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Tuesday, 3 January 2017

Announcing The Beck Valley Books Reviewers' Choice Book Awards 2016


As you may know, I am a regular reviewer for Beck Valley Books who have just announced their Reviewers' Choice Awards for 2016.  

If you are looking for a new author to follow you're sure to get some great ideas from this list. My personal favourites are the Alex Troutt thrillers by John W. Mefford and the female detective duo, Fab and Madison created by Deborah Brown.  

You're sure to find something you fancy on this list!

Over to Beck Valley ......



Our wonderful tour reviewers cannot wait to share their top picks from 2016 with you all.
So many awesome reads could be posted here today from so many amazing authors but we can only post the Top 10 Favorite Books and the Top 6 Favorite Series that have been chosen, go here to enjoy all our 2016 tour books.

Here we go.....
Celebrating the Beck Valley Books Reviewers Choice Awards for 2016
(for Reviewers SERIES Choice Awards for 2016 scroll down)

1st PLACE
Tru Blue (A sexy stand-alone contemporary romance) by Melissa Foster 



TRU BLUE is a USA Today bestselling stand-alone novel written in the same loving, raw, and emotional voice romance readers have come to love, and the deeply emotional literary prose women's fiction readers have come to expect, from New York Times & USA Today bestselling, award-winning author Melissa Foster.

He wasn't going to fail them. Not now. Not ever...
There's nothing Truman Gritt won't do to protect his family--Including spending years in jail for a crime he didn't commit. When he's finally released, the life he knew is turned upside down by his mother's overdose, and Truman steps in to raise the children she's left behind. Truman's hard, he's secretive, and he's trying to save a brother who's even more broken than he is. He's never needed help in his life, and when beautiful Gemma Wright tries to step in, he's less than accepting. But Gemma has a way of slithering into people's lives and eventually she pierces through his ironclad heart. When Truman's dark past collides with his future, his loyalties will be tested, and he'll be faced with his toughest decision yet.

**CONTENT WARNING: Due to mature content, recommended for readers aged 18+**

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2nd PLACE
Bad Boys for Hire: Nick by Rachelle Ayala



This Christmas, paraplegic Carol Cassidy is caught between the naughty and the nice: a hired Santa and a disabled firefighter.

Carol was an avid mountain climber until an accident left her in a wheelchair. Love is the last thing on her mind until she hires Nick to play Santa. Shocked at the sensations he elicits, she resists him and decides to date a good guy

Nick is drawn to Carol like a magnet to iron, and he sets out to prove that bad boys who hire themselves out can be good boys, too—especially in bed. Carol discovers she’s not dead to passion, but when Nick’s dirty laundry is aired, she regrets choosing the naughty over the nice. Will the spirit of Christmas teach her that sometimes, a huge lump of coal can turn into the brightest diamond of love?

Bad Boys for Hire are fun and exciting stories where love is unexpected, but always delicious. They can be read standalone, but for greater enjoyment, please be sure to check out the other books in the series.

Bad Boys For Hire Series
Bad Boys for Hire: Ryker #1
Bad Boys for Hire: Ken #2
Bad Boys for Hire: Nick  #3

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3rd PLACE
Spring Fling Kitty by Rachelle Ayala (Have A Hart Romance)


Heartbreaker Connor Hart, one of the youngest fire chiefs in the country, is planning on marrying Dr. Elaine Woo, a woman who pretended to cheat on him with his best friend many years ago. She bought him a Dalmatian puppy, he gave her a ring—and the women of San Francisco are about to lose their most eligible bachelor.

Artist and poet Nadine Woo is down on her luck. The cast-off half-sister of Dr. Elaine Woo, she doesn’t measure up, according to her strict and distant father. When Nadine and her mother are about to be evicted from their apartment, she gets an interesting offer from her sister. Seems she’s in need of a little help concerning her relationship with Fire Chief Connor Hart.

As soon as Nadine meets Connor, she knows she’s in for a rough ride. Connor is the fireman who rescued her and her little gray kitten, and she’s never forgotten how safe she felt in his arms.

When Nadine takes her sister’s place at a spring fling weekend with Connor, love ignites, and there’s no going back.

Can a spunky little kitty show Connor and Nadine that doing the wrong thing is sometimes right, especially when it comes to love?

Spring Fling Kitty is Book #3 of the Have A Hart Romance Series. It can be read standalone, although characters from the previous books appear here in supporting roles.

Have a Hart Romance Series 
Christmas Lovebirds, Book #1 
Valentine Hound Dog, Book #2 
Spring Fling Kitty, Book #3

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Voted Reviewers Choice Award for 2016
Playing Catch, A Baseball Romance by Rachelle Ayala



On the field and off the field, bartender Jeanine Jewell plays, collecting one-night stands like baseball cards. She doesn’t need a man, except to curl her toes and make her scream. She’s learned the hard way that the one who cares more is the one who gets hurt—and the last thing she can handle is getting hurt, or having anyone discover her shameful secret.

Scoring women is easy for catcher Kirk Kennedy—they don’t call him “Catch and Release” for nothing. He never goes back for a repeat performance. Being traded to a new city is an opportunity for new adventures—until he runs into Jeanine and she refuses to go home with him. Intrigued, Kirk is determined to catch the elusive blonde and keep her to himself. When he proposes a wingman to wingwoman friends without benefits relationship, he’s surprised she accepts.

The no benefits clause soon falls by the wayside when neither Jeanine or Kirk can resist their explosive chemistry together. But despite the sparks between the sheets, they both refuse to acknowledge they’re anything more than friends.


Everything changes when Kirk discovers his past is the one Jeanine is hiding from.

Trigger Warning: The heroine was sexually abused by her foster father and has flashbacks.

Baseball, Rattlers, Romance Series
Playing the Rookie #1
Playing Without Rules #2
Playing Catch #3

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Voted Reviewers Choice Award for 2016
Mistletoe at Moonglow by Deborah Garner



The Timberton Hotel has always provided a perfect Christmas retreat for regular guests, as well as newcomers. But the small town of Timberton, Montana, hasn't been the same since resident chef and artist, Mist, arrived, bringing a unique new age flavor to the old western town.

When guests check in for the holidays, they bring along worries, fears and broken hearts, unaware that Mist has a way of working magic in people's lives. Old-fashioned time spent together, exquisite food, conversation and a snowball or two offer guests a chance to trade sadness for hope. One thing is certain: no matter how cold winter's grip is on each guest, no one leaves Timberton without a warmer heart.

Available to buy from....
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Voted Reviewers Choice Award for 2016
Bad Boys After Dark: Dylan by Melissa Foster



Bad Billionaires After Dark are a series of stand-alone hot and sexy romances.

Indulge your inner vixen with these sexy billionaires!

Meet the Bad Boys... Four fiercely loyal, sinfully sexy, uber alpha brothers, about to fall head over heels for their leading ladies.

Everything's naughtier after dark...
Sinfully sexy bar owner Dylan Bad has a thing for needy women. He's a savior, a knight in shining armor, and his mighty talented sword has no trouble bringing damsels in distress to their knees. Enter Tiffany Winters, a gorgeous cutthroat sports agent who looks like sex on legs, f**ks like she's passion personified, and wouldn't let a man help her if she were dangling from a ledge and he was her only hope. One night and too much tequila might change their lives forever. The question is, will either one survive?

The Bad Boys are a series of stand-alone romances that may also be enjoyed as part of the larger Love in Bloom series.

**CONTENT WARNING: Due to mature content, recommended for readers aged 18+**

BAD BOYS AFTER DARK 
Mick 
Dylan
Brett (coming soon)

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Voted Reviewers Choice Award for 2016
Touched by Love by Melissa Foster (Love in Bloom: The Remingtons)



Fiercely independent Janie Jansen has always believed there were worse things in life than being blind, and she's spent her life proving it. She's moved away from her overprotective parents, built a life in New York City, and is one of the top technical editors in her company. That is, until an unfortunate accident turns her life upside down and she's forced to give up the very independence she's worked so hard to achieve.


Firefighter Boyd Hudson pushed past his tragic past and is weeks away from accomplishing his ultimate dream―being accepted into medical school. His intense focus on his goal while working three jobs has taken its toll. With a trail of failed relationships behind him, Boyd is painstakingly aware of his limitations and avoids girlfriends completely―a difficult task given his attraction to one of his co-workers.

When Boyd comes to Janie's rescue, she's forced to accept his help, and Janie discovers there's more to the sexy-sounding office flirt than one-liners. Their connection deepens as Janie heals, but it turns out that Janie isn't the only one who needs healing. Boyd's painful past comes back to haunt him, threatening their relationship and forcing Boyd to reevaluate everything he knows about himself.

*** THE REMINGTONS are part of the LOVE IN BLOOM series by New York Times & USA Today bestselling and award-winning author Melissa Foster. This 6-book hot contemporary romance series features alpha male heroes and sexy, empowered women. They’re flawed, funny, passionate, and relatable to readers who enjoy new adult romance, contemporary romance, and women’s fiction. While each book may be read as a standalone, you might enjoy reading the entire Love in Bloom series (The Snow Sisters, The Bradens, Seaside Summers & The Ryders)

**CONTENT WARNING: Due to mature content, recommended for readers aged 18+**

The Remingtons Series
Game of Love #1
Stroke of Love #2
Flames of Love #3
Slope of Love #4
Read, Write, Love #5
Touched by Love #6

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Voted Reviewers Choice Award for 2016
Crushing on Love by Melissa Foster (Love in Bloom: The Bradens at Peaceful Harbor)



Steve Johnson is living his life’s passion watching over the Colorado Mountains as a ranger and wildlife consultant. But his peaceful life is upended when overzealous and insanely beautiful Shannon Braden flits back into his life after returning from a brief trip home to Maryland. He thought his attraction to her was under control—after all, she’s only in Colorado temporarily, and he doesn’t do casual affairs.

Shannon’s return to Colorado has as much to do with the game of cat and mouse she and Steve have been playing as it does the data she’s been hired to collect. But despite her efforts to explore the undeniable heat simmering between them, Steve’s intent on keeping his distance. 

When a ranch abutting the national park goes up for sale, Steve will do whatever it takes to keep it from falling into the wrong hands. And when all his attempts fail, he’s left with no alternative but to follow Shannon’s guidance into the online world he abhors in order to raise the funds. The more time they spend together, the deeper their attraction becomes, and a game of cat and mouse turns into an unstoppable connection. But when Shannon’s assignment comes to an end, will it mean an end to them, too?

CRUSHING ON LOVE is part of the Love in Bloom series. While this can be read as a stand-alone novel, for even more reading enjoyment you may want to read the entire Love in Bloom series in series order.

**CONTENT WARNING: Due to mature content, recommended for readers aged 18+**

Love in Bloom: The Bradens at Peaceful Harbor
Healed by Love #1
Surrender My Love #2
River of Love #3
Crushing on Love #4
Whisper of Love #5

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Voted Reviewers Choice Award for 2016
Executed in Paradise by Deborah Brown (Paradise Series)




When a body turns up at the Cottages, Madison and Fab are on the case. But when the killer makes a habit of discarding bodies on Madison’s property… it’s personal.

While on the hunt for the killer, the duo track down a double-crossing bail jumper, repossess a Lamborghini, and Madison lands her first case.

As more bodies pop up, the cops are eager to name a suspect. When a close friend is arrested as the prime suspect, Madison and Fab will stop at nothing to prove her innocence, but will they be too late?

Executed in Paradise, the ninth book in the scorching Paradise series about best friends who maintain the peace in the paradise of Tarpon Cove through unconventional ­– and highly entertaining – measures.

The Paradise series, are Florida Keys mysteries, “great as stand-alone reads, but they're like chips...you won't be able to devour just one!”


Paradise Series
Crazy in Paradise #1
Deception in Paradise #2
Trouble in Paradise #3
Murder in Paradise #4
Greed in Paradise #5
Kidnapped in Paradise #6
Revenge in Paradise #7
Swindled in Paradise #8
Hurricane in Paradise #9

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Voted Reviewers Choice Award for 2016
Seaside Whispers by Melissa Foster (Love in Bloom: Seaside Summers)


Voted Beck Valley Books Reviewers Favorite Mini Series from the Love in Bloom Series in 2014

Featuring a group of fun, sexy, and emotional friends who gather each summer at their Cape Cod cottages. They're funny, flawed, and will have you begging to enter their circle of friends. 

In Seaside Whispers
Having a mad crush on her boss's son, Matt Lacroux--an intriguing mix of proper gentleman and flirtatious bad boy--is probably not the smartest idea for single mother Mira Savage. Especially when the company, and her job, is already on shaky ground. But as a Princeton professor, Matt's life is hours away from Mira's home on Cape Cod, keeping him safely in the fantasy-only zone. And as a single mother to six-year-old Hagen, with a floundering company to save, fantasies are all she has time for.

With hopes of becoming dean off the table, and too many months of longing for a woman who lived too far away to pursue, Matt's publishing contract couldn't have come at a better time. He heads home to Cape Cod on a brief sabbatical, intent on starting his book, and finally getting his arms around sweet, seductive Mira. 

A surprise encounter leads to white-hot passions and midnight confessions. The more time Matt and Mira spend together, the deeper their relationship grows, and the love and attention Matt showers on Hagen is more than she has ever dreamed of. But Matt's sabbatical is only temporary, and Mira's not saving his father's company so she can leave it behind. Will their whispers of love be enough for one of them to change their life forever?

SEASIDE WHISPERS is part of the SEASIDE SUMMERS series, and part of the "Love in Bloom" family. Each book may be read as a stand-alone novel, or as part of the series.

**CONTENT WARNING: Due to mature content, recommended for readers aged 18+**

Seaside Summers
Seaside Dreams #1
Seaside Hearts #2
Seaside Sunsets #3
Seaside Secrets #4
Seaside Nights #5
Seaside Embrace #6
Seaside Lovers #8
Seaside Whispers #9

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Celebrating the Beck Valley Books Reviewers SERIES Choice Awards for 2016

1st PLACE
Bad Boys After Dark by Melissa Foster 

Meet the Bad Boys... Four fiercely loyal, sinfully sexy, uber alpha brothers, about to fall head over heels for their leading ladies.  

Bad Billionaires After Dark are a series of stand-alone hot and sexy romances.  Indulge your inner vixen with these sexy billionaires!

      

More After Dark books available now...

Find Bad Boys After Dark on the authors website HERE

About the author

Melissa Foster is a New York Times & USA Today bestselling and award-winning author. She writes sexy and heartwarming contemporary romance, new adult romance (M/F, M/M, F/F), romantic suspense, thrillers, and historical fiction with emotionally compelling characters that stay with you long after you turn the last page. Melissa's emotional journeys are lovingly erotic and always family oriented. Her books have been recommended by USA Today's book blog, Hagerstown Magazine, The Patriot, and several other print venues. She is the founder of the World Literary Café. When she's not writing, Melissa helps authors navigate the publishing industry through her author training programs on Fostering Success.

Melissa has painted and donated several murals to The Hospital for Sick Children in Washington, DC. Her interests include her family, reading, writing, painting, friends, helping others see the positive side of life, and visiting Cape Cod.

Melissa is available to chat with book clubs and welcomes comments and emails from her readers. Visit Melissa on Facebook or her personal website.

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2nd PLACE
The Bradens at Peaceful Harbor
Love in Bloom by Melissa Foster 

Meet the Bradens of Peaceful Harbor. Hot, sexy, & wickedly naughty second cousins to the Weston, Colorado Bradens.

The Bradens at Peaceful Harbor are part of the Love in Bloom big-family romance collection by New York Times Bestselling author Melissa Foster. They can be read as stand-alone novels or as part of the series.   Characters from each sub-series appear in future books.

            

Find The Bradens on the authors website HERE

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3rd PLACE
Bad Boys For Hire by Rachelle Ayala

Bad Boys for Hire are fun and exciting stories where love is unexpected, but always delicious. They can be read standalone, but for greater enjoyment, please be sure to check out the other books in the series.

       


Find Bad Boys For Hire on the authors website HERE

About the author


Rachelle Ayala is a bestselling author of dramatic romantic suspense and humorous, sexy contemporary romances. Her heroines are feisty and her heroes hot. She writes emotionally challenging stories but believes in the power of love and hope. 

Rachelle is an active member of the California Writer's Club, Fremont Chapter, and a volunteer for the World Literary Cafe. She is a very happy woman and lives in California with her husband. She has three children and has taught violin and made mountain dulcimers.

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Voted Reviewers SERIES Choice Award for 2016

Seaside Summers

Love in Bloom by Melissa Foster 

Voted Beck Valley Books Reviewers Favorite Mini Series from the Love in Bloom Series in 2014.

Featuring a group of fun, sexy, and emotional friends who gather each summer at their Cape Cod cottages. They're funny, flawed, and will have you begging to enter their circle of friends. 

Seaside Summers are part of the Love in Bloom big-family romance collection by New York Times Bestselling author Melissa Foster. They can be read as stand-alone novels or as part of the series.   

                    

Find Seaside Summers on the authors website HERE

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Voted Reviewers SERIES Choice Award for 2016
Alex Troutt by John W Mefford

All of the Alex Troutt novels can be read as a stand-alone, although there is a connecting thread in the  Redemption Thriller Collection, which Alex Troutt is part of,  that will be unveiled over time. For a more fulfilling reading experience, books should be read in order: Alex Troutt, and then Ivy Nash. More series will be added into the collection shortly.

    
    

Find Alex Troutt on the authors website HERE


About the Author



A veteran of the corporate wars, former journalist, and true studier of human and social behavior, best-selling author John W. Mefford has been writing novels since he first entered the work force twenty-five years ago, although he never put words on paper until late 2009.

John writes novels full of intrigue, suspense, and thrills, but they also evoke an emotional connection with the characters.

When he’s not writing, he chases three kids around, slaves away in the yard, reads, takes in as many sports as time allows, watches all sorts of movies, and continues to make mental notes of people and societies across the land.

John lives in Frisco, Texas with his beautiful wife, three opinionated kids, and a feisty fat cat who rules the world.
Find John on the following sites....


Voted Reviewers SERIES Choice Award for 2016
Paradise Series by Deborah Brown

The Paradise series, are Florida Keys mysteries that will take you on a high-speed thrill ride through non-stop action, steamy romance, and dark intrigue, and leave you begging for more.

“great as stand-alone reads, but they're like chips...you won't be able to devour just one!”

                

Find the Paradise Series on the authors website HERE


About the Author




I've been writing, in one way or another for as long as I can remember; writing poetry, short stories, a romance novel secretly stashed under the bed and sappy love letters. Fiction should be fun. I wanted to create the perfect beach book, to make the reader laugh, cry and cheer... and then run out and tell their friends about it.

My love of reading began when I was seven, the day I opened the cover of my first Mrs. Piggle Wiggle book. Mrs. P gave lessons to other children in how to behave and to me I learned to love the written word. I live with my family and demon children aka rescue cats in South Florida.

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Sunday, 1 January 2017

My Favourite Posts of 2016

Well it was a grim old year for some and it certainly had its ups and downs for us but here are my favourite posts of 2016.

Here's hoping we all have a happy and prosperous 2017!

JANUARY

Lots of us find ourselves spending more time with our other halves than usual which occasion causes tempers to flare. Particularly when figuring out how to set up an X Box and negotiating later bedtimes with the kids.




FEBRUARY

As a sufferer from Tinnitus and Hypercusis, I occasionally find I'm focused on a noise I just can't place.  And, it seems, I'm not alone.  More and more of us are reporting hearing strange noises which sound like the hum of a machine reverberating across whole towns in some places.





MARCH

I wrote this post in praise of poetry whilst wondering why we don't rate this amazing creative skill as highly as more practical talents - like computer coding (which is the Husband's job).




APRIL

In April I found myself wondering why some pregnant women get so incensed about attention being drawn to their bump.  Since I had my kids so late (at 43 and 45) I was always incredibly proud and pleased whenever anyone mentioned my increasing girth!




MAY

The Husband spends quite a bit of time working away and in May I found myself pondering what I've learned from my experience of 'faux single parenthood', if you see what I mean.  Coping on your own gives you a great insight into how hard single mums and dads work to bring up their little ones.




JUNE

We made a special effort this year to save some cash for Christmas by following Skint Dad's Penny Challenge where you save the same number of pence per day that corresponds to the number of the day in the year - so, for example, on 31st Jan you save 31p and on the 1st of Feb you save 32p and so on.  June is a good time to check the balances and see if you're on track with your annual budget and it's not too late to start a mini savings plan to help cope with the worst excesses of the festive season.




JULY

In July we were lucky enough to be able to attend a production of "The Hunting Of The Snark", an adaptation of the Lewis Carroll poem, at the Sherman Theatre in Cardiff.  The kids love going to the theatre and there is nothing quite like the magic of a live production.  This one was excellent and one of my New Year's Resolutions is to attend many more productions this year.




AUGUST

Ah.  The long summer school holiday.  It normally starts off so well but by the end of 6 weeks, I'm sure lots of us parents heave a quiet sigh of relief - which led me to pen the handy guide below.




SEPTEMBER

There's a chill in the air about now and it's time to batten down the hatches and get the house more energy efficient for the autumn.  These tips to save money on your energy bills apply all year round though.





OCTOBER

This month we worked with Aquafresh to make sure the kids' dental hygiene was up to scratch. Luckily both Caitlin and Ieuan had a clean bill of dental health at their last check-up.




NOVEMBER

Colder weather demands warmer meals, doesn't it?  In November we practised our family cookery using a cookery book produced by nursery provider Bright Horizons Family Solutions.  I thought we did rather well.



DECEMBER

This month, aside from the usual festive shenanigans, I found myself pondering whether the current decluttering obsession started by Marie Kondo in her book "The Life Changing Magic of Tidying" might be going a little too far.

Some things are too precious ever to be given away.  We've told the kids we're keeping them (as long as they behave).



So there you have it.  My twelve favourite posts of the year.  Don't forget that I also regularly run great giveaways and offer my unique advice (!) on my problem page.

Happy New Year!
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Saturday, 31 December 2016

How To Finally Stick To Those New Year's Resolutions

If you're like me, you are likely to be one of the estimated 30% of the UK population who will make a New Year’s resolution of some kind by January 1st. That’s approx 12.4 billion people and nearly half of those self promises will relate to health and exercise - the most popular being to lose weight and get fit.

The problem is, stats show that over 500,000 of us who make New Year's resolutions will have broken them by the 2nd of January!

So why do we do it? Are our goals just totally unrealistic in the first place? Are we a nation of dreamers who think things will come easy to us?

Woman doing yoga by the sea


The key lies in the way we make our resolutions. American self help author Melody Beattie says ‘The new year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals.’

Nutritionist Zoe Martin at Discount Supplements advises that a great way to interpret this is to break our goals down into smaller, manageable steps so that we won't get discouraged and give up too easily.

Says Zoe, ‘If your goal is to lose 3 stone then break it down and make it more achievable. Set yourself a target weight to lose over the course of a month, and set smaller targets in between such as going to the gym twice a week or not eating takeaways. These small resolutions will change your behavior in the long term and can really feel like you are making progress, rather than think the challenge is just too great and giving up within days.’

Here are some more tips from Zoe you might like to use when setting your New Year's resolutions.

1. Be realistic

Be realistic about your resolutions. If you can actually see yourself achieving it then it is more likely that you will stick to it. 63% of people that start New Year’s resolutions fail within the first month so keep it realistic and don’t lie to yourself.

2. Make it measurable

It can be inspiring and fun to have an ambitious goal but if you can’t tell if you are getting closer to achieving it then you will fail. For example; you can’t exactly measure how happy you are but you can measure how many nice or good things you have done for others in the past week.

3. Never doubt yourself

While working towards your goal, you must always believe you can do it. If you doubt yourself, you will start to become complacent and will slowly give up. If you allow yourself to take a break even for a small period of time you will most likely never get back to working on achieving your goal.

Having a list up on the wall of what your goals are and how you plan to achieve them will help stop you from giving up. For example have it on the wall facing you when you wake up, it will keep it fresh in your mind so you won’t start to forget or doubt yourself.

New Year's Resolutions Infographic from Discount Supplements


4. Keep it short

This happens more often than you think, where people set themselves extremely long term goals that can be very difficult for many people to stick too. This is purely because the more time it takes to achieve the goal the more time you have to quit before you achieve it.

For example; it appears easier to stop drinking carbonated drinks for 6 weeks than trying to stop for an entire year.

5. Create small challenges

After you have been working towards your set goal, you can start to give yourself small challenges to keep you from slipping into laziness. It could be a simple challenge like adding an extra 5 minutes to your workout or not checking your social media accounts until the evening.

6. Get a friend involved

If you can have a friend trying to achieve the same goal will help keep both of you on track. This buddy system helps both of you as to not let each other down by giving up or putting it off.

Discount Supplement's Fitness adviser Luke Thornton has worked with Zoe to create a guide on sticking to your resolutions and meeting your goals which you can download here.

The most important step is setting up a cue to remind yourself of your resolution each day - for example leaving your running shoes by the back door - and of course you need to reward yourself (in a healthy way!) for committing to changing your habits.

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Friday, 30 December 2016

London's Calling! Why You Must Visit England's Capital City In 2017

Have you made any big plans for 2017 yet? If not, why not get a little culture in your life by taking a trip to London?

It’s one of those cities that really does have absolutely everything, with thousands of years of history combined with some incredibly cool modern architecture, a plethora of incredible restaurants to eat and hotels to stay at, and a diverse, multicultural vibe that means that absolutely everyone feels welcome here.

Here are some of our top reasons that you must visit London…

Incredible Nightlife 

Picadilly Circus, London at night
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Everyone says that New York is the city that doesn’t sleep, but if you go to London any night of the week, you’ll see that the same is true there as well! London is the sort of city that’s truly alive all night long – party on Brick Lane or in Soho before taking one of London’s famous black cabs back to your hotel. The Underground now runs all night, if you feel like being adventurous!

Museums To Visit


Museum interior
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London is home to some of the best museums and galleries in the world – and happily, they’re all free (although it’s advised that you make a small donation of £5). The British Museum is near Tottenham Court Road and is home to a truly spectacular glass domed central hall along with exhibits from all over the world, while the Science Museum and the Natural History Museum are next door to each other in South Kensington and some of the most popular tourist attractions in the city. You could also go to Buckingham Palace or the Tower of London if you really want to explore an incredible slice of history.

The West End


Globe Theatre, London
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If you’re at all interested in theatre, then London’s West End is up there with Broadway. You could go to any one of a number of brilliant shows, from The Curious Incident Of The Dog In The Night Time to Jersey Boys to Wicked to Les Miserables. If you’re interested in a more cultural experience, check out what’s on at the Globe, the National Theatre or the Soho Theatre.

Restaurants To Go To


London eateries
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One of the sheer joys of London is the huge variety of restaurants that you can go to. There are plenty of great pubs serving hearty, wholesome British food, but it’s the range of worldwide cuisines that really make London a gastronomic force to be reckoned with. It’s been said that curry is the national food of the UK, so check out the Gourmet guide’s best London restaurants to find out where exactly would be best for you and your family to visit.

It’s Easy To Get To The Rest Of Europe


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One of the best parts of visiting any European city is how easy it is to get elsewhere. London is home to a number of major airports that will take you pretty much anywhere, along with the Eurostar that can take you to Paris from St Pancras. Use London as a hub to explore the rest of the world, with cheap fares to cities like Madrid, Rome and Berlin.
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Thursday, 29 December 2016

My Problem Page - What Was I Asked In Week 52?

This week I'm talking about mums who prioritise their boyfriends over their kids and what to do when the venue for your second date isn't as stylish as you'd like.

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If you would like any advice, feel free to message me or pop a comment in the comment box at the end of this post. I promise to be gentle.

Here's this week's questions.

Q: What are some of the sly ways your ex-narcissistic lover will use to try and get back with you after the person he dumped you for dumps him?

A: Does it matter what the reasons are or did you mean ways? 

Whichever, if you don’t want to get back with this person then you won’t. 

I get the sense that you want to make this person pay for dumping you but that will really just stoke their ego further. 

Any interest you show them whether good or back will make them think you are still interested. 

If you are then you need to ask yourself why you’d want someone back who is just likely to dump you again without any remorse. 

If you’re not interested then allow yourself a moment of smugness and move swiftly on.

Q: Should I leave my boyfriend OR ask him to change as he often lets me walk alone in the hotel at 2am (apart from that, he’s a great lover)? 

We had a one week trip with friends. I stayed with my female friend and he got a single room. I came to his room every night and then walked back to my room at 2am—there was no one in the hotel, it was too scary for me (from 6th floor to 1st floor). It’s been the 3rd trip like that but he never walks with me.

A: Well you are making it easy for him, aren’t you? 

All he has to do is wait for you to turn up and then presumably happily go back to sleep whilst you make the scary journey back to your room alone. 

There’s more to being a good boyfriend than just being a great lover - and frankly if he’s happy for you to go back on your own he’s not that great. 

How does he treat you otherwise? Is he kind, considerate, thoughtful? If the answer to that is no, then I’d stop making yourself so available until he learns a little respect. 

And what does your female friend think about you leaving her every night? I’ll bet she’s not too thrilled about it either. 

Is your boyfriend not prepared to go on a trip with just the two of you? And if not, why not? 

You ask whether you should leave your boyfriend but, at the moment, he’s really not behaving like a boyfriend, is he?

Q: Do your misdeeds come back to haunt you in the form of bad luck for you?

A: No - that’s a superstition but perhaps bad luck does follow us when we cause another harm or do a bad deed because we miss the opportunity to be a good person, a kind person, a person of note.

There’s a quote “you don’t have to do the work of the gods” which means that rather than join the wrong-doer by exacting revenge (and possibly doing a misdeed yourself), generally, Karma will sort these people out. 

Not always, but often. 

Otherwise, I believe the universe is random and we all get a share of luck, both good and bad. 

The trick is to recognise which is which.

Q: Why does my people pleasing mum choose boyfriends over her adult kids?

A: There’s a little resentment in the tone of your question and I wonder if this was a theme throughout your childhood? 

Some people feel incomplete without a partner because they can’t cope on their own. 

Or they have so little self esteem that they need somebody to shore them up. 

If a woman’s kids have reached adulthood and left home, she may suffer from “empty nest syndrome” where she literally does not know what to do with herself. 

If you want your mum to do something for you, support you, visit you, attend events , listen to you, I would suggest you take her out for a coffee and tell her how you feel (without the boyfriend). 

It might be that she doesn’t realise how her actions affect you. 

But, since you are adult, you do have to bear in mind that she has the right to live her life as she sees fit - even if her mothering skills are under par. 

If her actions are making her embarrassing to be around and others have noticed, does she have a close friend you could get on side to have a chat with her - not to remonstrate but to gently offer some guidance and support?

Q: How many children can you have in your 30's?

A: Theoretically you could have one every 9 months assuming you conceived immediately afterwards.


Life, of course, isn’t quite like that, particularly since doctors tell us that a woman’s fertility starts to reduce from about 35 onwards - and the risk of birth abnormalities starts to increase year on year. 

I had my children at 43 and 45 and I consider myself very lucky. The reason I left it so late was simply because I had not met the right man. 

If you are in a happy stable relationship and wondering whether now is the time to try for a baby, that is something you must discuss with your partner. 

It also often surprises women how long it takes to conceive. It is frequently not the case of sex and then boom, baby is on its way. It can take a year or more sometimes - depending on your fertility, your partner’s and how healthy you both are. 

I would also say that it will be the mother’s life that will be impacted the most in terms of career, health and lifestyle. Babies also, of course, cost a bit of money. 

If I had my time over and met my husband in my twenties, I would definitely have started a family then. 

I’d advise women entering their thirties to seriously consider how they feel about having kids and when the best time is likely to be. 

A thorough medical check-up is also a good idea particularly if you have already had gynae issues such as polycystic ovaries. 

Don’t be fooled into thinking that because it is possible to have babies in your forties that it is possible for you. 

It’s one of life’s great ironies that although age no longer matters in many areas, we have not yet managed to extend a woman’s natural fertility and assisted reproduction is expensive and not available to all.

Q: I was looking forward to a 2nd date with a man but he doesn't text much or pursue and chose a cheapy place for dinner. Should I go tonight with him? 


I was excited after our date and he texted to ask me out for next week. Then I texted and he took a whole day to answer and doesn't seem crazy about me. He chose a crappy place for dinner tonight and I like stylish places and he doesn't even offer to pick me up. Am I just anxious and feel pressure?

A: There’s a lot of focus in your question about how much the man is going to spend. 

You say he chose a “cheapy place” for dinner and that you like “stylish places”. Perhaps he does not earn much money and, if he suspects that you just want his company just for a nice dinner in a stylish place, I’m afraid he won’t be pursuing you too hard. No man wants to be treated like a meal ticket.

Taking a whole day to answer is hardly a crime either - I’m assuming this man has a job and other responsibilities? 

After just one date you hardly know each other so if you really like this man then give him a chance. 

There’s no reason why you couldn’t suggest a more stylish place if you make it to a third date, is there? Or, if he is strapped for cash, offer to cook him a meal? 

If, though, after the second date, he still seems uninterested and he doesn’t ensure you get home safely then I’d assume he really isn’t that keen.

How would you have responded to these questions? I'd love to know. You can find more advice on my problem page.

Disclaimer: All materials included in this post are intended for informational purposes only. This post/information is not intended to and should not be used to replace medical or psychiatric advice offered by physicians or other health care providers. The author will not be liable for any direct, indirect, consequential, special, exemplary or other damages arising therefrom.
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