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Wednesday, 23 November 2016

Tips To Avoid A Christmas Debt Hangover

It's very easy to get so carried away with budgeting for Christmas presents, decorations and a delicious Christmas lunch that we can forget that we still need to meet our December and January household bills.

Christmas tree


We've been saving a little each day towards the cost of Christmas using Skintdad's 52 Week Saving Challenge which helps you save around £650 by saving the same number of pennies as the number of the day in the year.  So, on 1st January you save 1p, 2nd January 2p, 1st February 32p and so on.

I would highly recommend trying this out next year and we will certainly be repeating the exercise, but that doesn't help with the general household bills and the costs of things that can go wrong, like the heating, the boiler, or the car.

The chances are, as soon as the cold weather hits, anything that's about to break down or leak will start to do just that and, unless you have a savings 'cushion' you're left to find the funds to put things right.

Most insurance deals now offer emergency cover for this kind of thing and it is certainly worth shopping around when you renew your policy to see if this extra protection can be added on cheaply. Don't forget to do your comparisons though using a search engine like gocompare.com.

If your car won't make it through the winter and you need finance to purchase another one, make sure you do your research and use a site with a car finance calculator.  That way you'll be clear about exactly what the true cost of your loan is and whether the repayments are manageable.

Here are some other things that might help.

Plan for Next Christmas as early as possible

As I mentioned above, simple savings plans like Skintdad's can provide you with a nice safety cushion to cover the costs of the big day.  It's obviously a bit late now - but you can at least console yourself that Christmas 2017 will be paid for.

Don't blow all your December pay packet on Christmas

Easier said than done if you've bills to cover!  Lots of companies pay their staff earlier in December - at least a week earlier - and it's easy to spend on luxuries and extra presents because you're in the Christmas spirit.

Remember, it needs to cover you to the end of January - a looooong 6 weeks away.

Make sure you don't miss vital payments like your mortgage.

Missed mortgage payments are likely to get you into very hot water, not only by denting your credit score for future loans but with your lender.  Meeting these is far more important than new fairy lights or a state of the art TV to watch Christmas telly on.

christmas presents wrapped in brown paper


Talk to your bank if you need an overdraft

Don't get clobbered by high interest rates because you have not agreed an overdraft.

Use credit cards wisely

Credit cards can offer protection if you purchase goods costing over £100 because, if you have a complaint against the retailer, the credit provider can also be liable. But, the best advice is to pay off your credit card in full every month to avoid interest charges, or shop around to see if you can find good balance transfer deals.  Don't forget, though, that credit is generally an expensive way of paying.

Similarly, don't take out extra store card which often have very high rates of interest, or extended finance schemes which you might struggle to pay back come spring.

Manage the kids' expectations

It's best to be upfront with kids who are pretty good at understanding when money is tight.  Tell them that Santa will be bringing them one special present this year rather than promising the full Christmas list.

Share the costs with your family

Are you the one who always organises Christmas?  If you have siblings (and it won't cause a riot) try to agree to rotate the festive hosting between you.  If you're cooking Christmas lunch, get your family to bring another course, or a Christmas cake, mince pies or wine.

Budget for nights out

It's easy to budget for presents and food but forget all the extras that come with drinks after work and things like taxis back and forth from office parties (those were the days!).  Then there's your office party outfit, Secret Santa presents and tubs of Quality Street to keep your colleagues happy.  Don't forget to add an allowance for these 'incidentals' and try to stick to it.

With a bit of planning and some positivity you will hopefully be able to rein in the excessive spending which can grip us all at Christmas and face the New Year without a Christmas debt hangover.

If you need advice about your financial situation now, contact your local Citizens Advice Bureau who can help.
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Children Draw The Invisible Carbon Monoxide Monster - But Would You Recognise It?

Shocking new research reveals the risks some UK families are taking when it comes to carbon monoxide (CO) poisoning.

More than a third of UK homes (33.9%) aren’t fitted with a CO alarm (approximately 9 million homes) and only 6% of Brits can identify the most common symptoms of CO poisoning.

Lara's Carbon Monoxide Monster

One in 10 UK parents wrongly think you can smell a CO leak and only half the UK (51.5%) know that a solid fuel or gas fire can be a potential cause of CO poisoning.

One in 10 private renters (9.7%) who should legally have a CO alarm, haven’t had one fitted.

For this year’s Carbon Monoxide Awareness Week (21st November - 27th November), the energy company npower has released findings from its annual carbon monoxide (CO) research to highlight how at risk the UK could be from CO poisoning.

Freddie's Carbon Monoxide Monster
The results show there is a clear disparity between the UK’s awareness of CO poisoning and the UK’s actual understanding of what the symptoms are, which appliances can be a cause and also what people should do if they suspect they are suffering from CO poisoning.

The research also sheds light on how British parents could be worryingly underprepared to spot cases of CO poisoning. Despite 95 per cent of UK parents (95.3%) saying they know CO poisoning can be fatal, less than five per cent (4.3%) are actually able to correctly identify the most common symptoms.



Dizziness, headaches, nausea and vomiting, tiredness and confusion, stomach pain, shortness of breath and difficulty breathing are the most common symptoms of CO poisoning. But, one in six people (15.7%) think a metallic taste in your mouth is a symptom and one in five (17.3%) think a fever would be a symptom.

Further cause for concern is that one in eight of us (11.6%) wrongly think you can smell a CO leak, and one in 10 Brits (10.2%) admit they would have absolutely no idea how to identify a CO leak.

Each year in the UK over 200 people are admitted to hospital with suspected CO poisoning and around 50 people die unnecessarily from it.

Alik's Carbon Monoxide Monster

This new research suggests people in the UK are unaware of what the symptoms of CO poisoning are, so the true number of people affected could potentially be much higher.

Carbon monoxide is completely invisible, it has no smell and no taste, so the only definitive way to detect a leak is with a CO alarm, but despite this only two thirds of UK homes (59.2%) have one installed.

The top three reasons people gave to justify not having a CO alarm were: ‘I’ve never had one before’ (28.3%), ‘It’s on my to-do list, I just haven’t done it yet’ (28.1%) and ‘I don’t think I need one’ (22.5%).

To raise awareness of this silent killer, Carbon Monoxide, npower asked 6 children to draw what they thought the deadly gas would look like if it wasn't invisible -"The Invisible Carbon Monoxide Monster".  A group of talented designers then interpreted the children's drawings and brought them to life.

Carbon monoxide is produced when fuels such as gas, oil, coal and wood don't burn fully, so incorrectly installed, poorly maintained or poorly ventilated household appliances like boilers, cookers and fires – both gas and solid fuel, can all be causes of CO poisoning.

Between 1995 and 2015, only 35 per cent of deaths from CO poisoning were actually from mains gas appliances or heating. It was in fact appliances that burn solid fuel, portable gas bottles and, petrol and diesel that represented the majority of the remaining 65 per cent. However, when respondents were asked which household appliances could be a cause of CO poisoning, only half (51.5%) know that a solid fuel or gas fire can be a potential cause.

The research also shows that almost six per cent (5.9%) of us have never had our boilers serviced, which could be around 1.5 million homes. And, one in 10 people who live in privately rented accommodation (9.7%) who legally should have had a CO alarm fitted by their landlord (because their rented home has an appliance that burns, or is capable of burning solid fuel), do not have one installed.

When respondents were asked what they would do if they thought they were suffering from CO poisoning, only two thirds (69.8%) said they would go to hospital.

If you suspect you or someone you know is suffering from CO poisoning, you need to turn off the fuel source and get medical treatment immediately.

Installing carbon monoxide alarms and getting your boiler serviced should also be carried out with all due speed - especially during the festive period when more time than usual may be spent at home.
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Tuesday, 22 November 2016

Christmas Crafting With Bostik

Despite the fact that it's only the end of November, the kids have gone full on "Christmas".  Caitlin and Ieuan have already recorded their Christmas song in school (reindeer antlers obligatory).

Caitlin opening the Bostik craft box


This year it's Slade's Merry Christmas Everybody and I have already had to reassure the pair of them several times that, yes, Noddy Holder really is still alive.

This month, in our role as "Bostik Bloggers"  (I'm not sure they know what they've let themselves in for), we were sent another box of gorgeous crafting supplies and trusty Bostik Glue Dots and Glitter Pens.  The theme this month is, not surprisingly, Christmas.

Ieuan holding polystyrene ball and Christmas tree


Ieuan's approach to crafting is very serious (slightly worrying shades of Kanye West). He knows what he wants to do and that's it.

Caitlin, on the other hand is like a magpie, playing with colours, textures and anything glittery.

Bostik Glue Dots & Glittery Pens


Luckily with Bostik products, there's no mess to clear up afterwards.  We used Bostik White Glue as well because it's strong enough to cope with paper crafting and quicker than using the Glue Dots.

Caitlin & Ieuan making a Christmas card together


While you're crafting you might like to create your ideal Christmas playlist on Spotify or iTunes.

Ieuan's Christmas card
Ieuan's masterpiece
Here's my top ten - and I'm sure there will be no surprises.

1. All I Want For Christmas Is You - Mariah Carey
2. Merry Christmas Everybody, Slade
3. Fairytale of New York - The Pogues / Kirsty McColl

Homemade Christmas gift tag


4. Little Drummer Boy - David Bowie / Bing Crosby
5. White Christmas - Bing Crosby
6. I Wish It Could Be Christmas Everyday - Wizzard

Caitlin's homemade Christmas card
Caitlin's Christmas Card
7. Wonderful Christmas Time - Paul McCartney
8. Santa Claus Is Coming To Town - Jackson 5
9. Driving Home For Christmas - Chris Rea
10. Sleigh Ride - The Ronettes



As an extra plus, all that music tends to drown out the sound of sibling bickering.

Happy Christmas crafting!
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Monday, 21 November 2016

When Santa Gets It Wrong - Make Sure You Get It Right

We're all familiar with the moment when the wrapping paper is ripped off that enticing looking gift, only to reveal something that we immediately want to 'regift', donate to charity or have an 'honest' conversation with the hapless giver about what exactly they are trying to say.

christmas presents wrapped in gold paper with red bows


My worst present was a bag of lentils from a friend who thought my diet needed improving.  He was correct but he gave everyone in our group the same thing.  I suppose we didn't lack ingredients for soup.

If you're in a relationship, gifts at Christmas can be loaded with expectation and the unspoken hope of some sort of commitment (an engagement ring or a similar piece of jewellery, for example).

Then Christmas is ruined if the proposal is not forthcoming or if a gift is not romantic enough. For some the gift is unwelcome if the giver hasn't spent the 'right' amount of money to express the 'right' level of love and / or rampant desire.

For this reason gifts like kettles, irons and vacuum cleaners are not generally well received!

We're all guilty of being rubbish gift givers though, aren't we?  When I was younger, my mum couldn't think of anything she particularly wanted for Christmas and came up with "rubber gloves" (which she used) and "toothpicks" which she didn't.  I can only assume she was planning to take up drinking cocktails and wanted them for glace cherries in her Babycham. That's what she got and I'm not sure she was all that thrilled!

If you think that's lame, here are some of the 'marvellous' gifts some of my fellow bloggers have received over the years.....

"I received some fragrant coat hangers from the Mother-in-law. They were no longer fragrant as it looked like she'd had them for about 20 years. Turns out someone else had bought them for her and she didn't like them so wrapped them up for me. Not entirely sure what she was trying to tell me!"

Laura - mummylala.co.uk.

"A whoopee cushion that had been wrapped up with a real house brick so as to disguise the shape and weight of it - I was soooooo disappointed. Oh and also from the same aunt a different year - the Kylie Minogue album on cassette.. great I hear you cry, only to save money she'd given me a cassette that she'd recorded from the original and then photocopied and stuck the album cover on the front!!"

Bex, Artofhealthyliving.com

"A Cliff Richard calendar.  I don't even like Cliff" - Georgia, Georgiarknight.com

"A Ricky Gervais stand up DVD from my ex. He'd already taken it to his friends place and watched it with them! I didn't even like Gervais at the time. I would say it was the worst present ever, but his Birthday gifts were worse ..."

Angela, Cosmickick.com

"Lavender bath cubes. You know the very old fashioned white square ones wrapped in foil, that come in a nasty ass cheap box. They were from my Fiance and they were a day late too and that was the ONLY thing he got me. Needless to say, he wasn't my fiance for much longer."

Sarah,  Boxnip.co.uk

"I was gifted car jump leads one year" - Hollie, Thriftymum.com

"A set of pyjamas in a size 20 when I was a size 12 and the top and bottom didn't even match. Guess that's one of the reasons he's my ex?"

Karen, Clapperboard

There are so many great internet stores these days that there's no excuse for making a festive faux pas.  And you can also find gifts from companies who have a firm ethical stance and believe in giving back - all year round.

Guilty looking pug with a tiny gold present box
Don't be in the doghouse with a rubbish gift


Uncommon Goods is one such company who offer handmade, recycled and organic products whilst supporting the emerging designers, artists or artisans who may be working in a low income country. The company is also a founding member of B Corporation, to help customers understand the social and environmental impact of their purchases.

I think this may have been what my friend was driving at when he bulk-gifted a job lot of lentils but there are far more attractive Christmas gifts to be found here.

And if you are struggling (as I am as usual) to find a Christmas gift for the man in your life,  you'll find a great selection of Christmas gifts for men too.

Most of us just want to be reassured that we mean enough to that special someone to merit at least 15 minutes of online shopping and the actual purchase of a card.  These days, most of us also want a gift that doesn't impact negatively on the planet or its communities.

So please avoid the lavender bath cubes and jump leads.  Especially if you're hoping for a proposal.

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Why You Don't Have As Much Money As You Want To Have

If you started a discussion with just about anyone you passed on the street and asked them about their financial situation, they’d likely admit that they would like more money.

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Many people don’t have as much money as they want to have, and they don’t know what to do about it. If you want to know why you don’t have as much money as you’d like, this post might open your eyes!

You Haven’t Got A Handle On Your Finances

You must have a handle on your finances if you want more money. Make sure you know how much you have coming in and going out. Make sure you know what you spend and what on. Create budgets for everything. It isn’t about scrimping and saving, it’s about being smart with your money and knowing exactly what’s going on in your accounts. You can download apps for this, or you can simply make a note of everything on your phone.

You Don’t Plan Your Purchases

If you don’t plan your purchases, you likely look at your finances later on and realise you have essentials to buy and end up with less money than you should have. If you want to buy something, make sure you think about it for at least a week before splashing the cash. If you still feel like you want it after a few weeks, then it could be a worthwhile purchase. In some cases, you’ll forget all about the urge you had and save money as a result!

You Don’t Look For Discounts And Deals

Looking for discounts and deals can help you to save money on pretty much anything you buy. There are so many places you can look for them, including sites like DontPayFull.co.uk. You might only save a small percentage or get free delivery if you’re buying online, but it will all add up.



You Don’t Have Financial Goals

Having financial goals is important if you want to have more money in the future. How will you make a plan to work towards it if you don’t have a goal? It’ll simply be a wish! Set your financial goals for a year from now, 3 years, 5 years, and so on. This will help you to stay focused!

You Have A Bad Attitude Towards Money

Many people don’t realise that they don’t have that much money due to their attitude towards money. You might think this is irrelevant, but some of the most successful people in the world would disagree with you. A money mindset and positive attitude towards money is vital if you want more of it. Get rid of you negative beliefs and feelings around money and it’ll begin to flow to you more easily. Try it!

Hopefully this post has cleared up a few things about you and your relationship with money. Use the tips right away and you won’t believe how much your financial situation can change! Do you have tips of your own? Leave them below!
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Beck Valley Book Tour: At Last - Alex Troutt Thriller Book #6 by John W. Mefford

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New Release....
Alex Troutt Thriller, Book #6
AT Last

Thirty years after losing a parent to a hit-and-run drunk driver, FBI agent Alex Troutt finally confronts the killer--the same man who just murdered the Boston police chief.

And what Alex pulls from him shatters her core.

Armed with little more than hope and a shred of decades-old evidence, Alex chases a memory from her past, hoping that she'll find the mother she never really had. With her old buddy Archie on board --as much as ever can be -- the hunt takes her deep into the foothills of West Virginia. A fanatical religious cult has created its own society. Desperate to right a thirty-year wrong, Alex must out-think and out-duel everyone in her path to right a thirty-year wrong.

Will Alex’s quest to find the truth destroy her life all over again?

Available to buy from.....

"Alex Troutt is quickly becoming one of my favorite fictional characters. I love how she's constantly having to balance her family life and her job, even though her job is continually threatening to take over." - Sonya N

"I simply love every single one of John Mefford's novels. They keep you on the edge of your seat reading late into the night." - Michele B

"Intrigue and attempts at revenge for long held grudges – the twists and turns keeps your adrenalin pumping." - Tracy C

"I would love to see this series turned into a movie or TV series - I'd be obsessed!" - Shelly M
  above reviews from the Alex Trout Series

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My Review

This 6th Alex Troutt thriller is a departure from the previous books in that it deals with Alex's own life and the mother she lost when she was a young girl.  In parts, the story is quite harrowing and I found it by far the most affecting of Mefford's feisty female detective stories.

As usual, and without wanting to give the story away, the pace is relentless and the continuity between books faultless. Archie is back, both funny and annoying in equal measure.  The rather awkward age gap relationship between Alex and Brad is still on too although never completely convincing.  And Nick is still on his health kick whilst Ezzy holds the fort at Alex's home.

Mefford makes sure that nothing falls between the gaps when it comes to redrawing his characters which he does with great precision.  You really feel you know them.

When a chance discovery promises to hold the key to bringing back the family Alex misses, she is determined to find answers, no matter what the cost. This brings her into the path of a religious cult whose treatment of women makes your blood boil and from whom it seems impossible to escape.

And as the tension builds, the reader races through the pages hoping that Alex gets her happy ending. 

Whether she does or not is something you'll just have to discover for yourself.

Highly recommended.

About the Author



A veteran of the corporate wars, former journalist, and true studier of human and social behavior, best-selling author John W. Mefford has been writing novels since he first entered the work force twenty-five years ago, although he never put words on paper until late 2009.

John writes novels full of intrigue, suspense, and thrills, but they also evoke an emotional connection with the characters.

When he’s not writing, he chases three kids around, slaves away in the yard, reads, takes in as many sports as time allows, watches all sorts of movies, and continues to make mental notes of people and societies across the land.

John lives in Frisco, Texas with his beautiful wife, three opinionated kids, and a feisty fat cat who rules the world.


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I received this book through Beck Valley Books Book Tours, I have volunteered to share my review and all the opinions are 100% my own.


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Sunday, 20 November 2016

Look Fabulous This Festive Season With Joan Collins Timeless Beauty

Having grown up watching Dallas and Dynasty,  I have long been an admirer of Joan Collins.  A fellow Gemini, she embodies glitz, glamour and chutzpah by the bucketload.


I recently discovered Joan's range of beauty products which are just as glamorous as she is.  And, as you might expect, Miss Collins has some great tips for staying fabulous at Christmas.

*The sun may be disappearing but protect your skin all year around by using a foundation with an added SPF.

*Always remember to eat a balanced diet.  Avocados are great for inside and out!

*Make your lipstick last longer whilst sipping cocktails by blotting your lips after application.

*Instantly take yourself from desk to dance-floor and feel glamorous, confident and sexy by wearing a bright and bold lipstick.

Joan Collins Paparazzi Compact


*Always remove your makeup every night with a deep cleanse and finish with a good overnight moisturiser.

*A good base is the secret to amazing makeup and will disguise ageing.

*Blending makeup with good quality brushes is vital if you want your makeup to look its best for the camera.

*For a sultry, smokey eye look for the office party, double up your eyebrow pencil by using it as an eyeliner and smudging it across the lids.

*Clutch bags are limited for space so use a lipstick as a blusher and blend it out onto the apples of the cheeks.

*Tired looking eyes?  Soak some cotton pads in a bowl of ice and place on your eyes to refreshen and reduce puffiness,

The Joan Collins Timeless Beauty range consists of three different categories: Skin Care, Cosmetics and Fragrance. The products are presented in a striking, luxurious packaging inspired by Hollywood glamour and Joan’s love of Art Deco. The formulations are based on "cutting-edge, effective, multi-active ingredients" and the range is aimed at women from 40 to 70 and above.

“Beauty is not just for the young. I believe with a little care and attention any woman can look good through her 40s, 50’s, 70’s and beyond.” - Joan

I was sent the Paparazzi Compact Duo (£34) to try.  This sleek gold compact contains pressed powder and one of the Divine Lips lipsticks together in a mirrored compact.  The powder is 'skin responsive' and the lipstick is hydrating.

Joan Collins Paparazzi Compact with Divine Lipstick in shade Helene


Joan's lipsticks come in 16 shades, each named after her favourite roles - Alexis is there as you might expect!  I chose 'Helene' which is a lovely red which is easy to wear with a slight orangey undertone.

The Divine lipsticks retail at £18 and simply slot into the front of the compact.

The packaging is very glamorous, as you would expect and although not overly weighty, it closes with a satisfying snap and is big enough to be noticed, should you ignore etiquette rules about removing applying your makeup in public and pose with it whilst out and about!

I am looking forward to trying some more of Joan's products - particularly the fragrance "I Am Woman" which has citrus top notes, a sensual musk and wood base with romantic floral scents at its heart. Then there's Contour Eyebrow Pencil Duo in black and dark brown - the idea being that short strokes of both colours will create the look of fine hair. And of course there are matching nail lacquers for all of Joan's lipstick shades.

This is make-up for grown-ups and I love it.

You can find out more at www.joancollinsbeauty.com.
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Friday, 18 November 2016

How To Make Your Space Your Own On A Budget

How can you make your space your own when you're living in a rented flat, bedsit or student accommodation?

Everyone needs a cosy pad to escape to so that you can recharge your batteries and regather your energy. But how do you do that when money is tight and you've bills to pay?

cat sleeping on an unmade bed


At this time of year in particular, making your space lovely and festive only adds to the enjoyment of the season.

So what to do?  And what do you do when you share your space with others?

Here are some tips you might like to try.

Create a mood board

You can find inspiration from the interior magazines like Elle Decoration and the Sunday supplements.

Repaint - but if you are renting you might want to follow these tips to avoid upsetting your landlord!

Try some DIY projects

Here's a way to make your own fabulous cozy headboard.




Display family photos

Create a photo wall or mix and match frames.  Visit your local printer to blow up your favourite prints to A3 or larger and frame them.

Update the curtains 

You could add a statement theme to jazz a room up or just replace with calming neutrals to dial the volume down.  If light is a problem, it's worth investing in black-out linings which will give you an extra hour of snooze time on light summer mornings and keep you warm in the winter.

Use seating in the bedroom

Create a cozy corner to read in by adding an armchair to your bedroom.

Add texture with throws and cushions

You don't have to spend a fortune.  You can make such a difference with soft furnishings such as throws and cushions. Buy the cushion pads and the covers separately or make your own covers if you can sew.

You can also add character to your bedroom with bedding in different textures, colours and fabrics.

Organised office with desk and surfboard


Hang String lights

These are pretty at any time of year.  Stuff strings of battery operated lights into glass vases to add a cozy glow to corners and mantle pieces or drape over the kitchen or your bed to add some atmosphere.

Create a nook

If you've no room in the bedroom to add a chair, create a cozy corner in your main room - perhaps with a mini table or bookshelf and a lamp to read by.

Add light and reflection with mirrors

A decorating basic - make your space big by using the power of reflection.  You could make a large mirror a feature of the room.

Add plants / flowers

Nothing spruces a room up like a beautiful floral display and you can find some reasonable bunches in stores like Aldi.  Add an extra note of interest by displaying them in quirky ways, for example unusual china cups.

Light Candles

Very Hygge and there are so many types and fragrances to choose from at every price point. Candles are a really quick way to add coziness.

Display wall of clocks


Make your own artwork

If you are the arty type, why not create a wall dedicated to your own artwork.  I have seen some pretty convincing paintings simply done with acrylic paint.  Or if you are into photography, why not display your work - I love black and white photography.

Replace the toilet seat or taps

No explanation needed on this one and is there anything more irritating than a dripping tap?

Display your make up / perfume bottles

If you don't have many ornaments, improvise.  Antique perfume bottles and some of the more unusual modern fragrance bottles make a lovely display.

Hat boxes in stacks also make a great display.

Use modular furniture that can be moved around

If you're investing in furnishings, it makes sense to buy things you can move from room to room - and take with you when you move on.

No matter where you live, it's easy to add your own personality to your space and create a home that is welcoming and great to come back to after a hard day's work or studying.

What would be your top tip?
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New Releases, Free & Bargain Books Link-up Week 46

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How are you all this week?  It's freezing and last night we had thunder and gales.  Yes, winter is definitely here.

It's Stir Up Sunday this weekend if you love your baking - the day when we all traditionally need to make our Christmas cakes and puddings.  I have a truck of dried fruit arriving later today and am relying on Mary Berry (who else?) to create a Christmas cake masterpiece.

I'm currently reading "At Last', the next Alex Troutt thriller by John W. Mefford so stand by for my review on the 21st of this month but in the meantime if you're a wine lover and you love a good mystery, check out "Overcast Sunset" by Joyce T. Strand - murder, theft, kidnap and romance at a winery which will keep you guessing.

It's Black Friday next week but if you want some bargains in the meantime - as well as something good to read - you've come to the right place as there's plenty to choose from on this week's link-up.

Don't forget that I still have plenty to be won on my competitions page and don't forget my new problem page here.

Happy bargain and freebie book hunting on this link.

Have a great week!

Sharing the Love of Books
Enjoy our selection of New Releases / Free & Bargain Books this week

Authors please feel free to add your own books
Readers please free to add your own finds
(any genre except erotica welcome)

This weekly link up is hosted by Beck Valley Books & these awesome book loving blogs...
Monday
 Life as Leels | IrishdaisylovesRomance | Book Babble | All Romance Reader
Tuesday
It's My Side of Life | Celticlady's Reviews | First Time Mommy Adventures 
Wednesday
Beck Valley BooksCinnamon Hollow Reviews
Thursday
Miki's Hope | Nicki's Nook
Friday
Ebook Addicts | I Love Romance | Mother Distracted | Colorimetry | The Ultimate Fan Blog
Saturday
Totally Addicted to Reading | 3 Partners in Shopping | Angie's Angle I Create Purty Thangs | Wishful Endings
Sunday
Lynchburg Mama | LibriAmoriMieiAli - The Dragon Slayer | Wondermom WannabeDeal Sharing Aunt | Rambling Reviews 


For Pre-orders post - PRE-ORDER / genre / title /author
For New Releases post - NEW / genre / title / author
For Free Books post - FREE / genre / title / author / end date 
For Bargain Books post - SALE / price / genre / title / author / end date
(Strictly no Erotica please.  Steamy romance is fine but watch those covers people, incase any underage child is viewing it!)

Click here for this weeks awesome selection!
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Thursday, 17 November 2016

Mums Forced Out Of Work Due To Lack Of Flexible Jobs

In my time in the corporate world, it quickly became clear that all jobs were not created equal. Time after time I would see women in relatively senior positions return from maternity leave only to find out that their role had mysteriously been redefined.  Or, if they did request a more flexible working arrangement, this would be frowned upon and deemed as unfair to the rest of the staff (often predominantly women).

women working at pc


Many of the firms I worked for considered themselves above the constraints of employment law - or at least they knew very well how to circumvent them.

As usual, mums and those without kids were pitted against each other.  Occasionally there might be a half-hearted attempt at a 'job share' but, in general, the working lives of women returners were often made so untenable that they left.

So it was no surprise to read that Workingmums.co.uk is calling for improved education on employment rights and toughening up of legislation

Nearly one in five (18%) working mums have been forced to leave their jobs because a flexible working request has been turned down, according to Workingmums.co.uk's annual survey published on 18th October this year.

The survey of over 2,000 women in Workingmums.co.uk's 10th anniversary year shows that over a quarter (26%) of mums in work have had a flexible working request turned down. Some 12 per cent said their employer did not even seem to consider their request at all and over a quarter (27%) said the reason given for turning down the request was not one which is allowable under flexible working legislation.

For women currently on maternity leave the figures were higher: 35% of those who had had a flexible working request turned down had had it rejected on grounds other than reasons which are allowable under flexible working legislation. Some 68% said they did not feel the rejection was justified. However, 79% did not appeal. This was not surprising given only 5% appealed successfully. Some 41% of those on maternity leave said refusal of flexible working would mean they might not return to their job, yet 50% said they had not discussed flexible working before going on maternity leave.

The survey shows that availability of flexible working is the key career development issue for working mums, with some element of homeworking the most valued, particularly for those wanting to work full time. Other barriers included childcare costs - half of women currently on maternity leave said childcare costs could prevent them returning to work.

Flexible working legislation was extended to all employees in 2014, but some provisions of the original legislation, such as the statutory right of appeal, were watered down.

The survey shows a divide between those women who have extremely flexible jobs (10%) and those who have no flexibility at all (9%) or whose jobs are not very flexible (26%).

It also reveals that many employers are failing to retain the skills of working mums after maternity leave. Some 60% of women said they changed jobs after maternity leave and 58% say they are interested in starting their own business or becoming a franchisee, with 40% of these actively pursuing ideas and plans. Research has shown that the ability to be more in control of their hours - not necessarily to work fewer hours - is a key driver for those women who want to start businesses after having children.

Some 64% are interested in retraining. A previous Workingmums.co.uk's survey showed a need for more flexible working and a desire to do something they considered more meaningful were behind many mums' interest in retraining.

The survey also showed: - job shares are still not used by many employers. Only 4% of women said they were in a job share, despite 55% wanting to work part time - 57% of working mums struggle with holiday and after school childcare - 46% use grandparents to reduce childcare costs - 38% pay no childcare costs as they use family/friends to cover pick-ups or work school-friendly hours.

Under flexible working legislation employers have a duty to deal with requests in a ‘reasonable manner’. Workingmums.co.uk also has concerns about the weakness of the legislation around the right of appeal and clearly the survey bears out those concerns since most who had their request rejected while on maternity leave did not appeal, even though 68% felt the reasons given for the rejection was not justified.

Workingmums.co.uk would like to see more efforts made both to promote the case for flexible working more widely and to educate women about their rights with regard to the legislation. They would also like policymakers to look at the case for reinstating a statutory right of appeal if a request is turned down as this would send an important message to employers that they must give serious consideration to requests and not just dismiss them out of hand.

It's really not good enough in 2016 is it.  And might I suggest that in this Anti Bullying Week, some employers dogged determination to discriminate against those with kids (including dads, many of whom face similar issues), is nothing less than bullying.
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Wednesday, 16 November 2016

My Problem Page - What Was I Asked In Week 46?

This week I'm talking about scaring your crush away by declaring your love on Facebook and why throwing your toys out of your pram in business is not a good idea.

woman lying on bed


If you would like any advice, feel free to message me or pop a comment in the comment box at the end of this post. I promise to be gentle.

Here's this week's questions.

Q: Is it normal if my guyfriend (who I like and isn't seeing anyone) hasn't texted me for a few weeks?

He has been sending me kisses and I sent some back.  The week after he didn’t text me for six days but told me that he had been on Facebook (which I don't have) but he still responds to me. Is it OK for a guy who likes you to not text you for a few weeks and will he text you back?

A: Texting is not real life. It is playing with phones. 

To have a real relationship with someone you have to spend time with them in person. You have to talk to them, get to know their hopes and dreams, what makes them tick. 

Sending text kisses is not a declaration of love. It’s a mild flirtation, nothing more. 

Since you are not in a relationship with this guy, there is no reason why he should text you more regularly. 

It sounds to me as if he is keeping you sweet in case he decides he does want a relationship with you but that’s a little immature and, frankly, a waste of your time. And, by the way, you can get the Facebook app for free on your phone. 

But don’t waste any more time hankering after this guy. If he is really interested he will be phoning to ask you out on a date. 

Until that happens, this is just another keyboard flirtation which is going nowhere.

Q: Did he even love me? Did he cheat? Does he love her now?

We were happy until he told me that he doesn't love me 100%.  He took another girl to his workplace to eat but he never took me there.  We broke up but he came back again.  One minute he would be talking about an open relationship, the next he would tell me not to fall in love with someone else. Two days after he left me he was dating this other girl.

A: This man clearly wanted the best of both worlds and didn’t quite have the guts to tell you he wanted to break up. Or perhaps he wasn’t sure if this other girl really wanted him. 

I am sorry for the upset you have gone through but really, this man is not worth your time or your emotions. 

I believe love is something that develops over time in a committed relationship where both parties are prepared to make an effort.

I suspect he did cheat - and if you’re honest you suspected that too and yes, it hurts. 

I don’t think, from your description, that he was a man in love. I also don’t think he’ll be staying with the new girl for very long either. 

He sounds very immature and as if he doesn’t really know what he wants. Just make sure you don’t let him come back to hurt you all over again.

Q: Do you think it better to argue in business or to just walk away?

A: That’s a pretty vague question and without knowing the context it’s hard to talk in anything more than generalisations. 

If the argument is personal, based on dislike, or poor treatment or a simple difference of opinion, then keeping quiet and treating that person with respect is the professional thing to do. If the poor treatment continues, it is surely the responsibility of HR to help sort it out. 

If you are in a meeting and an argument arises, there’s a difference between being personal and offensive, and calmly stating your well thought out reasons for the good of the business. 

In other words, if it’s your responsibility in whatever role you have at work to deliver something, then you need to find a way to work with the various personalities you encounter to deliver it. 

I always think that the person who is shouting loses - because they have lost control. But walking away is just playing chicken. 

I can’t imagine Richard Branson storming off in a huff somehow, can you?

Q: I told my crush I like him. We were good friends but since I told him I like him he doesn't talk to me anymore. What does this mean? 

So, I told him I like him on Facebook and we talked about that for about 3–4 minutes, but that was 2 days ago and now he doesn’t even talk to me or message me. My friends have noticed that he stares at me during lessons though. Did I do something wrong?

A: I’m guessing you’re not very old and perhaps you are a little inexperienced. 

Declaring your love publicly, on Facebook, isn’t the best place to do it, particularly if he wasn’t expecting it. You put him on the line and he was probably embarrassed and didn’t know what to say.

In general, and I don’t care if this sounds old fashioned, men like to do the chasing. 

It does sound as if he does not feel the same way as he has made no effort to contact you or arrange a date. 

He may be interested, hence the stares, but lacks the confidence to do anything. Surely you got some sense how he felt in your brief conversation? 

All you can do is tell him you value his friendship and understand if he is not interested. Tell him you don’t want to lose what you had - unless you feel that you couldn’t cope with just being a friend and not a lover. 

But please, do this subtly face to face - and not on Facebook.

Q: What are the clues than an ex is playing hard to get?


A: Surely if they’re an ex they’re not really playing hard to get anymore - they’re an ex?
Do you mean that they are showing signs of wanting you back?
It’s very common for exes to reminisce about old times without necessarily wanting to rekindle the relationship.
The only way you will truly know if they are interested is by hearing them say it - or by them asking you out on a date again.
If you are chasing this person and they are giving you the runaround then I don’t think they’re really interested.
If you broke up with them or if you cheated, they may just be toying with you to get some rather immature revenge.
Either way, it’s time to stop playing games and ask what’s going on - that way you can move forward with your life and stop wasting time on someone who may have no intention of rekindling your relationship.

Q: Is it true that if you haven't fallen in love before the age of 21, you'll never really fall in love at all?


A: No of course not - unless you are living in some Disney fantasy land.
I think young love is often based on nothing more than sexual attraction whereas more mature love can be deeper and more enduring.
Falling in love is not a mechanical process. You can’t apply rules and regulations to it. If you could there would not be the acres of romantic poetry and prose from our fellow humans desperately trying to understand love.
Neither does love necessarily ‘appear’ before your magical cut-off age of 21. For some it appears out of the blue; for others it grows and strengthens over time.
There is a saying “youth is wasted on the young”. I’d argue you could say the same about love.
If you are stressing about not experiencing ‘the big love’ yet, relax. Love can be hard to find if you go looking for it.
But if you’re happy, content, like yourself and are kind to others, very often love will find you.


How would you have responded to these questions? I'd love to know. You can find more advice on my problem page.

All materials included in this post are intended for informational purposes only. This post/information is not intended to and should not be used to replace medical or psychiatric advice offered by physicians or other health care providers. The author will not be liable for any direct, indirect, consequential, special, exemplary or other damages arising therefrom.
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Protect Your Family From The Winter Cold With Redoxon® Multivitamins [closed]

As the festive season approaches with all its social events, shopping and entertaining, we often find our systems need a boost to make sure we're in a fit condition to enjoy it all.

To stay healthy we're trying to eat nutritious, vitamin-rich foods and to get outside to enjoy the beautiful autumn countryside with lots of walks and cycling.

Caitlin and Ieuan in Cwm George, Dinas Powys

But we parents live in fear of the kids coming down with coughs, colds and the dreaded 'puke bug'.  I am already giving Caitlin and Ieuan daily probiotics and slathering them in anti-bacterial hand gel but there's always the chance that they will come home with something virulent that we'll all get.

So we've been trying new Redoxon® Triple Action effervescent tablets, which contain high strength vitamin D to help support the immune system, vitamin C to help us to feel energised and zinc to help maintain our skin.

Why is Vitamin D important?

Our bodies need vitamin D to absorb calcium and promote bone growth. Too little vitamin D results in soft bones in children (rickets) and fragile, misshapen bones in adults.  Vitamin D is also needed for other important body functions and a lack of it has been linked to breast cancer, colon cancer, prostate cancer, heart disease, depression, weight gain, and other maladies.

Read on for a fabulous giveaway ......

Redoxon® is the leading immune brand in the UK with over 80 years' experience of helping to keep families' immune systems on top form.

There's Redoxon® Triple Action for when you need a bit of extra help and Redoxon® Every Day Immune support for day to day support.

Caitlin and Ieuan have been trying the Triple Action formula in the form of gummies for children.

Redoxon Triple Action Multivitamins


NEW Redoxon® Triple Action effervescent tablets

When you need a bit of extra help, Redoxon® Triple Action is a combination of high strength vitamin C, D and zinc to support your immune system.

Why use Redoxon® Triple Action?

• Top up of vitamin D even when there is less sunlight. During the summer months, vitamin D is mainly formed in the skin through UV-B sunlight, and functions to help support the immune system
• Vitamin C can help you release your energy
• Your skin is the body’s first line of defence. Zinc can help maintain your skin

The effervescent tablets are for adults and children over 12 years of age. Simply dissolve 1 tablet per day in a glass of water to make a refreshing orange drink. Available in packs of 10 at a RRP of £3.80.

New Look Redoxon® Every Day Immune Support for day to day support

Even though you may not feel it, your immune system works 24 hours a day and that is why you need to take care of it. When you have a busy lifestyle, sometimes it can be good to have extra support.

Redoxon® Every Day is a daily multivitamin for children and adults, providing day to day support for the immune system. The effervescent tablets contain vitamins (A, B6, B12, C, D and folic acid) and minerals (zinc, iron, copper and selenium).

Redoxon Triple Action Every Day Support orange drink


Why use Redoxon® Every Day?

• Vitamin A, vitamin C and zinc help maintain the skin
• Vitamin C, iron, vitamin B12 and vitamin B6 help reduce tiredness and fatigue
• Vitamins (C, A, D, B6, B12 and folic acid) and minerals (zinc, iron, copper and selenium) help support your immune system – your body’s natural protector

Children over 12 years of age and adults: Dissolve 1 tablet per day in a glass of water to make a refreshing orange drink. Children 6-12 years old: Half a tablet per day. Redoxon® Every Day come in packs of 15 (RRP £5.00) and 30 (RRP £9.50).

These make a lovely, refreshing orangey drink with no chemical after-taste.  It dissolves easily and I wasn't left with powder at the bottom of the glass.

Caitlin & Ieuan Hobbis


New Redoxon® Triple Action gummies

• 3 tasty fun flavours (orange, strawberry and papaya)

Per gummy:-

• Vitamin C 30mg
• Vitamin D 5μg
• Zinc 2.5mg

Suitable for children 4 years and older: • Children 4-8 years: 2 gummies per day • Children 9-13 years: 3 gummies per day • Adults and teenagers over 14 years: 4 gummies per day Come in packs of 25 at a RRP of £2.49.

The kids like the taste and texture of these and, unlike some of the vitamins we've tried, I've had no protests from Ieuan at all!

Redoxon® products are available at a range of stores including Boots, Sainsbury’s, Superdrug, Tesco, and Waitrose.

It's good to know that we are taking care of our immune systems - and hopefully warding off Mr Puke!

If you would like to try Redoxon® for yourself and win some lovely goodies and a shopping voucher, why not enter my giveaway?

The giveaway 


Redoxon goody box giveaway


Redoxon® are kindly giving one of my lucky readers a lovely goody box containing plenty of Redoxon to try along with a winter support kit containing a scented candle, hot chocolate and a mug, winter socks and a 2017 diary to help you get the family organised.  Not only that but there's a £50 Tesco voucher to stock up on some healthy food too (or some mince pies....).

Entry is via the Rafflecopter widget.  UK entries only and the usual terms and conditions apply which can be viewed on my Competitions Page, where you can view my other current giveaways.

The giveaway ends at 11:59 pm on Sunday 4th December.



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Good luck!


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Tuesday, 15 November 2016

A Better Way To Find Black Friday Weekend Bargains

Brace yourselves because Friday 25th November marks the start of Black Friday Weekend.

Ah, Black Friday.  Three words that conjure up visions of amazing deals, frequent confusion and occasional brawls in supermarkets.

shopping mall at Christmas


No wonder then, that many of us would prefer to beat the battles in the stores this November, and find the best deals online with our feet up in the comfort of our own home.

This isn't without its frustrations either though because online home shopping often involves trudging through a thousand websites with fifty tabs open whilst you look through items you don’t want before you get any seriously good deals.

It's at this point that you find out your item has sold out in your size or your colour choice isn't available.

Or, even worse, the retailer's website crashes completely so you don't know if you have actually bought anything.

But I've discovered a website that brings all the sales across the internet in one convenient place with the aim of saving time and money, and keeping your stress levels manageable.

Lovethesales.com  brings together all the sales from over 500 of the top brands and retailers across the UK for you to choose from including fashion, homeware, electronics, outdoor and a kid’s section, making finding those hidden gems so much easier.

You can search the sales in your tailored sizes so you won’t be disappointed and can also sign up for sale alerts for your favourite brands so you never miss a sale again.

If you’re looking to find something a bit warmer over the Black Friday weekend, then the UGG sale  is a great place to start for warm, fashionable shoes and accessories from this world renowned brand.

These gorgeous gloves  feature a snug wool  lining and come in purple, grey, brown & black, a perfect Christmas present to tick off the list (and we bloggers do love a list, don't we?).


Classic 2point gloves, was £125 now £49. 61% off

Sticking with the warm theme, there’s nothing like updating old and tired coats for new and vibrant colours. In the coats & jackets sale you’ll find plenty of durable winter coats that will brighten up any outfit while keeping the chills at bay.

The Barbour sale mixes cool quilted jackets with waterproof winter coats, like this zip up waterproof parka.

Barbour waterproof parka, was £199 now £140, 30% off

Whether you’re getting your Christmas shopping done early, or stocking up for change of season clothing, this is a great way to shop the sales and avoid a shopping center meltdown!


*collaborative post
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Starting Your Nest Egg Late in the Shadow of Brexit

The Brexit vote reverberated loudly across Britain. We are still dealing with the aftermath of the shock of it all. Everyone was affected in some way but it seems none were more immediately affected by Brexit than those who have already retired.

Man at computer surrounded by investment books


Declining value in savings

As part of their savings strategy, many retirees had IRAs (Individual Retirement Accounts) and savings in the pound. Post-Brexit, they have seen their portfolios decrease in value when the pound fell after the Brexit vote. The decline in the value of the pound has largely levelled off at the moment, but the overall value of the currency has not rebounded. The consequence of this is many retirees holding IRAs that will likely not see growth for quite some time.

What if you’re behind on your retirement savings? How can you catch up in the shadow of Brexit when your time is getting short? Don’t despair: there are steps you can take to get your retirement back on track.

Protect what you have

No one can say for certain what Britain’s economic future will look like. No government exit plan has yet been unveiled. Those who have already retired or have begun a savings portfolio need to first take steps to protect the investments they have. The best way to do that is to diversify your portfolio. This includes investments in economies outside of Britain.

Section of a Euro banknote


Increase your savings

You’ll need to put aside as much as you can if you’ve gotten behind on your retirement savings. You can calculate how much you can expect from your state pension and how much you’ll need to spend each year to maintain the lifestyle you want.

Once you have your figures in hand, look at how much you’re saving each month, then find a way to increase it by as much as you possibly can.

If your employer offers a pension plan, increase your contributions each month. If it is a plan that includes employer matching contributions, you need to put as much as possible into this fund.

Clear your debts

It is just common sense that your money will go further if you don’t have a pile of debts to pay on each month. One way to help catch up if you’re behind on your retirement savings is to pay off your debts as quickly as possible, then take the funds you would normally pay out to debts and add them to your retirement savings.

Downsizing can help

One strategy many people use is to plan to include the value of their homes as part of their retirement. Take a critical look at your home. Do you really need that much space in retirement? If not, consider selling it. Or converting all or part of it into rental property. Renting will give you an additional income in retirement.

With the final stages of Brexit still on the horizon and the continued uncertainty of the repercussions of that historic vote, the best course of action for the people of Britain is simple: don’t panic. Guard your savings through diversifying your portfolio. The rest of the best advice falls along a simple line of reasoning: use some common sense measures and you can weather this Brexit storm.
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