty on the property (payable where the value of the property is over £125,000) and the cost of the move itself.

You may also find there are fees to mortgage or remortgage - or there may be a penalty to pay if you are remortgaging in the middle of a fixed rate deal.

You should also seriously consider investing in the fullest survey on the property you want to buy because, for the sake of a few hundred pounds, you may save yourself from a property with subsidence, rising damp or a leaky roof.

The other big question is how will you fund the deposit on your new home?

In the current mortgage market you'll need a deposit of at least 5% of a property's value to get a mortgage. A lender would then lend you 95% of the property's value. So, if you wanted to buy a £150,000 property you would need to save up at least £7,500 and borrow £142,500.

The greater the deposit, the smaller amount you'll need to borrow which means your monthly mortgage payments will be less.

That's a great incentive to start saving as soon as possible.

The cost of your mortgage and monthly bills

Once you have an idea of what you can afford, you need to look at whether you will be able to comfortably pay it back.

You should know what your monthly mortgage payment will be but you also need to know what council band your property falls under (and therefore the council tax bill), plus water rates and a ball park cost of utilities (which the seller should be able to give you an idea of).

Depending on the results of your survey, you may need to budget for repairs such as fixing a roof, new windows or a new boiler.  The surveyor who surveyed our current property advised that the existing roof would need replacing within 5 years - and he was spot on!

You should also factor in the cost of travelling to work.  Will there be an increase in rail fares? Bridge tolls? Fuel?  Parking costs?  If you work from home what is the broadband and WiFi like in the area?

Will you need new furniture?  You don't need to buy new - you can find great bargains on Ebay and Craigslist but you will still need to add these items into your budget.

The best thing to do is to create a spreadsheet (you could use Google documents) and list everything you can think of.

What are your absolute 'must-haves'?

It's very easy to fall in love with a property and let all the things you really need completely slip your mind. A great example of this is a utility room - or at least space for a washer / dryer which I really want the next time I move!

Do you really need an ensuite bathroom when a smaller guest bathroom might be more practical? More and more of us are taking in our elderly parents rather than have them go into care homes and, certainly for us, the adaptability of the property for elder care will be a high consideration.

It's pointless being swayed by a gorgeous garden if you hate gardening and really need off-road parking.

And if you work from home, make sure you have adequate space for your office or at least an area to work in.  In our last property we built a log cabin at the bottom of the garden which became the Husband's second home.  In fact I'm pretty sure this was what swayed the sale of our property as the new owner declared he was going to convert it into a bar!

Sit down and make a list of all the things you really need - both now and in 5 years time.

Location, Location, Location

Kirstie and Phil have drummed the importance of this into us for many years and certainly if you are buying your property as an investment, and not just as a home, then researching desirable areas or, more practically, up and coming areas, makes sense.

What are the local facilities like?  Schools, health centre, shops, transport links? What's the crime rate like? You can find out a lot about your potential new home's location online.

For those of us with kids, the quality of the local schools is very important, as is the proximity of local hospitals and healthcare facilities.

Do your detective work

So you've found a property you like and you've had a couple of viewings.  Your property is on the market and you are pondering putting in an offer.  Better still, you have a likely offer on your own property which means moving imminently is a definite possibility.

You've worked out what you can afford and the impact of the move on your monthly outgoings.

You are pretty sure the area is right for you.

What else?

Actually you can do quite a bit of detective work before the first viewing.  In addition to checking out the local area and facilities as mentioned above, you can check out the property's location on Google Maps. Sometimes it is incredibly revealing.

That house in the quiet cul-de-sac? It backs on to another housing development. The house with the great garden?  That row of hedges hides the M4.

The cottage with the beautiful view?  Those trees hide the wind farm.  I jest. But not entirely.

Sometimes a quick check on Google Maps can stop you wasting your time on a property which is not going to be right for you.

It's also worth contacting your local council to see if planning permission has recently been granted for any large scale developments.

Once you have found your property, viewed it and fallen in love with it then a good trick is to visit it an extra couple of times but not go in.  By that I mean drive by in the early evening or even late at night to see how quiet things are. Thumping music and barking dogs next door?  Possibly not such a great buy then.

Sunday afternoons are another good time to drive by and gauge what the area is like when more people are home.

Don't forget that when you view a property everyone is on their best behaviour - as I'm sure you are when people view your home.

It's always best to view when the owners are out.  It's easier to ask your estate agent bolder questions without worrying about offending the owner who may be lurking around in the hope that you'll make an offer on the spot.

And it's easier for the agent to be frank as well.

In summary, my advice would be to take your time, depending on how many other offers there are on the table for the property you want.  Make sure you have done your sums and are not rushing in because you love the Victorian fireplace or real slate flooring!

If you have worked out your budget, you should know the most you can afford and I would offer a little less than that to give you something to bargain with.

If, however, the seller won't budge on their asking price, sometimes the wisest thing is to walk away.

It's always sensible to have two or three potential properties under consideration so that if this happens you don't have to start the entire process from scratch.

If you are unable to move immediately and need to relocate, you may have to add the cost of rented accommodation to your budget.

That extra expenditure may be a small price to pay if it stops you from over-extending yourself or buying a house that just wasn't right for you.

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Treat Your Kids to a Weekend Holiday


The weekend is a time for relaxation and unwinding before we prepare for yet another busy work week. However, there are some great and exciting ways to spend the weekend that don’t involve sitting around the television watching a movie or playing video games with your children. In fact, if your kids are still young, it’s beneficial to take them out more often so they can experience more of life and soak in all the sights and sounds of the world.

Going on holiday with your kids is a fantastic opportunity to bond as a family and create some wonderful memories. Thanks to digital cameras, Facebook and online photo storage services, you could create long-lasting memories and come out of a holiday with hundreds of photos, dozens of souvenirs and a refreshed mind before working hard at your job again.

Young girl and two baby brothers playing on a beach

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Ask your kids what they’d like to see

Whether it’s the beach, a museum or somewhere fun like a fairground or theme park, ask your kids where they’d like to go and try to meet their requests. You have to consider how practical it is as well. For instance, if you drive then you’ll probably be able to take them to a nearby city or a distant city, but if you need to fly, then you might have to reconsider the location because the weekend will be over before you know it and the last thing you want is to spend an entire day flying to and from the location.

Set a budget

If you’ve been saving the pennies and you’ve built up some additional income, then you’re probably financially able to afford a weekend holiday with your children. However, it’s important that you set a budget so you don’t go overboard and end up spending more money than you first anticipated. Make sure that you check prices for travel or fuel, the price of admission into whatever events and shows your kids want to see, and also the costs of accommodation.

Pick a place to stay

Try your best to pick a reputable location sleep in. For instance, Dorsett Hotel is a well-known chain of hotels that has several locations in the world, giving it a solid reputation as opposed to random unknown hotels that are converted from houses; they might function as a hotel, but the point of a holiday is to have a fantastic memorable experience and that includes the sleeping arrangements! If possible, try to pick a location that is close to public transportation so that you spend less time moving around and more time enjoying yourself.

Don’t forget technology

Make sure you take your smartphone or a camera so you can snap up pictures wherever you are. A spare battery is also handy, but you could also take a portable battery bank to keep your devices charged up so that you can take pictures, record videos and keep in touch with relatives and friends. Remember that roaming costs for data in other countries can add up very quickly, so take care when using mobile data and always try to use a WiFi connection when possible.
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Monday, 13 March 2017

Tips & Tricks For Kitchen Success

As readers of this blog will know my kitchen prowess is slightly questionable but I AM improving - and I say that as the owner of the world's largest collection of unused cookery books.

Over the years I've learned a trick or two though, largely through watching hundreds of TV cookery shows and being teased (shamed) into having a go by the Husband who assembles a meal with ease.

Ieuan Hobbis holding 2 Prestige Baking Trays

There's also the fact that mothers are supposed to be excellent cooks with the ability to create dishes combining unique medicinal properties and maternal love.

So with my guilt-ometer reading maximum, I try my best.

Here are some of my best tips for creating a little bit of kitchen magic - or at least a decent sponge which I whipped up with Caitlin's help over the weekend.  Ieuan had 'something urgent to do on Roblox'.

Caitlin whisking egg for the sponge

Have Confidence

"And believe me, the best thing you can have in a kitchen is confidence.  I really think that's what separates good cooks from the mediocre ones" - Gordon Ramsey

You have to be willing to give it a go and make a bit of a mess.  I'm always fascinated when a Great British Bake-Off contestant decides that a recipe isn't working, chucks the whole thing out and starts again.

Most families don't have the luxury of a BBC budget but persisting until you get the recipe right seems to be the trick!

Delegate

Baking is a great way to spend time with your kids and it honestly doesn't matter if the results are less than spectacular.  It's the time spent together that matters - plus you get help.

Caitlin and Ieuan (occasionally) love to help when I bake cakes and tray bakes.  At 9 and 7 they are perfectly capable of helping to measure ingredients and mix them.

Caitlin holding the cake tin ready to put it in the oven.

Keep your recipes simple

"Never eat more than you can lift" - Miss Piggy

Don't overstretch yourself and stick to a recipe you know works.  You can find loads of simple cake recipes online.  Magazines such as Good Housekeeping are also a great source of kitchen inspiration with triple tested recipes and easy to follow instructions.

Buy the best equipment you can afford

"I can't bake anything unless I have the right shaped tin" - Linda Hobbis

I use bakeware by Prestige (current sponsors of ITV's Secret Chef) and for this particular cake I used the 9" round cake tin from their Inspire Range.

Made from heavy gauge carbon steel these are weighty tins made to last.  They also have Cushion Smart which is a non-stick cushioned surface that helps your cakes brown better and makes it a lot easier to get them out of the tin!

There's also a 25 year guarantee - that's an awful lot of cake baking.

You can pop them in the dishwasher but it's better to hand wash to preserve the coating for as long as you can.

The cake fresh out of the oven

Cheat

Again, the Internet is a marvellous source of kitchen cheats.

I'm sure you already know to melt butter in the microwave, as well as popping lemons and limes in there for a few seconds to help release their juice.

We might have cheated ever so slightly with our cake decoration (thank you M&S).

Caitlin holding the finished cake

I can report that the cake tasted very nice and if you would like to try the recipe we used it is below.

Ingredients

250g (9oz) soft margarine or butter
250g (9oz) caster sugar
300g (10oz) self-raising flour
4 eggs
2 tbsp milk
1 tsp baking powder

This makes a 23 cm (9 inch) deep round cake.

Method

Cream the margarine and sugar together until light and fluffy
Mix the eggs and milk in a separate bowl.
Add the mix to the cake a little at a time to avoid curdling.
Add the flour and baking powder together and gently fold in.

Line your tin with greaseproof paper covered with butter or use non-stick baking paper.  Spoon in the mixture and level with a palette knife.

Bake in a pre-heated over at 160°C/320°F/gas mark 3 for 45 - 55 minutes.

For the Buttercream

100g unsalted butter
200g icing sugar
1 tsp Vanilla extract

Beat the butter and sugar together until smooth then add the milk and the vanilla extract.

Enjoy!
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Sunday, 12 March 2017

Win A Bundle Of Vosene Kids Hair Products - Kind To Skin & Hair

Finding the right shampoo for your kids' hair can be a bit of a challenge.  Lots of adult shampoos contain lots of high strength chemicals or additives which aren't great for young skin and hair.

And there's always the risk of stingy eyes because even now I still spend most of my time when washing Caitlin's and Ieuan's hair shouting 'tip your head back' and grabbing their flannels when they do anything but.

Caitlin with her Vosene Kids Shampoo

Vosene is a brand I've known for many years and now they have a great range of kids' shampoos.  We have been using the Squeaky Clean range for a while now to repel those nasty nits who made their first appearance in the Hobbis household over Christmas.  Great timing nits!

The products are modestly priced, readily available, smell nice and do the job.  Just about all you can ask for really.

There are two ranges to choose from and read on because I have a selection of Vosene Kids hair products to give away.

Squeaky Clean range:

The Squeaky Clean range includes the 3 in 1 Shampoo and Conditioning Defence Spray to help you to achieve tangle-free, shiny hair, as well as offering advanced protection in the fight against head lice. Dermatologically tested and MIT-free.

3 in 1 Shampoo (RRP £2.54, 250ml) – Gently cleanses and conditions your child’s hair and scalp for naturally shiny, healthy-looking hair. The specially formulated shampoo also contains natural tea tree oil and lemon eucalyptus oil to help keep prevent head lice when used alongside the Conditioning Defence Spray (below).

Conditioning Defence Spray (RRP £2.54, 150ml) – This fantastic leave-in spray detangles and smooths your child’s hair. The clinically proven formula also helps to prevent head lice, using natural ingredients such as citronella oil.
(both suitable for kids age 3+)

Fruity Goodness range:


Strawberry 2 in 1 Shampoo (RRP £1.99, 250ml) – The Strawberry 2 in 1 Shampoo will ensure your children’s locks smell as good as they look. With a fresh, fruity strawberry scent, the whole family will appreciate the burst of natural fruit extract which also helps to leave your children’s hair shiny, soft and tangle-free.


Melon 2 in 1 Shampoo (RRP £1.99, 250ml) – The fresh Melon 2 in 1 Shampoo adds a fruity twist to bath time, resulting in shiny, soft and great-smelling hair which is free from tangles and knots. Kids love the fresh, fruity melon smell of this mild and pH balanced 2 in 1 shampoo.

All available from Asda, Tesco and Boots.

Check out their website which has plenty of advice and some really useful videos to deal with problems like getting chewing gum out of your child's hair.  Their stylist is Charlotte Hayward who styled hair on films like Harry Potter, Captain Phillips and the X Men.

Giveaway

I have 4 products to give away:-

3 in 1 Shampoo 250ml 
Conditioning Defence Spray 150ml 
Strawberry 2 in 1 Shampoo 250ml 
Pink Pomelo 2 in 1 shampoo 250ml

Entry is via the Rafflecopter widget and is open to UK residents only.  Terms and conditions apply which can be viewed on my competitions page.  

The giveaway ends at 11:59 pm on Friday 31st March.

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Good luck!
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Friday, 10 March 2017

Great Ways To Supplement Your Income As A Busy Parent


If you want to earn some extra money, whether it be for home improvements, a trip with the kids or a little treat for yourself, but you’re a busy parent, it can be difficult. You don’t always have the option of taking on an extra part-time job or working more hours because you have the children to think about. That doesn’t mean, however, that you just have to do without. 

There are several ways that you can make more money without letting your parenting duties suffer as a result.


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Check out these simple ideas to effortlessly earn more money when you need it:

Rent Out Your Driveway

As parking prices soar and less and less space is made available to those looking to park in busy areas, more people have started offering their own drives and garages for rental. If you live in a big city and you have a drive that isn’t in use during the day, you could earn a decent sum by renting your drive to a local person who’d be glad of the space.

Sell Your Old Stuff

If you get rid of your old iPhone and tablets, you could make anywhere between £5-200 depending on the model and condition of your phone. You’ll also be doing your part for the environment by recycling your old electronics.

Selling used clothes and shoes that are in good condition on eBay can also net you’re a tidy profit, especially if you take the time to get a decent set of photos and write eye-catching descriptions. This is something you can do whenever you have a few minutes spare, the cash will soon mount up, and you’ll have a wonderfully decluttered home once you’re finished.

Look After Pets

If you’re an animal lover, taking in another family’s animal while they are on holiday will not feel at all like a chore. You’ll have great fun cuddling and playing with your new furry friend, and you’ll earn a bit of money into the bargain.

Sell Your Crafts
If you have a crafty hobby like photography, knitting or painting, you could make some extra money by selling the things you make. I mean, you will be putting the time in anyway, so even if you only make enough back to cover the costs of your materials, that’s something.

Take Surveys

There are lots of online surveys which will pay you a small sum once completed. You won’t get rich quick by doing this, but you can usually fit a few surveys in during those quiet moments, and over the course of a year, the rewards can really add up.

Cook Extra

There are plenty of busy people out there who hanker for home cooked meals but simply don’t have the time to cook for themselves. If you can connect with one of them in your local area, you could make some cash by making slightly bigger portions of your family meals and delivering them for a small fee. You won’t have to do any extra work, but you could earn some extra pocket money by doing so.

What do you do when you need some extra spending money?
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ChewyMoon - A Healthier Snack Option For Your Kids

As parents, I'm sure we're all aware of the snacking danger zone which occurs when the kids come out of school.  They're usually starving and demand sweets, chocolate or crisps.

Offering a nice juicy apple or a banana is usually greeted with a grumpy face and "isn't there anything else?".
Collage of Caitlin & Ieuan enjoying ChewyMoon healthy snacks for kids
It would be good, wouldn't it, to have a fun, healthy alternative to hand to placate the little darlings before the grumping reaches supersonic levels.

ChewyMoon is a new subscription box service which provides the UK's first nutritionally balanced snack box for children between the ages of 4 and 10.

The company is the brainchild of nutritionist Verena Klanner who has created a range of snacks made from natural ingredients with no refined sugar or nasties.

Not only are the snacks age appropriate to meet the differing nutritional needs of kids as they grow but they compare favourably to the traditional healthy option, e.g. that apple!

ChewyMoon nutritional statistics - how do their snacks compare?

Each box contains 5 different snacks, as well as comics, fact cards and totem toys to make healthy snacking fun.

ChewyMoon snack varieties - 4 pictures showing the options

And each snack variety has a cute character on the box.  For example, there's Dr Fluffy Moon, the cat who is clever, passionate and bossy (much like Caitlin and Ieuan) and Yuri Moon, the space chimp who is old, grumpy and adventurous (can't think who that reminds me of!).

So how does the subscription scheme work?

You simply select the box you fancy and fill in details about your child.  The first box is free and then each weekly box costs £4.93 per child (including postage).  Billing is 2 days prior to the despatch of your box and you can cancel at any time.

Once you have received your box you can rate each snack online so that future boxes are tailored to the taste of your child.

Note that ChewyMoon boxes are NOT suitable for children with food allergies.

ChewyMoon variety box types

We were sent samples of the weekly snack box which contained five snack varieties, a fact card, totem toy and comic strip and the monthly family pack which contained seven snack varieties, two of which are specially designed for the adults.

Caitlin tried Jack 'n' Fruit, (flapjack, orange drops and blueberries) and Ieuan had Cherry Crumble (cherry cubes, cherry raisins and millet balls).  A number of the snacks have suspiciously vanished up to the Husband's loft - particularly Coco Raz (raw coconut chips, raspberries, palmyra blossom nectar, beetroot, baobab and vanilla).

We liked the quirky packaging and the fun element to snacking.  The snacks are imaginative and tasty, although it would be helpful to have the ingredients of the snack listed on the individual box. These details are available on a separate leaflet containing nutrition facts but first timers won't know what they're getting.  Arguably though, this adds to the fun.

I would also say that while the portion size is adequate, it isn't huge so you may find hungry kids might eat more than one box at a time.  Verena says that the calorie count for snacks for younger kids should be around 100kcal whilst older children and preteens can have up to 200kcal.

The individual snack boxes are ideal to chuck in to gym and ballet bags for a healthier fix after exercise (a lot better than our current habit of Werthers Originals or Mintoes).

I like the concept of ChewyMoon.  If I had one comment it would be that the current box is rather heavy on the packaging but it's bright, attractive and likely to appeal to kids.  The price point is reasonable given the quality of the ingredients, working out at around 98p per snack.

If you would like to try ChewyMoon for your child, I have a 1 month / 4 week subscription to give away worth £20.

Or sign up for your first week free at www.chewymoon.com.

Entry is via the Rafflecopter widget and the usual terms and conditions apply which can be viewed on my competitions page.

The giveaway ends at 11:59 pm on Friday 31st March.


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Good luck!
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New Releases, Free & Bargain Books Link-Up Week 11 2017

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How are you all this week?  Spring is here and we're surrounded by daffodils and purple crocuses. It's great now that the evenings are getting just that little bit lighter.

The kids are counting down the days to Easter (I have explained they've got a while!) and we've promised a trip to London if they behave.

It was great to have some focus on reading, rather than anything i-related this week.

Did you catch my review of  Deborah Brown's Hurricane in Paradise with those two feisty female detectives Fab and Madison?

You can also read my review of Scars (Time of Myths: Shapeshifter Sagas) by Natasha S. Brown which I also enjoyed.  It's a little like reading a Tolkein story, a bit of an adult fairytale.

As usual, there are some great books on the linky - and don't forget you can always add your own to spread a bit of the book love.

Don't forget that I still have plenty to be won on my competitions page and don't forget my problem page here.

Happy bargain and freebie book hunting on this link.

Have a great week!

Sharing the Love of Books
Enjoy our selection of New Releases / Free & Bargain Books this week

Authors please feel free to add your own books
Readers please free to add your own finds
(any genre except erotica welcome)

This weekly link up is hosted by Beck Valley Books & these awesome book loving blogs...
Monday
 Life as Leels | IrishdaisylovesRomance | Book Babble | All Romance Reader
Tuesday
It's My Side of Life | Celticlady's Reviews | First Time Mommy Adventures 
Wednesday
Beck Valley BooksCinnamon Hollow Reviews
Thursday
Miki's Hope | Nicki's Nook
Friday
Ebook Addicts | I Love Romance | Colorimetry | The Ultimate Fan Blog Mother Distracted
Saturday
Totally Addicted to Reading | 3 Partners in Shopping | Angie's Angle I Create Purty Thangs | Wishful Endings
Sunday
Lynchburg Mama | LibriAmoriMieiAli - The Dragon Slayer | Wondermom WannabeDeal Sharing Aunt | Rambling Reviews 


For Pre-orders post - PRE-ORDER / genre / title /author
For New Releases post - NEW / genre / title / author
For Free Books post - FREE / genre / title / author / end date 
For Bargain Books post - SALE / price / genre / title / author / end date
(Strictly no Erotica please.  Steamy romance is fine but watch those covers people, incase any underage child is viewing it!)

Click here for this weeks awesome selection!
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Thursday, 9 March 2017

Problem Page Edition 10 2017

This week - dreaming about a partner cheating and an ex who denies they ever dated you.

Woman drinking a cup of coffee

If you would like any advice, feel free to treat me as your agony aunt. Just message me or pop a comment in the comment box at the end of this post. I promise to be gentle.

Here are this week's questions.

Q: How do I tell if a guy treats me like a sister or a potential girlfriend? 

This guy I like has confusing behaviour. He often flirts with me but sometimes talks to me as if I am a a small kid, I don’t know how to explain. He ‘stalks’ me on Facebook and likes my pictures too. How can I decipher his actions?

A: It sounds as if he is interested in you but I would be less than impressed with being patronised by his speaking to you as if you are a child. 

It sounds like he is rather full of himself and certain that you will fall at his feet! Either that or he lacks confidence and has little experience with women and is trying to make out he is the ‘big man’.

It’s not a quality I personally would find very attractive, nor the stalking on facebook. 

It’s up to you to decide whether you want a relationship with him or not and, if not, I would be tempted to unfriend him on Facebook - once you have told him clearly that you are not interested. 

I suspect at the moment he is getting rather mixed messages.

Q: Is it normal if my boyfriend have never given a gift for me thought we were in a distant relationship about 3 years?

A: I’m assuming you have actually met this man in which case, yes, it is rather odd. 

Does he send birthday cards? Valentines cards? Do you send him presents? 

Are you the one doing all the running in this relationship? 

If he has stopped reciprocating, or returning your calls, or showing concern for how you are and making plans to get together, then it sounds as if your relationship has run its course. 

I am sure you can find someone closer to home who will care for you a lot better.

Q: How can I stop getting bothered about the way my ex girlfriend rewrote our history? 

She probably has good reason for her behaviour which I can understand.  I’m guessing that I killed her attraction with neediness, jealousy and other insecure behaviours. Still it bothers me how someone can do a 180 from chasing me, to denying that we dated for a whole year.

A: She is being rather immature but, if you were unkind to her then I can see why she would rather pretend the whole experience didn’t exist. 

I would also suggest that it is possible she left for reasons other than your behaviour - people sometimes just get tired of being in a relationship - so I would not heap too much blame on yourself.

The truth is you can analyse this forever and still not come up with the exact reason for her behaviour. 

The point is, how are you going to go forward and what are you going to do to make sure that your issues don’t affect your next relationship? 

This relationship didn’t work. Let it go and focus on being positive, happy and finding someone with whom you feel confident and who you can trust.

Q: What does it mean if I have been dreaming about my partner cheating on me? 

A: Sometimes we dream the most ridiculous things for no reason at all. 

Dreams, the theory goes, are the brain’s way of filing the days events into the computer of our subconscious. 

I have also read that we tend to dream in symbols which can sometimes be far more unpleasant than their actual meaning. 

For example, a common dream is that your teeth are falling out, or that you are falling off a cliff. The teeth one is supposed to mean that you fear ageing or being less productive. So, dreaming that your spouse is cheating on you might not actually mean that. 

It may symbolise that you fear people are not being honest with you in general, or something is making you question your trust for people. 

A more probably explanation is that this dream is just a symptom of insecurity in your relationship and, rather than go off the deep end and assume you have had a psychic warning, I would sit down with a cup of coffee and think about what it is that is making you feel unsettled. 

In your dream is your partner cheating on you with someone you know? Ask yourself if there is any basis to think that this might be true. 

You could jokingly mention your dream to your partner and gauge his reaction. And if you are feeling insecurity talk to him about it and ask for reassurance. 

The dream may also have meant that you need to take better care of your partner to ensure he doesn’t wander off. Have you been neglecting him? 

In all likelihood, this was just a silly dream which meant nothing but a bit of extra quality time together wouldn’t hurt.

Q: My girlfriend won't reply to me ,what should I do to get her attention? 

She has depression and is taking pills these days saying that she's really not good. I always text her to make her feel safe.  Now she's not replying but I can see that she is active on social media.  Her profile picture says that love sucks and a friend is better.

A: I’m not sure there is much you can do. 

It may be that her behaviour is a symptom of her depression for which she deserves sympathy and understanding. 

You don’t say what pill she takes but hopefully these have been prescribed by a doctor to help her with her depression. 

Her comment about ‘love sucks’ makes me wonder if there is anything else going on between you two. 

That comment sounds bitter and as if it relates to something specific. Are you sure you have not done something to upset her? Or given her cause to suspect that you have? 

If she is ignoring you you may be better off stopping the texts for a while to see if she notices and decides to respond. 

It may be that the ignoring is a form of attention seeking behaviour. When we are depressed sometimes we push away the things we really want because we feel we don’t deserve them. 

I would give her some time and concentrate on you. Stop the Facebook stalking and go out and enjoy yourself. 

Whilst it is commendable that you are looking out for her, you are not, as they say, her keeper. 

Time for your own happiness to come first.

How would you have responded to these questions? I'd love to know. You can find more advice on my problem page.

Disclaimer: All materials included in this post are intended for informational purposes only. This post/information is not intended to and should not be used to replace medical or psychiatric advice offered by physicians or other health care providers. The author will not be liable for any direct, indirect, consequential, special, exemplary or other damages arising therefrom. 
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