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Saturday, 27 June 2015

My Boy Ieuan Is 6

So my Spiderman is now 6 years old and I, like many other parents, have no clue where the last six years went. Readers of this blog will know that I had Ieuan when I was 45 years old.

Baby Ieuan  in 2009
Ieuan was born by elective caesarian at the University of Wales Hospital, Cardiff at 9:48 am. His sister, Caitlin was born by emergency caesarian when I was 43 and it was thought that this would be safer for Ieuan due to my age. I was given the option to deliver 'normally' but was too nervous to do so since Caitlin's cord was wrapped around her neck three times.

Ieuan's birth was relatively uneventful, save for the Husband passing out and having to be fed coffee and chocolate by the consultant whilst the rest of us waited patiently for his eyes to uncross.  Never let your husband abstain from food and water in an act of 'solidarity' would be my tip.  Unfortunately, at the moment he chose to blank out, the nurses were doing the ice block test to see if my spinal block had worked and I had to be returned to the trolley.

Ieuan at National Trust Dyffryn Gardens, Vale of Glamorgan
I have no truck, I should say at this point, with anyone who claims that real women do not give birth this way. I have read such rubbish since having my kids aimed at making women feel inferior because they did not 'push'.  I'm assuming that these critics are part of the same group of breast-feeding nazis who decree that breast is best to the exclusion of all else, including common sense and empathy with new mothers.

Ieuan and his maternal grandfather, 'Taid'.
Ieuan has grown into a delightful, caring little boy who I've nicknamed "the Chairman of the Board" because when he's out and about (usually dressed as Spiderman) he addresses all and sundry, talks to anyone and flirts outrageously with any girl or woman he considers to be "foxy".

Outside the National Museum of Wales
With Big Sister Caitlin outside the National Museum of Wales, Cardiff
You may not believe in Astrology but Ieuan, being a Cancerian shows quite a few decidedly Cancerian traits ("Cancerians need a lot of attention due to their unpredictable character":  They are intuitive, insightful and have an excellent memory"). Cancerians are loving and loyal, although they can be moody, cranky and,er, crabby. They are also supposed to love their food and luckily Ieuan is moving out of his "half boy, half peanut butter" phase to try a wider variety of foods and, occasionally, vegetables).

Tree climbing at National Trust Dyffryn Gardens
Ieuan's favourite things at this stage of his life (apart from any Marvel superhero) include Lego, swimming, wrestling with his father (it was a complete shock to me, never having had a brother, to find how rough boys are at play!) and, just recently, Harry Potter.  I suspect he may be now be occasionally dressed as a wizard.  He loves Cherry Bakewells and Quavers and has probably broken a Guinness Record for the consumption of pears and bananas.  His squash has to be blackcurrant and his pasta requirement is for spaghetti or fusilli ('curly pasta') only. His current favourite phrase is "I'll do it tomorrow"!

His party this year was a superhero party at Hamleys in Cardiff (one of their many themed parties) and he had a wonderful time surrounded by Batman, Supergirl and Batgirl plus his superhero friends.



Hamley bear popped in to say hello and to dish out hugs.




Playing Superhero Statues with Batman

I can't believe Ieuan will be going into Year 2 in September. They grow up so fast, don't they?

Happy Birthday Ieuan - my little superhero.
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Thursday, 25 June 2015

Review & Giveaway: The Seven Natural Wonders of The Earth - My First Travel Books








This is a lovely little book and is the second in an on-going travel series for children.  Author Anna Othitis, originally from Zimbabwe and now living in America, introduces us to her son, Captain Frankie of Angelic Airlines and the story sees him fly us around the World to visit our planet's "seven natural wonders".

These span all four continents and whilst I had heard of some of them (for example, Mount Everest in the Himalayas and Australia's Great Barrier Reef), others I had not (Paricutin Volcano in Mexico) or would not have thought of (The Grand Canyon in Colorado, USA).

Written as if Captain Frankie is talking to us over the plane's intercom, each wonder is introduced by a poem and then there is some age-appropriate factual information, together with a simple quiz for the children to do.  At the end of the book Captain Frankie asks the children to name out loud the seven natural wonders they have just visited.  There are also pictures of the countries' national flags at the beginning of the book and then again as a test at the end.

I have to say that I learned quite a bit.  I did get my Geography 'O' Level (remember them?!) but aside from the fact that there were lots of orange groves in California and Ox bow lakes were quite easy to draw, I find my geographic knowledge is slightly sketchy!  The Husband, of course, gets to fly around the World quite regularly (although he claims he only sees airport lounges and hotel rooms). We have not yet ventured abroad with the kids but they already have their suitcases packed in anticipation!

For example, did you know that the Victoria Falls water drops 354 feet down?  Or that the Paricutin Volcano stands at 1353 feet, which is higher than the Empire State Building in New York? What about that there are 1500 species of fish in the Great Barrier Reef or that the Grand Canyon is 18 miles wide?

I particularly liked the environmentally friendly emphasis - we are reminded to take care of our earth and the way that Anna's books can be used as teaching aids to encourage conversation between parents and children. Captain Frankie's light, friendly tone makes you feel as if he really is talking to you.

This is a great way to teach our kids about the wonders of the Earth in a fun and engaging way.  I'll be checking out the rest of the series for Caitlin and Ieuan.

Scroll down for the author's giveaway - $50 Amazon.com giftcard or PayPal cash (winner's choice).

Follow Captain Frankie on his adventures...

Are you ready to take to the skies?
Then welcome to Angelic Airlines!
Come join the adventures of Captain Frankie and the Angelic Airlines flying angel as they travel across the world to the Seven Natural Wonders of the Earth. Captain Frankie is waiting for you to book your ticket, safely stow your bags, and open your eyes to the beautiful places created for all of us to visit in My First Travel Books.

This is Anna Othitis’s second trip with Captain Frankie and the crew. Originally from Zimbabwe, Africa, her home port is now Wanaque, New Jersey, and she has flown across the world in her travels.

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"My daughter and I enjoyed these books. We took a trip around the world without leaving the house! We saw things and places we will probably never see in real life." - review from Amazon

"Beautifully illustrated, amazing little 'first travel' adventure book for children. A great way to get children interested in the geography of the world and the delights of travel." - review from Amazon

"Another gem from this consistant author. She is making quite a name for herself. You will not be disapointed!!" - review from Goodreads



"This book is in its simplest form: fun, educational and informative, which plays an important part in connecting our children with our world.  So come on and fly the skies with us on Angelic Airlines to some popular world destinations with your friendly Captain Frankie"

Check out the other My First Travel Books...

My First Travel Book (My First Travel Books) (Volume 1) 

Are you ready to take to the skies?
Captain Frankie welcomes you on board.
Come join the adventures of Captain Frankie and the Angelic Airlines flying angel as they travel across the world to some of the most popular, entertaining, and educational places in the world.

Captain Frankie is waiting for you to book your ticket, safely stow your bags, and open your eyes to the beautiful places created for all of us to visit in My First Travel Book.

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The Seven Wonders of the World (My First Travel Books) (Volume 3)

Are you ready to take to the skies?
Then welcome to Angelic Airlines!
Come join the adventures of Captain Frankie and the Angelic Airlines flying angel as they travel across the world to the Seven Wonders of the World. Captain Frankie is waiting for you to book your ticket, safely stow your bags, and open your eyes to the beautiful places created for all of us to visit in My First Travel Books.

This is Anna Othitis’s third trip with Captain Frankie and the crew.

Originally from Zimbabwe, Africa, her home port is now Wanaque, New Jersey, and she has flown across the world in her travels.

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About the Author
I lived and was raised in the beautiful land and country of Zimbabwe, Africa (home will always be home). We relocated to Wanaque, New Jersey, USA, our new home and where our younger son, Frankie, took up his “American Dream”.

 My husband George, sons Johnny, Elia and Frankie encouraged me to write my first children’s book titled My First Travel Book, which was inspired by Frankie (Captain Frankie). Given a wonderful opportunity, he graduated in his Masters degree in Aeronautical Science, and is successful in his career as a professional pilot. My favorite saying is: “Be Bold Be Brave”.

My dream is to be given the opportunity for my book to reach each and every less fortunate child who will have the opportunity to fantasy travels through our book to see our lovely world destinations, and to one day to give back and assist the needy in Africa and beyond, to keep giving care and love to the less fortunate. Whilst in Zimbabwe I was involved with many charitable organizations and groups where my greatest passion and love was with the primitive, simple people of Zimbabwe, Africa and will still continue to reach out to the many beautiful children of the world.

Now living in the USA, after having traveled some short and some long journeys, to get to our final destination, we realize how small this world really is, yet is also so big and so beautiful in each and every corner. Still so much is untouched by humans, which will hopefully remain sacred in many areas. We have to cherish every and all beautiful things that our planet earth has to offer to us.

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I received this book to review through Beck Valley Books Book Tours, all the opinions above are 100% my own. 

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Save Me From The Shiny Happy People


I'm having one of those grumpy mornings when all my gripes and moans are amplified by the kind of mood which makes you find even gamboling kittens rather irritating.

And nothing is worse during these times than a run-in with the terminally jolly.

Now I know I should not find happy, upbeat, positive people occasionally annoying.  It's probably a heresy to say so but don't you sometimes suspect that it's all a bit of an act?


There are a myriad ways to shore up flakey self confidence and I don't doubt there's a lot of truth in the statement "fake it until you make it" but good God, please give the rest of us a break.

Actually, people who put a positive spin on everything run the risk of denying others the chance to experience their misery in glorious techicolour - which is often quite enjoyable, albeit for a short period of time.  If you are insisting that everyone radiates sunshine, you force them to deny the storm clouds overhead and perhaps stop them from truly dealing with their problems.

I guess it's the difference between glass-half-full people (like the Husband) and glass-half-empty people like me.  I've come to the conclusion that we are genetically programmed this way.  Even in medieval times, doctors talked about 'the humours' and knew all about melancholia (possibly what we today know as depression).

If you happen to suffer from depression or anxiety (as I sometimes do), trust me when I say that you cannot whitewash your emotions by pretending to be happier than an Andrex puppy in a toilet roll factory.

You can change your state by changing your physiology - studies show if you smile you feel happier. We know that we can lift our mood by going for a walk or taking a nap.  But these I think are temporary fixes and the source of our gloom still needs to be addressed and comprehensively dealt with.

Do us misery guts a favour and let us be who we are.  If you must radiate sunshine and joie-de-vivre, could you do it quietly, and preferably without a witty slogan t-shirt and a selfie stick?

So no, I don't want to hear

"It'll all come out in the wash"

"Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift, that's why its called the present."

"Shoot for the moon and if you miss you will still be among the stars.”

"Everything happens for a reason"

"Today is the first day of the rest of your life".

and any other phrase involving surviving.  The only person qualified to talk to me about survival is Gloria Gaynor.

Fact.
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Tuesday, 23 June 2015

Autumn & Winter Brides - Finding THE Gown For The Cooler Months

We married in late September at the fabulous St. David's Hotel & Spa in Cardiff. We knew we were taking a bit of a risk with the Great British weather but luckily we saw some sun. Nobody wants to shiver at the altar or need defrosting at their reception!

If you are planning an autumn or winter wedding, bridal wear specialists venusbridal.co.uk have given me their thoughts on wedding gowns suitable for the colder months.

autumn winter bridal gowns

From more budget-friendly prices to a better chance of getting the venue you want, there are many, many reasons to have a wedding in the autumn or winter months instead of a more typical spring or summer celebration. In fact in the world of weddings, autumn and winter could be seen as the new spring and summer.

But the best part of getting hitched in cooler months is definitely the wedding dresses, cover-ups and accessories an autumn or winter affair allows you to play around with. So after you’ve decided on the dress style that complements your body you can go wild with the colours of your wedding season. 


autumn winter bridal gowns

Although a white wedding dress is perfect for any time of year, autumn and winter weddings give you a chance to be more adventurous with colour. A colourful gown will add drama to your wedding day look. But if you still prefer to be more traditional you can take elements of autumn and winter colours and add them to a white dress.

Autumn Colours 

What about a dress that uses the hues of autumn – orange, deep rusty red, brown, olive and white gold? Or why not mix up the colours and go for a two tone wedding outfit.

Winter Colours

The colours associated with winter are stunning – red, gold and silver. Wintertime can provide a wedding with an entirely different feel by introducing more intensity and drama. Selecting a winter wedding dress can be a very different experience from any other time of the year and many winter brides wear bridal gowns with Christmas-themed colours and accents.

autumn winter bridal gowns

Fabrics 

With the chillier weather, fabrics can be heavier and richer. You should think about using velvets, taffeta, satin, brocade and heavy silk. If you love lace choose a denser variety like Battenberg. Or you could create your own stylish, bespoke look - starting with a simple crêpe, satin or chiffon dress and layering everything from sequined overdresses and tiered skirts to washed silk sashes.

Staying warm and stylish 

You don’t have to sacrifice style just because the weather is freezing. Keep cosy with some seasonal accessories such as a wedding dress cover up. It can be as simple as a light jacket, an angora cardigan or a cashmere wrap. Even a lace or satin bolero can add warmth. A capelet is another excellent cover-up option. Some may prefer a wedding dress with long sleeves; in fact, sleeved gowns are back in a big way. But you could also add to the drama of the event with a glamourous faux fur stole. Other popular choices include fur hand warmers and full-length coats in white.

autumn winter bridal gowns


Autumn and winter weddings allow you to bring out your playful side, from wedding bouquets that include berries and turning leaves to a winter wonderland venue. Let the cooler months bring colour to your special day. With an almost endless choice, finding your wedding dress, whatever the season, is one of the most exciting parts about planning your big day.



This guest post was written by Venus Bridal, bridal gown designers and manufacturers who provide timeless, glamorous and diverse wedding gowns to stockists throughout the whole of the UK.
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Monday, 22 June 2015

A Mummy Blogger's Guilt

Recovering from Britmums Live 2015 and still marvelling at the sheer volume of mummy bloggers, their chutzpah, their confidence and their blogging prowess, I am sat in my 'writing chair' (mine in the day, the Husband's in the evening) trying to 'inspire, educate, entertain' and many of the other goals discussed over the weekend.


Except I can't.

Nope.  It's an inset day and Caitlin and Ieuan are out playing in the garden whilst I sit here and feel what can best be termed as "extreme blogger guilt".  The Husband is in the loft working from home today before flying off to Europe on business tomorrow.  There is a kind of irony in that fact.  He is being paid and therefore has no qualms in focusing solely on his job. He will appear as referee and sounding board for both the kids and I if need be, but he has none of the accompanying guilt I feel.

I, on the other hand, am somewhat confused about what I should be focusing on.

If you are a 'stay at home mother', even if you work from home (or are trying to create a new job role for yourself), it feels as if your 'job' is to focus entirely on the children.

Don't get me wrong.  I chose this.  And yes, I'm bloody lucky.

But the boundaries are all mixed up.  I watch the kids play from the french doors' window and think "I should be out there with them.  I am missing valuable moments of their childhood which I will never have again"

The blogger in me says "yes, but you are not just a mum.  It is OK for you to try to re-establish yourself in the World, to create a niche, make the most of your education and help your husband to secure your kids' future (and, alright, to have some blogging-related fun times along the way).

It is not that wall-to-wall childcare is difficult in terms of 'technical ability' but the occasional mundanity and the sheer repetition can really grind you down - particularly if you have just had a (rare) two day break away from your kids and can just about still remember what it was like to have nobody to answer to but yourself, nobody else to worry about and nobody else's expectations to dash apart from your own!

The Husband has not had to make this choice and I'm not sure he altogether understands how vast a choice it feels like I have made sometimes.

Organisation is the key, I suppose.  A timetable which allows me to focus on time with the kids and time blogging.  The solutions are there - practicality should be my watchword.

But even then, I'm not sure it will heal the rift I feel between me as a mother and me as the professional working woman I once was.

I don't think I have ever felt more conflicted.
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Review: DermaEraze Miracle Oil by Lorena Öberg

As you get older your skincare preparations need to be a whole lot gentler.  In fact, I think those of us over 40 have as big a job finding skincare products which truly suit us as teenagers fighting the blight of spots and blemishes (which I still occasionally get!).



For years I have viewed oils with a degree of suspicion.  All those years of removing oil from my face (especially my nose) and now I'm supposed to start putting it back on?

51 and I still get hurty, angry skin
But, I have started experiementing with oil based products (for example L'Oreal's Age Perfect Extraordinary Facial Oil and Sanctuary's Ultimate Cleaning Facial Oil) and my nervousness is definitely starting to abate.

I recently came across DermaEraze Miracle Oil - created by skin repair expert Lorena Öberg - CEO & Founder of 'Lorena Öberg Skincare'. Clinics in Harley Street & Surrey. An all purpose oil that helps heal the skin, it can be used as a moisturiser for dry skin, preventing and treating stretch marks (especially caused during pregnancy), after sun-care, bruises or chapped lips.  It contains a combination of oils including olive, avocado and almond oils which, says Lorena, will help stimulate healing and helps prevent skin imperfections if used daily.

To use DermaEraze Miracle Oil as part of your cleansing routine, after using your usual cleanser, simply apply a couple of dabs or tiny drops to each side of your face, then apply warm water on your hands and very gently massage the oil over your face (including any problem areas) then allow to settle.  The oil has a thin to medium consistency - it is not heavy or gloopy and I found that it is quickly absorbed.

The idea is that the oils will not only act as an essential conditioner for your skin but also provide a layer of protection and I certainly found my skin felt smoother and had benefited from the massaging. The dry patch to the side of my mouth was less flaky, albeit slightly redder from the massaging.

After applying DermaEraze Oil

It is obviously too early days to say how long it will take for DermaEraze Miracle Oil to get rid of my dry flaky patch, but it is certainly a gentler way of treating my skin than harsh exfoliation.  The oil is multi-purpose too. You can also use the oil in the bath and on your hair and the Husband can use it to shave.

Available at: www.lorenaoberg.co.uk/contact/shop/, DermaEraze Miracle Oil retails at £15 for 50ml with larger sizes available and a flat £5 shipping fee within the UK.

You can also connect with Derma Eraze on Twitter at @DermaEraze and on Facebook at www.facebook.com/LorenaObergSkincare.

A PR sample was received for the purpose of this review.
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Sunday, 21 June 2015

My Sunday Photo - 21/06/2015


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Wednesday, 17 June 2015

Can your GP really diagnose in 10 minutes?

Now I appreciate that we are lucky to have the NHS.  I also appreciate that many of my medical ailments are comparatively minor and that many GPs are working all the hours God sends (albeit for what could be considered a very generous salary) and do their best to help us.

An apple a day doesn't always keep the doctor away
But, here's the thing.

In my local surgery we are allocated 10 minutes per appointment and I fail to see how a comprehensive diagnosis can possibly be made in that time.  I spend more time waiting to see I doctor than I do in front of them. Ignoring the logistical problem of keeping everybody happy and ensuring medical emergencies get priority treatment, let me give you an example of what I'm talking about.

I have been variously diagnosed with TMJ (Temporomandibular Joint syndrome), Bruxism (teeth grinding), bleeding gums, Early Onset Hearing Loss and Vulvodynia.  Add to the mix lower back pain and anxiety. My life is occasionally a series of trips to the doctors - each generally futile because a GP will treat the symptoms you present at the time without considering the overall picture.

For example, go to the doctors with gynaecological problems and I can guarantee you will be treated for i) thrush, ii) water infection or if you are my age iii) vaginal dryness.  It's as if there are literally only 3 choices.  Now it may well be that, for most women, these are likely to be the main contenders but what if they're not?

And that, to me is the crux of the matter.

I have been reading about Fibromyalgia lately - happening to come across some excellent blog posts on the topic and it's curious that every single one of my symptoms could be the result of this.

Fibromyalgia is a long term condition that causes pain all over the body. The NHS says that "the exact cause of fibromyalgia is unknown, but it's thought to be related to abnormal levels of certain chemicals in the brain and changes in the way the central nervous system (brain, spinal cord and nerves) processes pain messages carried around the body. It's also suggested that some people are more likely to develop fibromyalgia because of genes inherited from their parents."

But I know that unless I go to my GP and directly ask the question "could I have Fibromyalgia", there is practically zero chance that anybody would make the link between my symptoms and start to address the potential cause.

Constantly treating the symptoms without addressing the cause must be costing the NHS millions, not least in the amount of antibiotics and antidepressants that are dished out.  Is it any wonder so many of us are turning to Dr Google?  There is obviously a lot of incorrect and potentially dangerous medical information online, but as our obsession for googling all things medical grows, we are reaching a place where the patients consider themselves much better informed than their doctors - which must make a doctor's life even more difficult and may be putting some of us at risk.

There is no obvious answer to this problem.  We need a root and branch change to the way we think about medicine and its place our health.  We surely cannot go on with a situation where the sum total of a doctor's advice is "put a bit of cream on it" (oh yes, I've heard that one a few times).

I suspect that the future of medical care in the UK may well involve compulsory medical insurance and private medical care.

But perhaps a rethink about how we manage doctors appointments is in order.  And some division of labour so that there are medical specialists in particular areas in each practice - my first suggestion would be paediatrics, closely followed by gynaecology! Let's staff up practices to cover practical appointment times e.g. up to 7 pm at night.

Having spent 20 years in Law I can say that law firms have had to look at their business models and many have had to drag themselves kicking and screaming into the 21st century.  Better communication (both internally and with clients), a clearer understanding of the needs of their clients and designing services to anticipate and meet those needs have been critical for those firms who have survived.

It's time for our doctors' surgeries to start thinking the same way.

If more comprehensive and accurate diagnoses are not made at an early stage, then all that will happen is that chronic conditions will need to be treated at greater time and expense in our hospitals. Get the diagnosis right in the first place (or earlier on) and the number of appointments requested will probably decrease, freeing up time for treating more medical emergencies or offering more specialist care.

Otherwise, we'll all just carry on diagnosing ourselves and putting up with aches and pains that maybe, just maybe, could have been dispensed with months, even years ago.
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Tuesday, 16 June 2015

Win a gorgeous organic beauty hamper from Urtekram

The older I get, the more I appreciate the benefits that organic products can offer - particularly now that I have kids.  We know that the skin is the largest organ of the body and that some of the chemicals we put on it can be absorbed with a potentially detrimental effect further down the line.  It makes sense to me to try organic products, particularly now that the slightly dusty and uninspired image they used to have is long gone and many ranges now rival the best that the beauty market can offer.

So I was interested to discover Danish organic beauty specialist Urtekram which has just launched an all new, organic range drawing on its philosophy of simplicity and honesty.


They have been creating their plant-based products since 1972 and have created a range which includes shampoos, conditioners, body lotions, shower gels, soaps and scrubs, crystal deodorants and even toothpastes using the most aromatic herbs, flowers and oils in the world.

Not all organic products are created equal and even some of the ingredients in these can affect our bodies, but Urtekram products meet the COSMOS-standard which is an internationally recognised standard for organic and natural cosmetics. Their products are also certified by Ecocert Greenlife which is the international certification body for sustainable development and organic agricultural production. The Urtekram range is hypoallergenic, Vegan Society approved and free from parabens, synthetic ingredients and artificial colours. Impressive credentials.

In the UK, the range includes Rose (made from fine rose geranium oil and shea butter to nuture and calm the skin), Brown Sugar (made with Fairtrade sugar from Paraguay) and sun-ripened orange-scented Aloe Vera among others.  There is also a no perfume baby range.

Urtekram have kindly sent me a selection of their products to try and I will be reviewing these for you shortly. You can buy their products from all good health food shops, priced from £1.75 and I have a lovely hamper containing every product in Urtekram's Rose range for one lucky winner.  Just enter via the rafflecopter widget below.



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Further information about Urtekram can be found at www.urtekram.com or www.healthyfoodbrands.co.uk.
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Monday, 15 June 2015

What do you say when your child hates sports day?

Actually,  to be more precise,  what do you say when YOU hated sports day but you want to enthuse your child?

This was NOT me.
I was a complete sports duffer.  I used to play Left Back at Hockey because the bib had my initials on.  I tried tennis, but our teacher couldn't be faffed teaching a left hander.  I tried cross country running.  Well,  a brisk jog down the lanes surrounding the school anyway.

Our school had a swimming pool (complete with, we later discovered, its own asbestos tiles), the water of which was always freezing.  I remember lessons in winter were particularly onerous because you could never dry your hair and would spend afternoon lessons with water dripping from your pony tail down your back.

And don't mention gym - we had wall bars and ropes and those 'horse' thingummys. I once managed a forward roll.  That's it.

On the other hand,  I studied ballet and completed all the Royal School of Dance exams up to Pre-Elementary so I did do some exercise during my teenage years.

And Dad did take my sister Sarah and I out on our bikes quite a lot.

In those days Dinas Powys really was a village and the surrounding country lanes were quiet. Nobody worried about wearing a safety helmet then.

It seems like another world now, doesn't it!

My most hated event in the school calendar was sports day.

There were always the cool girls who could sprint without breaking into a sweat.

There were the strong and solid girls who could chuck a shot or a javelin for what seemed like miles.

And then there were the small group of us sporting renegades for whom hiding out in the changing room toilets or, better still, remembering some extremely urgent piano practice in the music room seemed a better bet.

Caitlin seems to have inherited my loathing of forced sporting activity, gung-ho banner waving and irritating whistle blowing. I am, however, determined that she should give sports more of a go than I did.

She is not very confident and is not one of the fastest runners - largely because she does not have the competitive edge that some of her peers do - inherited, I suspect from their far more sporty parents.

"Does it matter if I come last?"  she's asked me on a couple of occasions.

It's a more sensitive subject because her brother Ieuan lollops everywhere, making running looks as easy as breathing.

So what do you say to a child who hates their school sports day?

How about some of these.

* Everybody is built differently.  Some can run fast, some can jump high and some are born to dance.

* Even if you don't win, by trying your hardest you are helping your school team (or house) to succeed.

* Even if you are not good at sports now, one day you may be (Eddie "The Eagle" Edwards, anybody?)

* If you want to succeed at anything you've got to practise (train).  Athletes train for hours every day.

* If you don't do well, nobody will remember.

* See yourself winning.  Imagine you are running down the track as fast as a superhero. Nothing can stop you.

* Believe you can and you will

* We will love and be proud of you no matter what happens.

I'd be tempted to add "your mother had all the speed and grace of a sleepy heffalump and she's turned out OK" but that's possibly not up there with the best coaching strategies.

What do you tell your kids?

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Saturday, 13 June 2015

Had kids - warning - you might cry at EVERYTHING now


Oh God.  I used to be vaguely emotional, but since I had kids it's as if the dam has opened and I cry at anything.  Randomly.  I suppose it's because the balance of my hormones has altered, although at my age, I'm more menopausal than premenstrual!

Leave me alone.  I'm just having 'a moment'.
Of course there are plenty of days when, as mothers, we may spend more than an hour or so on the brink of mild hysteria.  This state can be induced very easily during breakfast by a coco-pops shortage, running out of milk or the offspring moving slower than a slug through treacle to don their school uniform or put their coat on.

But I'm talking about real tears, runny noses and damp tissues.  I'm talking puffy eyes and a mild headache from the facial exercise involved in try to hide the fact that you are crying.  

I always used to be set off by television programmes like "The Waltons", "Little House on The Prairie" and even the film "The Sound of Music" but now every time I turn the television on, it's an emotional time-bomb.

For example, I cry at
  • - charity ads
  • - Comic Relief or Sports Aid
  • - any community based DIY project programme, or "Changing Rooms"
  • - wildlife documentaries - if little ducks get eaten, I'm done for.
  • - beautiful pictures of trees
  • - christmas adverts - John Lewis' ad is always torture (in a good way)
  • - nativity plays and the kids' christmas shows

Not only do I cry at sad things, but I cry at happiness inducing things too.  For this reason, I fear watching just one episode of "Long Lost Families" would be extremely bad for my health.  It's bad enough coping with the Nationwide Bank advert featuring the father who leaves his scarf on the bus. It's not Anna Karenina is it but still, the old bottom lip starts to wobble.

Is it just me though?  I turned to my fellow parenting bloggers to see if their waterworks were as random and spontaneous as mine.

Anneka at mrscraftb.co.uk says  "Oh my goodness! I'm exactly the same. Anything where there is a mummy and baby involved; "One Born Every Minute, gorillas on a wildlife programmes, mice on "Spring Watch!! Gosh it's terrible.

Laura at sidestreetstyle.com says "I never used to cry but now if I watch "One Born Every Minute" I'm in floods of tears every time a baby is born".

Mellissa at thediaryofajewellerylover.co.uk shared that "I cried when my son won an award in Art for the best GCSE results in the school. I had big tears rolling down my face and felt so silly.

For Rebecca Ann at munchiesandmunchkins.com it's "anything at all which involves children being ill or dying even if I know it's fictional . I was actually blabbing 5 minutes into the film "The Impossible" whilst heavily pregnant with baby 2 - the wave hadn't even hit by that point by the way. I also cry a lot more now when I see people being very nice to others.

Su at soosie.wales says "everyone thinks I'm strong but under the hard exterior I'm fluffy marshmallow! I can cry at the drop of a hat. Posts from bloggers relating to hard times, films, adverts..the recent one about a chap that loses his scarf gets me every time. Suffering of children, bad treatment of anyone. Years ago Esther Rantzen did a programme about homeless people and it featured an old chap. An old soldier who fought for this country living on the streets. It broke my heart, I was inconsolable for hours at the injustice of it."

Debbie at anorganisedmess.com says "my hubby laughs at the things I cry at since having children, not that I was heartless before, but definitely the films I wouldn't have thought so much about before- I'm thinking of "My Sister's Keeper" and "The Impossible" as most recent examples. But I've also lost my fearlessness, especially at theme parks- my children (at 4 and 6) will now go on rides which make me feel ill, whereas before I had to go on rides alone because the OH wouldn't go on."

Cathryn at cardiffmummysays.com has the same problem.  She says "Oh yes, this is me too. I've always been emotional but it's gone into overdrive since having children. At my daughter's first school christmas show, I was crying before they'd even come on stage! I cried loads listening to them sing. When we had the open morning before she started in reception, they had the year 6s singing a song they'd written about them leaving and going off to secondary. I was crying and these weren't even my kids, and my daughter hadn't even started at the school! I cry at all their birthdays, when everyone is singing happy birthday. And films - I cried in Cinderella because it was heartbreaking when her mother was dying, but I also cried in The Lego Movie, when we realised it's about a boy and his dad, and Home when she finds her mum again. I cry every year when my children wake up on Christmas morning and Father Christmas has been. I cried when my two eldest, completely unprompted, sang a song for their grandparents, word perfect. Basically, I cry at anything!"

Cathryn also remarked that she feels so much more aware of death and loss now that she's a mum. And isn't that the real reason we mums well up so frequently?  Nothing makes you more aware of the passage of time than having a child - doubly so for us older mums.

In a strange way, having kids seems to hold a magnifying glass up to all our emotions, both good and bad, and we somehow gain the courage to express them in ways we wouldn't have dreamed of before. I have given up being embarrassed about crying, at least in front of the Husband, although I suspect he thinks blubbing all the way the "Britain's Got Talent" is a little odd.  (Côr Glanaethwy, the Welsh Choir were robbed!).

I'm welling up already just thinking about it .......
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Friday, 12 June 2015

Could YOU be the face of Cosmopolitan The Fragrance? Competition Details HERE


Cosmopolitan Magazine is looking for 3 fun, fearless females to be the #face of their new fragrance, "Cosmopolitan The Fragrance".  The 3 lucky winners will become the face of the fragrance and feature in a photo shoot in Cosmo Magazine.  (Make sure you are available to attend in London on 20th July 2015). I'll be telling a bit more about the fragrance very shortly but in the meantime get snapping!  The closing date is midnight on 30th June 2015 so I would suggest you enter as soon as possible.


To enter, simply upload your selfie and explain in under 100 words why you think you are THE fearless female who best represents the fragrance.  You can also share your photo on Facebook or Twitter with the hashtag #cosmoface. Your picture should be head and shoulders only.  No full length shots please.



The judging panel comprises of Cosmo, Jigsaw (a global beauty company who have created the fragrance) and perfume-retailer Boots, who will be the exclusive distributor of "Cosmopolitan The Fragrance". Could you impress them?

Entries appear in the Face Gallery so you can see who you are competing against.  Good luck!
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Come Fly With Me - And The Kids

I love flying - the whole experience. As a singleton, there was an undeniable buzz about rolling up at the airport, indulging in a little Duty Free shopping and having a leisurely drink at the bar.  My reading of choice was Cosmopolitan and the latest literary best seller.  Then there was the thrill of the flight itself, the runway taxi, the exhiliration of take-off.  I even enjoy airline food in those tiny trays accompanied (against the counsel of every skincare guru) with a chilled glass of wine.


Now a completely different experience awaits.  Oh yes.  It's time to take the family on a plane and I'm now viewing what used to be a pleasure as something to be endured. The potential for chaos is there in spades - travel sickness, kiddy melt-downs, lost passports and the absolute nightmare scenario of lengthy flight delays.  This is before you even think of the cost of travel, getting to the airport and remaining married after the holiday.  The Husband says I am a complete nightmare in the build up to any holiday.  As we women know, however, this is because we generally do all the organising and packing whilst our partners polish the Sat Nav.

So I have duly done my research and compiled some helpful advice on flying with kids (and added some from my own experience of travelling with Caitlin and Ieuan) which is contained in the tips below.

- get them enthusiastic at the prospect of flying. Here's Gareth Williams, CEO of Skyscanner,net on the subject.  "Don’t forget that flying was once wondrous. To them it still is, so point out the small houses, the clouds, the setting sun…. And if you’re desperate, get them to count how many passengers are on the flight (I kid you not – it worked a treat). If you can, get a visit to the cockpit. Even adults enjoy it. Your kid may decide to be a pilot, which is fine, until they dream up something else.”

- make sure you have the family passports sorted out in good time, especially if there is a risk of yet another strike at the passport office!  Photography specialists Jessops are offering a special baby passport photo service which you can read about HERE.

- don't leave packing until the night before.  Too stressful and there's a risk you'll forget something.  Write yourself a checklist, making sure the basics are covered first - travel documents, passports, medication etc.

- make sure you know the luggage allowance for your airline. You can check this online by entering your booking reference.  Here is British Airways' advice, for example. They say that a checked bag can be up to 90cm x 75cm x 43cm (35.5in x 29.5in x 16in) – including any bits that stick out, like the handle, pockets and wheels. Generally each person can take 'at least one bag weighing up to 23 Kg (51 lbs).

- also check hand luggage allowances - again, if you look at British Airway's guidance, you can see all the rules and regulations laid out.  Anyone over 2 can have a cabin bag and a personal bag, whilst infants can have a cabin bag only for items required during the flight.

- make sure you are familiar with liquids, banned and restricted items [HERE].  Briefly, when passing through airport security screen, each liquid you carry (for example contact lens solution) must be in its own container of no more than 100ml.  All liquids should be carried in a single, transparent resealable plastic bag of up to 20cm x 20cm (8in x 8in) with a total capacity of up to a litre.  If you a travelling with a baby or infant you can carry as much baby milk, powdered formula, sterilised water (must be in a baby bottle) and baby food as required for your trip, even if this exceeds the usual limit on liquids. This also applies to liquid medicines if you have a supporting prescription or doctor's note.

- allow enough time for travel.  Make sure you know check-in requirements for your airline.  Many airlines will also let you check in online usually 24 hours before your flight. For example ebookers.com advise that for international flights you should check in at least 3 hours before departure, with 2 hours required before an European flight.  Domestic flights generally check in at least 90 minutes before departure.

- check that you have booked travel insurance for the whole family.  And have you got your European Health Insurance Card? which replaces the E111?  This gives UK residents access to state-provided healthcare in all European Economic Area countries at a reduced cost or sometimes for free. If you have a EHIC, the UK healthcare system will cover the costs of  any unexpected medical treatment needed as a result of accident or illness. You still need travel insurance before the EHIC will not cover you for repatriation to the UK if your illness or accident is serious. Travel insurance will also cover you for other events that could go wrong such as lost or stolen luggage.

 - Get breakfast ready the night before. If your flight is really early, it's still a good idea to make sure there won't be any rumbly tummies (with the accompanying bad temper) en route.  A carton of fruit juice, a piece of fruit, a wrapped brioche rolls and perhaps a Babybel cheese can all be packed up the night before.

-  Lay travelling clothes for the whole family out ready.  This is a time for comfy old clothes where it doesn't matter if they get stained.  Let Victoria Beckham worry about the Paparazzi. Remember to consider the climate you're travelling to but don't forget that the weather on returning to good old Blighty is often cold and wet!

- let the children choose one special toy to take with them, for example a comforter in their hand luggage (perhaps a backpack).  But if it's THE special toy, you might be better persuading them to leave that one at home.  Losing a favourite teddy can be heartbreaking. You can also add crayons and paper and a favourite book. Knowing my two, we will be better off relying on iPads / tablets loaded with their favourite apps or DVD / TV favourites.  To avoid annoying your fellow passengers, headphones would also be an idea.

- Don't forget to take the iPad / tablet chargers and consider whether you'll need an adapter at your destination. Also bear in mind that if you take a laptop, it will have to be removed from the bag for x-ray.

- try to avoid unnecessary queues.  You might want to budget for Meet & Greet Airport Parking, for example.

- take plenty of snacks.  There will probably be loads of places where you can buy food but you can bet Ieuan will be having one of his "peanut butter only" days.  Mini sandwiches, bottled water and juice cartons if you have room are recommended.  I would also take some boiled sweets to suck during take-off in case of ear discomfort.

- Make sure you have a toilet break before boarding.  You can bet that kids will want to go before the "take off your seatbelt sign is lit up".  Another great piece of advice is to put your child back in pull ups if they are potty training - just for the duration of the flight, of course.

- Keep bugs at bay. Pack antibacterial wipes and hand sanitizer.  You could wipe restaurant cutlery for example where you not sure about hygiene.

- Track your kids.  How about t-shirts printed with your mobile number on?  Very Paddington.  Or another suggestion I have come across is to write your mobile number in biro on their arm.

- Mug up on games to keep them occupied.  I-Spy is a perennial favourite or buy books of junior wordsearches and dot-to-dot.

- Exude calm - easier said than done if you're a nervous flyer yourself but you can't expect your kids to be calm if you're a nervous wreck yourself.

This may well be your once a yearly break so it makes sense to plan and organise as much as you can in advance so that you minimise any less than fun travel experiences.  A bit of preparation up front (yes I know you're busy) may save many hours of frustration on the day of travel.

I hope you have a great time.


Mami 2 Five
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Thursday, 11 June 2015

Father's Day Gifts From Morrisons

Let's be honest.  Whilst it would be great to have the time to shop for that unique and personalised Father's Day gift, in reality it's a quick dash to the shops the day before for a bottle of plonk and a card (or in my dad's case, his passion, chocolate ginger).

Whilst Caitlin was in ballet practising for her Grade 1 in July and the Husband was happily ensconced in the nearest pub, The Plum Tree, Ieuan and I snuck off to our local Morrisons to see if we could come up with some gifts Mat would like.

Our Morrison's Father's Day Haul
We had hoped to get our hands on a large Dad cookie (£5) which are baked fresh and personalised in store but the Cardiff Bay store was very quiet and we were told that it would take anywhere between 20 and 45 minutes to prepare.  Since we were short of time we decided to try something else.

Now that's a cookie.

There was a small section dedicated to Father's Day gifts but it contained everything we needed, or at least the necessary prompts - confectionery, alcohol, mugs and glasses, cards and shaving gear nestled next to DVDs and books.

Ignoring Ieuan's assertion that "he urgently needed to look at the toys",  I selected the following gifts - just right for sharing of course.



Thornton's Milk Chocolate Beer Mug - £3

Maynard's Wine Gums - £2
Superman Mug & Coaster Set - £4

Father's Day Glass - £2.50
Selection of World Lagers - £5

Iron Maiden Beer & Glass - £5
I found the prices to be very reasonable and there is certainly something for every budget. I would say though that, at least in the Cardiff Bay store, stocks were quite low so you may need to visit sooner rather than later.  We have secreted our purchases at home to share between Mat and my dad (no, not the Iron Maiden beer). And, if we have time, we'll be back for a cookie!

Note though, that not all of these are available on line so you may need to visit in person and employ your usual strategies to combat demands from your children. My favourite is "mummy hasn't got her hearing aids in so she can't hear you I'm afraid".  Works a treat.

This is a collaborative post.

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